Intro Post? Do we do those?

[carowen]

Hi - I'm a longtime lurker, very sporadic poster, on CEP. STBXH and I are in the very beginnings of separating/divorcing. He cheatedx2 (at least), turns out the second time was the deal breaker.  We have two kids, 2y and 5y.

::waves::

No real point other than to say hello. I've been lurking a bit but figured I'd post an intro before posting.

[glitzyglow]

Hello! I know it isn't ideal to be here, but you are in good company. Welcome!

[bg]

Sorry you're in this situation, but welcome!

[glynn]

Sorry, be there done that. It's no fun but things will be better in time.

[arielroux]

Sorry you find yourself here, but welcome!

I was cheated on as well, and it's such a shitty feeling. Just keep reminding yourself that you'll be fine, and you're better off.

[1confused1]

Welcome! Sorry you are here

[LoveBug]

Sorry you are here, but the ladies here are lovely. Welcome.

[Deleted]

Hello there. Welcome. Sorry he's a jerk. Many of us here have ex-jerks.

[carowen]

Thanks for the warm welcome! Sorry to have posted/ran got busy at work/etc.

Sorry you're all here too but I'm confident things will be better eventually. Keeping my hopes up for a smooth D. I meet with the lawyer next week to get the process started. Still debating whether to tell h now, and get his input on dividing things or to just file. Sigh.

[statlerwaldorf]

Hi. I was cheated on by my exh too. We had a 6 year old and a baby at the time.

[sweetchix]

Welcome to the board.

[itsmyparty]

Jun 8, 2016 18:00:08 GMT -5 carowen said:

Thanks for the warm welcome! Sorry to have posted/ran got busy at work/etc.

Sorry you're all here too but I'm confident things will be better eventually. Keeping my hopes up for a smooth D. I meet with the lawyer next week to get the process started. Still debating whether to tell h now, and get his input on dividing things or to just file. Sigh.

Just to put in my .02 - hope you don't mind - I'd meet with your attorney first and get any advice from him/her before you tell husband. Write out any questions you have for the attorney, and think about what you would want in terms of assets, and then bounce those off your legal representation first. I know after I met with my attorney she had some advice for me - things to start doing, take care of, etc. before I filed.

Good luck to you! My divorce was just final this week after 8 months.

[carowen]

itsmyparty, thanks for the advice - I don't mind at all! I've been googling how to tell your spouse you want a divorce(hahaha) and most advice online seems to say tell before file to help things stay civil? But my gut has said keep it under my hat until after my appointment. He knows I'm done, so I'm not sure that it will come as a shock at this point but who knows. Denial is strong.

[thedutchgirl]

Welcome. I'm sorry you are here.

My two cents are to tell him before you actually file and he's served, but wait until after you've met with the lawyer.

[stephreloaded]

Jun 10, 2016 9:37:37 GMT -5 carowen said:

itsmyparty , thanks for the advice - I don't mind at all! I've been googling how to tell your spouse you want a divorce(hahaha) and most advice online seems to say tell before file to help things stay civil? But my gut has said keep it under my hat until after my appointment. He knows I'm done, so I'm not sure that it will come as a shock at this point but who knows. Denial is strong.

There is time from your initial consultation to the moment you file for divorce. Meet with your attorney first and prepare all documentation before telling him anything.