Thursday Randoms!

[abcdefu]

Good Morning!!

I can't believe it's Thursday already. I have been busy out the butt at work for the last couple months, and the time is flying by. It's crazy! I've been working late almost everyday this week and can't wait to lay by the pool this weekend! It's funny how I have a 'I hate my job to I love my job' cycle. I swear my boss picks up on my aggravation and frustration because when I get to the point of looking for new jobs, SURPRISE! raise!

Also, as I approach 30, I feel like I am not holding back as much. I don't know if it's my age, a confidence boost by not GAF, or just everything combined, or medication (prescribed!)  

[nextbigthing]

good morning!

So, now STBXH seems to get that we're getting divorced. He's panicking about how he's going to afford things, etc (should have thought about that!)

He asked if he had to get a lawyer or if we could just work up dividing things up. I have an email into my lawyer to see what she thinks. I'm tempted to see if we can't work that out, even if I pay him a flat amount or something to go away.

Thoughts? I feel like I'm totally in the drivers seat and need to use it to my advantage

[stephreloaded]

Colombia lost the game last night. It ended pretty late and I feel sad and tired. We will now have to wait until Sunday to play against you guys.

I have so much work to do and I don't know how to get it all done. I need some days off but there is the thing that if I leave, things get worse.

[Deleted]

Date tonight and tomorrow, different guys. ::fistpump:: I'm ready, put me in coach.

I made a big batch of cookies last night (DD had a rough day) and meant to bring in the 98% left over to work... they're still sitting on the counter at home. Damnit.

I'm getting excited for Pride this weekend! DD is, too.

[sweetchix]

I was still so ticked at not being seriously considered for the management position in my department that I submitted my resume to 2 HR Data Management positions yesterday day. The posting said the preferred location is in PA, but will accept NY or MD (where our financial and HQ are located). I wouldn't mind traveling to PA as needed, but I can't relocate. I'm not totally qualified for them but why not try and put myself out there, right?

A woman whose daughters took gymnastics with DDs and I were talking about the position and she told me that if I were interested in switching companies and more into HR to let her know. We work on similar fields and she has a lot of clients that could possibly be interested. Something I'll keep in mind.

[glitzyglow]

I'm feeling better, although not 100%. I'm very glad to feel much more functioning and human-like!

I woke up at 6:15am and should have gotten up to run, but man I hate working out in the mornings so I went back to sleep, lol. I normally run in the late evening but it's been so hot that I try to wait until the sun is setting before I go. However, I'm finding that it's hard to do that since I get home so late from work anyway during the summer months, so I could really free up my evenings if I would just get up early to run. How do people become morning workout people? Is it possible?

I started listening to the book about fear that @32flavors recommended. I also watched the TED talk yesterday that was posted on ML about vulnerability. Lots of food for thought.

[shoofly]

I'm glad it's Thursday. Not sure what I'm doing this weekend, other than dog sitting, but happy we're almost there. I'm still feeling sad about my breakup. It's been 2 weeks today. My friends I've shared specifics with are SO GLAD that I'm out of that situation. Some of them had suspicions but weren't sure what to say. I think part of me stayed longer than I knew I should have because I lost my brother in February and couldn't stomach another big loss. Not so great on my part, but probably true.

Other than dog sitting this week, I plan to do some shopping for my week-long trip to GA/FL. My friend has booked the place and said it's a beachfront condo, hot tub, chairs/umbrellas, full kitchen...5 nights on the beach? Yes, please. I know my mom is a little sad I'll be gone during the 4th of July and my birthday (both firsts without my brother), but she understands I need to get away. I still feel kinda bad about leaving.

[doglove]

Date number 3 with the eh+ guy tonight. Eeek.

[Deleted]

Jun 23, 2016 8:56:34 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Colombia lost the game last night. It ended pretty late and I feel sad and tired. We will now have to wait until Sunday to play against you guys.

I have so much work to do and I don't know how to get it all done. I need some days off but there is the thing that if I leave, things get worse.

You live in Colombia right?! I'm here in Cartagena with not many plans. Just enjoying the architecture and working on my photography. Came here to relax. Saturday I have a day spa planned but other than that playing it by ear. I don't have time to venture to any other Colombian cities unfortunately. Any recommendations for me? 

