okay, tulip, i get where you are coming from. i often have this problem with my dogs when they don't want to give up something they shouldn't have. my solution is this: i wave a treat in the air, get their attention and throw it several feet away so i have time to swoop in and grab the item. try this with a cookie or other toddler-safe snack. hth.
No the Fire is for ME & will be MINE. This all started because of the 21 hour car trip to move. She started playing with it in the car & now it's a fight/holy unbelievable tantrum fit to get it back. It's an older model & H was talking about getting a new tablet & I settled on the Fire.
Does she go to day care or play groups. She should understand taking turns at this age if she does. Rocco didn't really understand sharing as much as he understood taking turns. Of she won't fork it over take it away and put her in time out. She'll learn. Also, why get the kindle if you have an iPad? I use the iPad reader (or whatever it's called). Having both seems redundant.
Because instead of setting limits and teaching her child no, I'm assuming that she's planning giving her child either the iPad or the kindle fire.
Look it's the one thing that just isn't worth the fight. But I'll start being more firm.
Time for Mrs. Obvious to swoop in and deduce that there is more going on here than the iPad sharing problem....
Yes actually, we just moved 1200 miles away from anything we have ever know & she has just started to stop saying " go home" all day long. The iPad is not that big of a hill right now.
Post by saraandmichael on Sept 4, 2012 18:34:33 GMT -5
tulip, i like you. but this is exactly the one thing to let her get upset over.
you are teaching her several lessons here. allowing her to monopolize the ipad allows her to control the situation. allowing her to keep the ipad when you want it allows her to control the situation. giving in to her temper tantrum to keep the ipad allows her to control the situation.
now multiply all of that times a million over the next 16 years until she is out of the house. and then by a little bit more for when she is out on her own.
changing this now will not only help you, but help her. YOU are the parent. YOU set the rules. YOU set the boundaries. if she wants a turn on the ipad, set a timer for ____ minutes and then when it goes off you tell her "alright, you are all done with your turn!" and smile and take it from her.
this is not a situation of her taking a new toy out of her room without putting one back and it not being worth the fight to deal with the situation. this is a big effing deal.
No the Fire is for ME & will be MINE. This all started because of the 21 hour car trip to move. She started playing with it in the car & now it's a fight/holy unbelievable tantrum fit to get it back. It's an older model & H was talking about getting a new tablet & I settled on the Fire.
Look it's the one thing that just isn't worth the fight. But I'll start being more firm.
You'd rather spend a couple hundred dollars than upset your precious by setting necessary boundaries that in now way endanger her because it's not worth the fight?
Oooookay then. Please update us in 14 years with how that's working out for you.
Yes actually, we just moved 1200 miles away from anything we have ever know & she has just started to stop saying " go home" all day long. The iPad is not that big of a hill right now.
Jeez. I get it, I'm a crappy parent.
You aren't a crappy parent. But dude, she did not move away from everything she's ever known because guess what? She moved with you and her father and her furniture and her toys, and her clothes and her furniture, etc.
Letting her rule the roost because you feel guilty over a move is a bit ridiculous and quite frankly, just a wee bit melodramatic if not lazy.
She's fine. You're fine. But having a hissy fit because mommy took something away is not acceptable. It's not acceptable now and if she doesn't figure that out now, it will be even less acceptable when she's 4, 6, 8, etc.
Post by pinkplasticdoll on Sept 4, 2012 18:40:37 GMT -5
Ya there is no reason for this to be a huge issue, you take it from her and let her have her tantrum then carry on...oooorrr just dont give it to her to begin with. New model or the first generation that is a ridiculously expensive "toy" for her to "play" with.
And I just added you to someone I sideeye on the regular.
Also, look, I'm gonna be straight, you need to buck up over this move. I know it's hard but you can't take every difficulty and fall out like Scarlett O'Hara because Omigosh, I LEFT MY PEOPLE!!!!!
Yes actually, we just moved 1200 miles away from anything we have ever know & she has just started to stop saying " go home" all day long. The iPad is not that big of a hill right now.
Jeez. I get it, I'm a crappy parent.
You aren't a crappy parent. But dude, she did not move away from everything she's ever known because guess what? She moved with you and her father and her furniture and her toys, and her clothes and her furniture, etc.
Letting her rule the roost because you feel guilty over a move is a bit ridiculous and quite frankly, just a wee bit melodramatic if not lazy.
She's fine. You're fine. But having a hissy fit because mommy took something away is not acceptable. It's not acceptable now and if she doesn't figure that out now, it will be even less acceptable when she's 4, 6, 8, etc.
We don't have any of our shit, it's in storage until our house is built. Hmmm
I guess I'll go get her some more toys. AGAIN we do not have nor have access to our stuff.
I'm not sure what she likes to do on the iPad but can't you just get her the Boogie Board thing and make a big deal how now she has one of her very own?
Post by speckledfrog on Sept 4, 2012 18:46:03 GMT -5
When life throws you lemons, blame it on the move! Seriously, you moved when you didn't want to and your moved sucked ass but you need to get past it and stop blaming every sucky thing on the move.
All I'm getting out of this post is that you feel guilty for moving, so you are letting her win.
My kid throws a fit over everything- sleeping, eating, milk, toys he likes, toys he doesn't like, the sun, the moon, the cats not sitting in time out, you name it, he's been reduced to tears over it. You need to quit feeling guilty. She doesn't need more stuff. She needs boundaries now more than she ever has, or it is just going to get worse.