She doesn't need an IPad or any other electronic screen or gadget at this age. If she throws a tantrum, ignore it. If that doesn't work, use time outs.
If she is throwing the tantrum not because you *have* the IPad, but rather because you are using it to routinely ignore her and not giving her any source of self amusement or stimulation, then look at your own behavior.
Buck up buttercup! You'll make it through this challenge :-)
She doesn't need an IPad or any other electronic screen or gadget at this age. If she throws a tantrum, ignore it. IF that doesn't work, use time outs.
If she is throwing the tantrum not because you *have* the IPad, but rather because you are using it to routinely ignore her, then look at your own behavior.
Buck up buttercup! You'll make it through this challenge :-)
LOL if I so much as look at it "it's hers". This whole post is making me feel like the worst parent. It's cool I'll recover.
Time for Mrs. Obvious to swoop in and deduce that there is more going on here than the iPad sharing problem....
Yes actually, we just moved 1200 miles away from anything we have ever know & she has just started to stop saying " go home" all day long. The iPad is not that big of a hill right now.
Jeez. I get it, I'm a crappy parent.
I get that the baby is sad and I'm sure you are stressed. Can you introduce her to the fun things where you currently live? Zoo? Museum? Park? Beach? Mall train? Grocery Store? Anything?
She doesn't need an IPad or any other electronic screen or gadget at this age. If she throws a tantrum, ignore it. IF that doesn't work, use time outs.
If she is throwing the tantrum not because you *have* the IPad, but rather because you are using it to routinely ignore her, then look at your own behavior.
Buck up buttercup! You'll make it through this challenge :-)
LOL if I so much as look at it "it's hers". This whole post is making me feel like the worst parent. It's cool I'll recover.
Oh, come on now. Get over your pity party and take the advice given here. BE THE ADULT.
Do you really want to deal with this shit forever?
She doesn't need an IPad or any other electronic screen or gadget at this age. If she throws a tantrum, ignore it. IF that doesn't work, use time outs.
If she is throwing the tantrum not because you *have* the IPad, but rather because you are using it to routinely ignore her, then look at your own behavior.
Buck up buttercup! You'll make it through this challenge :-)
LOL if I so much as look at it "it's hers". This whole post is making me feel like the worst parent. It's cool I'll recover.
You are not the worst parent. You're stressed and this whole iPad thing is a manifestation of a bigger problem. Tonight, when she goes to sleep, put the iPad away for a few days. Or put her in time out when she freaks. You can do this, and you aren't a bad parent. You need to take control back.
She doesn't need an IPad or any other electronic screen or gadget at this age. If she throws a tantrum, ignore it. IF that doesn't work, use time outs.
If she is throwing the tantrum not because you *have* the IPad, but rather because you are using it to routinely ignore her, then look at your own behavior.
Buck up buttercup! You'll make it through this challenge :-)
LOL if I so much as look at it "it's hers". This whole post is making me feel like the worst parent. It's cool I'll recover.
You aren't a bad parent. You are a stressed parent, who is caving because the baby is sad. But you reeeeaaaaalllly don't want to set this precedent (That she can commandeer mommy's stuff and throw fits). Get her something special of her own. MAke a fuss about it. It can be cheap and from the dollar store. Or just a new book to read from the library.
DD is two. So I'm not really sure she will get the "it's Moms turn" idea. I can't exactly relax & read or do anything while she is throwing a fit. She isn't 4 or 6... So, yeah.
I'll try Target.
Really?!
My DD is 19 months old and already she knows that when it's time to hand something over, it's time. Sure she throws a fit but she can deal with it.
You sound like you're gonna have a super fun road ahead of you :Y:
2? Really? Who is the parent and who is the child? Take the damn IPad and let the kid throw a fit. He or she will get over it. Can't wait to see what happens in 14 years when somebody wants to take the car for a spin and then refuse to give up the keys. Good luck with that.