I watched her most of the match last night as well. Bummed they lost.

[Deleted]

We had active shooter training this AM.

I am justifying my work to a higher up who was sent a singular picture of a bad issue (admittedly bad). My efforts in this area has increased sales by 32% and DOR by 53% for year to date. I cannot believe I am literally going around taking pictures of my work over one picture that does not show the over all improvements. I had to walk around my building twice to cool my head.

[stephreloaded]

Jun 23, 2016 12:38:12 GMT -5 @wandering said:

Jun 23, 2016 8:56:34 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Colombia lost the game last night. It ended pretty late and I feel sad and tired. We will now have to wait until Sunday to play against you guys.

I have so much work to do and I don't know how to get it all done. I need some days off but there is the thing that if I leave, things get worse.

You live in Colombia right?! I'm here in Cartagena with not many plans. Just enjoying the architecture and working on my photography. Came here to relax. Saturday I have a day spa planned but other than that playing it by ear. I don't have time to venture to any other Colombian cities unfortunately. Any recommendations for me? 

I watched her most of the match last night as well. Bummed they lost.

I live in rainy Bogotá but my dad is from Cartagena. How do you like the city? The times I've been to Cartagena have not been as touristy but mostly to visit family. Have you tried going to the Islas del Rosario? Playa Blanca is very beautiful and relaxing.  El Castillo de San Felipe is something you cannot miss. Also going out dancing at night is something you need to do. El Parque Tayrona is not far from Cartagena either but depending on how many days you have there, it would be worth the trip. 

I am really bummed about the game last night but today we have signed a peace treaty with the guerrilla so we have more than enough reasons to celebrate today!!   <)

[glynn]

Jun 23, 2016 9:59:29 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I'm feeling better, although not 100%. I'm very glad to feel much more functioning and human-like!

I woke up at 6:15am and should have gotten up to run, but man I hate working out in the mornings so I went back to sleep, lol. I normally run in the late evening but it's been so hot that I try to wait until the sun is setting before I go. However, I'm finding that it's hard to do that since I get home so late from work anyway during the summer months, so I could really free up my evenings if I would just get up early to run. How do people become morning workout people? Is it possible?

I started listening to the book about fear that @32flavors recommended. I also watched the TED talk yesterday that was posted on ML about vulnerability. Lots of food for thought.

You just do it for a couple of months then it is habit. I am not a morning person and did it for over a year. Now I have to go in the evenings and it sucks. When I do not have DD2 on Thursday mornings I always go and every other Monday morning. I have so much more time in the evening when I get my workout done in the AM. I get up at 4:30 AM for a 5AM class. I feel like I burn more calories all day when I get in gear in the AM.

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Jun 23, 2016 12:55:39 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Jun 23, 2016 12:38:12 GMT -5 @wandering said:

You live in Colombia right?! I'm here in Cartagena with not many plans. Just enjoying the architecture and working on my photography. Came here to relax. Saturday I have a day spa planned but other than that playing it by ear. I don't have time to venture to any other Colombian cities unfortunately. Any recommendations for me? 

I watched her most of the match last night as well. Bummed they lost.

I live in rainy Bogotá but my dad is from Cartagena. How do you like the city? The times I've been to Cartagena have not been as touristy but mostly to visit family. Have you tried going to the Islas del Rosario? Playa Blanca is very beautiful and relaxing.  El Castillo de San Felipe is something you cannot miss. Also going out dancing at night is something you need to do. El Parque Tayrona is not far from Cartagena either but depending on how many days you have there, it would be worth the trip. 

I am really bummed about the game last night but today we have signed a peace treaty with the guerrilla so we have more than enough reasons to celebrate today!!   <)

Thanks for the suggestions! I will def get to El Castillo de San Felipe and plan to go out dancing tomorrow and Sat.
I really like it here so far. I'm glad I picked to come here. It's a good place to be solo cause lots of interesting places to stop and see and just sitting in the squares has been nice.

Unfortunately since it was kind of spur of the moment to come here I won't have time for Tayrona, I read about it after I booked my flights. I usually try to get to at least 2 cities or countries when I go on vacation but I'm bummed it's not going to work out. Reading about it sounds like a great destination. 

