When you & your friends age

[MixedBerryJam]

Jun 12, 2016 18:03:44 GMT -5 mryrcn said:

I had to politely tell my girlfriend that she had a huge white hair hanging from her chin today. We are pretty new friends. She wasn't offended & was thankful.

It's funny what we help each other out with now versus when we were in our 20's.

20's: Hey friend, I can see a pube sticking out from your bikini!
50's: Hey friend, you might want to pluck that white chin hair!

Now that you mention it I can see the difference. 

[Mrs.Rad888]

I have a hair like that on my neck, of all places, but luckily it's pretty much invisible. 
I have a friend who is in her early 30's, and she has naturally dark hair. I want to tell her about the facial epilator I just got, which I love, but she hasn't said anything about her facial hair, and I wouldn't want to make her self-conscious about it, so I'll just keep it to myself unless she asks.

ETA: I don't want to mention my epilator just because of her hair, I'm not that much of a bitch. I actually do like having it!

[mrsukyankee]

I don't have any close friends around my age, which is a bitch. All the 30 something year olds whining about a single grey hair. I just give them a look.

[treedimensional]

OMG, please don't start about the postmenopausal facial hair. Nobody warned me I would sprout coarse black whiskers from my chin. WTF. It's demoralizing.

[Pom]

I think your real friends tell you like it is. It's like old lady code. Being mortified was a ship that passed a while back.

[mmp]

Jun 14, 2016 12:44:03 GMT -5 treedimensional said:

OMG, please don't start about the postmenopausal facial hair. Nobody warned me I would sprout coarse black whiskers from my chin. WTF. It's demoralizing.

Electrolysis, baby, electrolysis. Been going for years.....

[treedimensional]

Jun 15, 2016 5:25:44 GMT -5 mmp said:

Jun 14, 2016 12:44:03 GMT -5 treedimensional said:

OMG, please don't start about the postmenopausal facial hair. Nobody warned me I would sprout coarse black whiskers from my chin. WTF. It's demoralizing.

Electrolysis, baby, electrolysis. Been going for years.....

I hate to ask how much that costs, because Botox is around $400 a pop, and IPL runs about $120 a month if I want to keep the age spots hidden. My cosmetic routine has definitely changed from the powder and mascara days.

[mmp]

Jun 15, 2016 9:09:54 GMT -5 treedimensional said:

Jun 15, 2016 5:25:44 GMT -5 mmp said:

Electrolysis, baby, electrolysis. Been going for years.....

I hate to ask how much that costs, because Botox is around $400 a pop, and IPL runs about $120 a month if I want to keep the age spots hidden. My cosmetic routine has definitely changed from the powder and mascara days.

Lol. I pay $60 for half an hour near Annapolis. You go every few weeks upfront bc of the lifecycle of hair, but then only for touchups. I had my chin, 'stache, and eyebrows done. 

[mmp]

Jun 17, 2016 0:50:32 GMT -5 @foodielicious said:

mmp mind if I ask where you go? I'm about an hour away from Annapolis but seriously struggling to find a good practitioner. It's a dying art.

Bernie at Magothy Electrolysis in Arnold. Her clients travel from VA and DE.

If you get it done, do yourself a favor and get numbing cream. You have to put it on an hour before so I suggest asking for the ointment. Otherwise you have to drive with white cream on your face.

[mmp]

Jun 17, 2016 9:21:28 GMT -5 @foodielicious said:

mmp , Oh I've had lots of experience.  My grandmother was a practitioner for years and started on my eyebrows at 16.  "Eyebrows, there should be two!". 

I've dealt with hair issues for years (thanks PCOS!) and used to have 2 great people, but the first one quit to go to nursing school.  I found the second after a couple of years and she retired a few years ago.  I tried the person who replaced her but was not happy with how she handled the initial appointment and she wasn't as particular about hygiene so that got a big nope from me and I've been searching for someone ever since.  I don't have the big issues any more, but I do have a couple of strays that I am tired of having sneak up on me.  Not to mention, I'm in my early 40's in the not to distant future,  I'll be battling this full force again, be nice to already be in with someone lol.

So big thank you for the recommendation, I'll check it out. 

I actually had quite a tolerance to pain built up by the end, the only place I needed the cream was my upper lip and even then yeowch, but no pain no gain.

I think you'll be happy with Bernie. Upper lip, right under the nose is the worst!
I'm in my late 40s and Bernie can tell when my hormones are kicking in by how much she has to remove since the last appt. lol. 
Good luck! 

[heliocentric]

Jun 14, 2016 12:44:03 GMT -5 treedimensional said:

OMG, please don't start about the postmenopausal facial hair. Nobody warned me I would sprout coarse black whiskers from my chin. WTF. It's demoralizing.

I am not postmenopausal yet and I already have an abundance of coarse, dark chin hairs in the last few years. I will probably have a fully beard post-menopause.

[treedimensional]

heliocentric, you're in for a treat. One that is not confined to the chin, by the way. Or to the face....

[heliocentric]

Jun 17, 2016 16:56:30 GMT -5 treedimensional said:

heliocentric, you're in for a treat. One that is not confined to the chin, by the way. Or to the face....

I'm going pretend I never heard this!

[mryrcn]

Jul 19, 2016 14:58:55 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I said:

This is a super old thread but I didn't want to start a new one.
I just had coffee with a friend. She's a few years older than me, mid 50s or so. I only now realize she is obsessed with her ailments (by that I mean the little things that happen when you get older) . She can talk in great detail about doctor visits and medicines and etc. She takes 12 pills per day. Fish oils etc. She was so excited to tell me what kind of mouth guard to buy and how I should gargle with hydrogen peroxide. I'm not doing that.
I don't Want Ailments. I never want to talk about ailments.

My in laws talk about their ailments but they are 82!!

[mrsukyankee]

My mom talks about her ailments all the time (in her 70s) and my MIL talks about other people's ailments (also in 70s). My neighbours, who are good friends and in 80s, tend to talk about ailments. I know I'll be there eventually but I definitely do NOT want to be that person in her 50s.

My sports friends talk about ailments - but that's from playing and we get injured. I find that to be different for some reason.

[Linie]

I have a 33 year old friend who talks about ailments and wrinkles and feeling old. She's wonderful and a true friend, but when she starts, I shut her down in 0.5 seconds!

[TBM]

Jul 20, 2016 3:29:38 GMT -5 mrsukyankee said:

My mom talks about her ailments all the time (in her 70s) and my MIL talks about other people's ailments (also in 70s). My neighbours, who are good friends and in 80s, tend to talk about ailments. I know I'll be there eventually but I definitely do NOT want to be that person in her 50s.

My sports friends talk about ailments - but that's from playing and we get injured. I find that to be different for some reason.

My mom told me I sounded old, complaining to her about my back and neck bothering me.  I reminded her that my neck issues are from a car accident when I was seven, and that she was driving (not her fault, and she actually saved my life by having me move up to the front seat, since the back seat where I had been laying was sliced in half), that I injured my back when I was in my thirties....and that I hadn't had problems with either for a long time and mentioned it because she asked what I had been up to.  She gave me a pass. lol

My mom complains about a lot, but not ailments, because she doesn't share that information.  I figure that she doesn't really have much else going on to talk about, so to her, complaining is her contribution to conversation and for others, ailments are all they've got.