Thanks for the advice ladies. I'll talk to H tonight when she goes to sleep. We have been exploring the new area & having fun. This is honestly the only thing that I've given in on. But, it seems that was the wrong thing to do.
Post by EloiseWeenie on Sept 4, 2012 19:11:18 GMT -5
LeapPad by leapfrog, it's awesome and age appropriate. My 3 year old knows it isn't the iPad, but after he woke up early one morning and sneakily used the iPad, while putting a small scratch on the screen, he is not allowed to use it at all. He used to be able to use it WITH us, but he has lost that privilege. He'll never live it down, lol.
When life throws you lemons, blame it on the move! Seriously, you moved when you didn't want to and your moved sucked ass but you need to get past it and stop blaming every sucky thing on the move.
Agreed. Girl I moved from Tampa, which is a really great place with tons of things to do, to a really lame small town in fucking Arkansas, which has always been on my places I didn't think actually existed list. I grew up in Florida and left my job, my friends, everything I know. Buck up and make the best of it. Id kill to have everything that's available to you in Tampa.
Yeah, my kid has times when she's allowed to play Angry Birds, and if she starts going into other programs intentionally or pitching a hissy, the Nook goes bye bye. And if she climbs up on me when I'm messing with it and paws at it, she doesn't get it then, either. But if she climbs up and sits quietly and patiently she totally gets a turn.
I'll add that my H is whiny atm because she 'allllwaaays' wants his phone. She never wants mine, even though mine is way cooler, because I don't let her have it. He's constantly handing her his phone, especially when she whines and grabby grabs at it. So, she's basically trained him to give her his phone. She's at the age though where it's pretty easy to reverse.
Listen, I'm just going to be honest here bc I like you.
You revealed yourself to be a republican who is voting for Romney bc you think that is the best way to protect your money. This will color everyone's response to everything you say from now on. It's just the way it is. People have valid points here but I think the pile on, and all the side eyeing is bc of that. I side eyed the shit it of you in that politics post, but it was honestly the first time.
I read your posts, and I don't think that you are overdramatic or a hot mess about this move. I think you've handled it pretty well, actually. I agree that you need to just put your foot down. I realize that my kid was shitting her pants over the iPad bc I was on it when she wanted my attention. Sure, they love to play with it but out of sight, out of mind. I just don't bring it out in front of her often, and when I do, it's Mommy's. She wasn't happy about it, but she got over it pretty quickly. I have apps for her but we do them together and when it's over, it's over.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Sept 4, 2012 19:26:25 GMT -5
I'll admit I side-eyed your political post not because you're voting for Romney, but because you inaccurately spouted off about the healthcare act's effects on small businesses without being educated on it. FWIW, Aanc and Floyd are two of my favorite posters ever and they're both conservative.
But I do think you need to put your foot down here and I think you're reluctant to take some of the very good suggestions people have offered because you don't want to see your kid sad. As others have said, it doesn't make you a bad parent... it just means you need to exert a little control here. The leappad is a great idea / happy compromise.
I understand why you gave it to her during the drive. Our "no screens" baby gets to paly with daddy's Iphone on planes. However, you are now setting up new routines. That is why you might want to stop any behavior that is driving you nuts right now. Temper tantrums drive me nuts so I'm projecting that they do the same for you.
I'll admit I side-eyed your political post not because you're voting for Romney, but because you inaccurately spouted off about the healthcare act's effects on small businesses without being educated on it. FWIW, Aanc and Floyd are two of my favorite posters ever and they're both conservative.
But I do think you need to put your foot down here and I think you're reluctant to take some of the very good suggestions people have offered because you don't want to see your kid sad. As others have said, it doesn't make you a bad parent... it just means you need to exert a little control here. The leappad is a great idea / happy compromise.
No I'm not reluctant to take the advice. I'm kind of shocked by the venom & being told its time to beat my child.
Like I said I'll go get a Leap Pad for her & take the iPad away.