And yes yes I saw about the peace treaty, that's great. Glad the country has something to celebrate

[glitzyglow]

So, I'm officially calling myself ghosted. Sigh. I know I told myself I just wanted to have fun this summer and I do, but it still sucks to just be dumped from someone's radar.

[doglove]

Ugh that sucks glitzyglow. This ghosting thing sucks.

[glitzyglow]

Jun 23, 2016 15:04:01 GMT -5 doglove said:

Ugh that sucks glitzyglow . This ghosting thing sucks.

It does suck. It's hard not to turn it around on myself ("What's wrong with me? Why does this happen to me?"). I think this one hits a little harder because I really thought he was a good guy who was genuinely interested in me. Guess not.

[doglove]

It's not you glitzyglow. Hugs.

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Jun 23, 2016 14:45:07 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

So, I'm officially calling myself ghosted. Sigh. I know I told myself I just wanted to have fun this summer and I do, but it still sucks to just be dumped from someone's radar.

I have been ghosted twice from two people who I dated for 6+ months. So I know and it sucks. It's demoralizing and my inner self talk is currently a mean girl about it. Just remember it's a reflection on them, not you as a person. 

[pinkdutchtulips]

I was painfully reminded that I have 41 yo knees yesterday I FOOLISHLY decided to jump/hop off a 3' wall at the playground ... OMG the pain, I jammed my knee. Just speeding up my eventual knee replacement :/

DD was scared at first (OMG do we need to go to the hospital) then super sweet & helpful .. Mommie I'll help you walk

[stephreloaded]

Jun 23, 2016 18:37:49 GMT -5 pinkdutchtulips said:

I was painfully reminded that I have 41 yo knees yesterday I FOOLISHLY decided to jump/hop off a 3' wall at the playground ... OMG the pain, I jammed my knee. Just speeding up my eventual knee replacement :/

DD was scared at first (OMG do we need to go to the hospital) then super sweet & helpful .. Mommie I'll help you walk

Aww that is so sweet from her. I think that is an age where they start realizing that they are not the center of the world. I'm sure that your DD might be similar but mine is really grasping the fact that we are a family and she helps take care of me as well. This was all fine until she had a melt down when she left for her dad not because she didn't want to go but because she didn't want to leave me alone . 

[1confused1]

I've been super stressed about the custody/visitation review we have again next week. I finally sat down and wrote out a statement as to why things need to stay the same as the current orders. I feel so much better.

[daisyn]

I had to file my third police report last night against a guy I was dating. We broke up in mid-Feb and he won't leave me alone despite written requests (including a cease and desist letter). yesterday he made a vague threat, this was the first actual threat he made and I'm pretty terrified now. I'm thinking about changing my number. The police officer yesterday wants me to go to see the detective first thing in the morning and press charges (I'm not sure if it's stalking or harassment). I asked him about a no contact order last time but I think he said they are only good for 10 days or something which won't do me much good.

[Eureka1984]

I'm so sorry glitzyglow Being ghosted sucks so much.

I went to dinner with an old girlfriend last night. It's weird how you can remember someone and see how much they have changed. She is married and has a kid. All in all it was fun and good.

[TR]

I can understand (although still think it's shitty) ghosting someone you've been dating non-exclusively for, say, a month or two. But after 6+ months? Like, you're BF/GF and stay over at each other's houses, probably have some stuff there, and then they just disappear? WTAF?

[Mrs.Rad888]

Jun 24, 2016 3:52:38 GMT -5 daisyn said:

I had to file my third police report last night against a guy I was dating. We broke up in mid-Feb and he won't leave me alone despite written requests (including a cease and desist letter). yesterday he made a vague threat, this was the first actual threat he made and I'm pretty terrified now. I'm thinking about changing my number. The police officer yesterday wants me to go to see the detective first thing in the morning and press charges (I'm not sure if it's stalking or harassment). I asked him about a no contact order last time but I think he said they are only good for 10 days or something which won't do me much good.

That really sucks, and I hope the police are able to make the charges stick. I'd do some follow-up on the no-contact order, though. There has to be an option that is good for longer than 10 days. I don't know how you'd go about filing for one, but I'm sure that Family court or somewhere like that could help you. Please take care of yourself.