What's going on your dating life? Update us.

[glitzyglow]

In a relationship? Dating around? Fwb? Taking a break? Please share!

As for me, I'm trying to be lax and have a fun summer, letting it take me where it will. That means I'm trying to be less judge-y in my online dating picks and less intense in my expectations for everything. I went out with a guy 2x last week and he mentioned going out again this weekend, but no solid plans have been made. He scored major points last weekend by turning on the Hamilton soundtrack in the car because he remembered that I had mentioned that I liked it.

[cuddlyevil]

Nothing. I deleted my okc account after a guy from outside the country contacted me and then tried to message me on FB (it was in my filtered messages, so I didn't see it). NEWP.

I should be getting my Sundays back soon, so I am hoping to get circulating more and meet somebody. But I'm not like "ZOMG I NEED A BF!!!!".

[Deleted]

I was on CMB. It was a dud for me. But, I'm okay and glad I didn't meet anyone. I need a breather to work on me. My last two guys had issues (one lied for 6+ months about being single and then ghosted me). I assume his girlfriend of 10+ years found out about me and it was an ultimatum of "do not ever talk to her again". I get it.

This last one also ghosted me after I specifically told him that is what happened the last time and it really messed with me. And he did so after 9+ months of dating. For real though. WTF. Twice in a row. IN A ROW. And it wasn't even after a fight. It was a LDR and we had just went on vacation. He told me "hey I got back to xyz". And then silence. I literally googled to see if he had died. BAFFLED.

One of my very good friends is an ex-boyfriend. He would totally date me again if I asked. Newp. It's so weird. He's an uncomfortable cuddler. Like, I don't understand why he's so stiff.

[Serenity9]

I'm moving to a new city, so I'm taking a break until then. The current city I live in has not been great for dating, and I'm really looking forward to the new dating pool. I move in about a week, and I'm convinced that within this last week here, I'm going to meet a really great guy. LOL! It wouldn't change my plans, obviously, but it would be just my luck that I would finally meet a great guy when I'm leaving.

Once I move to the new city, I'm thinking I won't really start looking to date for about 6 months, and I'll just focus on making friends and exploring the city. I wouldn't turn someone down if they asked me out within those 6 months, but I won't put effort into looking. I'd like to feel settled and have at least the beginnings of a group of supportive friends before I jump into dating.

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Jun 17, 2016 10:36:49 GMT -5 mp said:

Jun 17, 2016 10:31:00 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

I was on CMB. It was a dud for me. But, I'm okay and glad I didn't meet anyone. I need a breather to work on me. My last two guys had issues (one lied for 6+ months about being single and then ghosted me). I assume his girlfriend of 10+ years found out about me and it was an ultimatum of "do not ever talk to her again". I get it.

This last one also ghosted me after I specifically told him that is what happened the last time and it really messed with me. And he did so after 9+ months of dating. For real though. WTF. Twice in a row. IN A ROW. And it wasn't even after a fight. It was a LDR and we had just went on vacation. He told me "hey I got back to xyz". And then silence. I literally googled to see if he had died. BAFFLED.

One of my very good friends is an ex-boyfriend. He would totally date me again if I asked. Newp. It's so weird. He's an uncomfortable cuddler. Like, I don't understand why he's so stiff.

I assume you found out about the gf after he disappeared? 

So for the first one: He said he didn't have a face.book. I couldn't find it via googling his name. Not uncommon in the field I work in due to clearances. Turns out we had a mutual friend who deactiviated awhile back while she had a temp secret. When she reactivated this past March, he popped up as someone I may know. He's not active on the FB page but his profile pic was of him and his GF with comments of "when it is your turn?" "Don't take it too fast... it's only been ten years" from a few years ago. I discovered this about a year after he ghosted me. Rage I tell you. Rage.

ETA: the reason I know they were together when I was with him is because he showed me pictures from a trip he took with coworkers (mid dating him) and she was in the snorkeling photos. Obviously with a mask on I couldn't tell who it was but the caption on FB was clear it was his girlfriend.

[glynn]

A 1st date Wednesday night that went well. Suppose to do something tonight with him again.

[doriswe]

Still have the FWB (will be 4 years in the fall...holy shit). I think I've only been on a few dates this year. Nothing to write home about. I think I've been so busy living life that I haven't even really noticed.

[glitzyglow]

cuddlyevil , I need a bf STAT or else I'm nothing.  I actually think I'm really at peace as of late with being single, which is making me feel super breezy about dating. Give me a month though...that breeziness might be gone, lol.

@lemonlover, that sucks. It's always good to take time for oneself!

Serenity9, congrats on the move! I hope it brings all sorts of great things into your life!

glynn, that's exciting! How do you feel about it?

mp, is this the guy you've met in person already and then matched on Tinder with?

[glitzyglow]

doriswe, good to see you around these parts lately!

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Jun 17, 2016 11:12:13 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

@lemonlover , that sucks. It's always good to take time for oneself!

It makes you think what's wrong with me that attracts these guys! I really like the podcast "Your kickass life" which is a self help. I listen to it in the morning when I get ready for work! 

TBH, I wouldn't mind a good fwb situation. Preferably in my apartment complex so there's no driving or chance that it gets too late and he wants to sleep over. /Lazy

[glitzyglow]

Jun 17, 2016 11:18:27 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

Jun 17, 2016 11:12:13 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

@lemonlover , that sucks. It's always good to take time for oneself!

It makes you think what's wrong with me that attracts these guys! I really like the podcast "Your kickass life" which is a self help. I listen to it in the morning when I get ready for work! 

TBH, I wouldn't mind a good fwb situation. Preferably in my apartment complex so there's no driving or chance that it gets too late and he wants to sleep over. /Lazy

Ooh, I'll check out that podcast. I love self-help stuff. I can honestly say that self-help books/cds/podcasts/videos have been very helpful in my life.

[Eureka1984]

I started dating a guy 2 weeks ago. We met on OKC and things have been going well. I'm trying not to jinx it. He is so patient and caring and I like it a lot!

[glynn]

Jun 17, 2016 11:12:13 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

cuddlyevil , I need a bf STAT or else I'm nothing.  I actually think I'm really at peace as of late with being single, which is making me feel super breezy about dating. Give me a month though...that breeziness might be gone, lol.

@lemonlover , that sucks. It's always good to take time for oneself!

Serenity9 , congrats on the move! I hope it brings all sorts of great things into your life!

glynn , that's exciting! How do you feel about it?

mp , is this the guy you've met in person already and then matched on Tinder with?

Good, I had the best time the other night we sat in the restaurant for 3 hours talking. A little texting during the day and a call at night so I am excited to see what happens next.

[shoofly]

I am pushing myself forward in leaving my exbf. I finally have most of my stuff from the condo we shared and am not encouraging any further contact. I know he has a few more things of mine, but not worth the hassle. Thinking about everything we went through, it's like coming out of a fog when dealing with such a manipulative/controlling person. I've already been able to do things I "couldn't" do before.....like wear jeggings to work. They're the best

I'm still sad, but trying to keep myself occupied. I plan to hang out with friends this weekend by the/a pool as much as possible. And consider getting a second job again. I'll need it since the douchebag isn't going to repay any of the money he owes me. Suffice it to say, I hate men at the moment and am surrounding myself with family and friends. The college world series is going on starting this weekend, and I intend to stop by there when I'm not at the pool!

[doriswe]

Jun 17, 2016 11:13:03 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

doriswe , good to see you around these parts lately!

Hiiiii! Been sort of MIA lately...busy living the dream (or something like that lol!). I don't really think much is going on in my life lately, so I don't post about much of anything anymore.

[doglove]

The only thing I've got going on is that eh+ guy, second date tomorrow. We talked on the phone last night for a little bit. Still not any texting really and all just phone calls. Really wish there was a FWB situation for me haha because it's been so long and this eh+ thing is going so slowly, which I know is for the best. He works and lives an hour away and we are both busy during the week, so that leaves only the weekend to have dates. And he'll be out of town next week. Bah!

So in the spirit of wanting to get laid, I went to a party last week at a coworker/friend's house. I've been to these parties before, nbd. I was feeling pretty good after a bunch of drinks and the coworker's stepson started hitting on me (apparently he's 30, I thought he was way younger) so I ended up kissing him. I half thought about sleeping with him because it was an option, but other friends kind of lead me away from him once they saw what was going on. I was ragey about it. Until the next day when the dude tried to follow me on IG and I saw he was married. WTF. I had to keep denying/blocking him on IG and somehow he was still getting through. He sent me a message saying he'd like to "get to know me better" and I asked if he was married and he said yes, it's complicated. And I said BYE.

WTF I'm glad I didn't just cut loose like I normally DON'T do. Ugh.

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Jun 17, 2016 12:15:32 GMT -5 shoofly said:

 Thinking about everything we went through, it's like coming out of a fog when dealing with such a manipulative/controlling person. I've already been able to do things I "couldn't" do before.....like wear jeggings to work. They're the best

Oh man. I couldn't wear shorts because my XH thought my thighs were too fat to show them off in public. I weighed 150-160 and I'm 5'5!

I am have black jeggings from AE that are in the wash. I can't wait to wear them to work next week!!! 

[pinkdutchtulips]

Nada

Zip, zilch, rein

I've deleted the OKC app off my phone, CMB was once again a disapointment and I'm thinking about deleting Tinder off my phone as well. I'm not happy w myself - mostly bc of my weight (I'm heavier now than when I was 41 wks pg w dd *wilt*) so I'm going to be taking some time to trim down.

[cuddlyevil]

Jun 17, 2016 13:02:34 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

Jun 17, 2016 12:15:32 GMT -5 shoofly said:

 Thinking about everything we went through, it's like coming out of a fog when dealing with such a manipulative/controlling person. I've already been able to do things I "couldn't" do before.....like wear jeggings to work. They're the best

Oh man. I couldn't wear shorts because my XH thought my thighs were too fat to show them off in public. I weighed 150-160 and I'm 5'5!

I am have black jeggings from AE that are in the wash. I can't wait to wear them to work next week!!! 

I got so much shit for wearing a lot of black. It felt so good to be able to wear black or a dress that was stylish and a different color or length without having to deal with "Ugh..do you own any other colors??"

[FormerlyRR]

Nothing new here. Still with the same guy.

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Jun 17, 2016 13:44:45 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Jun 17, 2016 13:02:34 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

Oh man. I couldn't wear shorts because my XH thought my thighs were too fat to show them off in public. I weighed 150-160 and I'm 5'5!

I am have black jeggings from AE that are in the wash. I can't wait to wear them to work next week!!! 

I got so much shit for wearing a lot of black. It felt so good to be able to wear black or a dress that was stylish and a different color or length without having to deal with "Ugh..do you own any other colors??"

 Isn't it amazing how much you realize you put up with and looking back how crazy it was? You just don't see it until you're removed from the situation! 

I LOVE BLAAACK. I do strive to wear no black one day out of the week.... It involves gray pants! 

[mommadukes]

nothing on my end. will enjoy my summer alone

[glitzyglow]

shoofly, I'm glad you're keeping busy. I know the pain of a breakup sucks, but onward and upward from here!

Eureka1984, ooh, that's exciting! I get you on the trying not to get too excited. I feel like our dating experiences have been similar, so I'm so glad you are excited!

cuddlyevil and @lemonlover, most of my wardrobe is black, too. I just love wearing black and I feel confident in it. And all my lipsticks go with black.

[glitzyglow]

Jun 17, 2016 14:36:24 GMT -5 mommadukes said:

nothing on my end. will enjoy my summer alone

Nothing wrong with that! :drink: I had a guy-free summer last year and focused on my friends and my job. It was great!

[TR]

Nothin new here, really. A and I are still doing well. Moving in together when my lease is up in September and possibly to TX together early next year. We have discussed that this all means we're on our way to being engaged/married.

[Deleted]

I'm madly in love with my asshole dogs. Does this count? They've been my longest relationship thus far at six years!

[glitzyglow]

TR that's awesome. Are the Stellas getting along any better?

[TR]

Jun 17, 2016 14:56:39 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

TR that's awesome. Are the Stellas getting along any better?

Yes! Well, I don't know if it's that or if we've learned how to manage the situation better and avoid triggers. But either way, the last incident was...two months ago? My Stella is doing well with her e-collar training and that's helping with her general temperament, too, I think. Thank you for asking

[glitzyglow]

Jun 17, 2016 14:58:45 GMT -5 TR said:

Jun 17, 2016 14:56:39 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

TR that's awesome. Are the Stellas getting along any better?

Yes! Well, I don't know if it's that or if we've learned how to manage the situation better and avoid triggers. But either way, the last incident was...two months ago? My Stella is doing well with her e-collar training and that's helping with her general temperament, too, I think. Thank you for asking

Even better update! So glad to hear it! (heart)

[bg]

I'm still casually seeing the guy I kissed on my birthday (beginning of May). I like a lot about him but I'm also ok with keeping things casual and slow because I know it's super soon after my divorce. Also, I'm traveling a lot this summer so I won't have time to see him much anyway.