Anyone have any experience with an Adderal and/or cocaine

[scottyderp]

addiction/addict?

A family member (again) is addicted to this combo, snorting both (tons of lines) and there's no getting through to this person.  They are so incredibly up and down, super-fun and focused, and/or super-mean and spiteful.

I've connected with another family member who noticed it (we finally broke our mortified silence after seeing it for ourselves) and we are not sure of what to do.  Her parents are enablers/blamers of others.

We have decided to distance ourselves.  This should be interesting, as this person is almost psychotically angry/jealous when people ignore her.

You would think, "Should be easy."  It's strangely difficult, without blowing things wide open in our (very) dysfunctional family.  See, people will fingerpoint at me/other family member, putting our flaws on display, and we are not feeling it.

It just sucks.  We both think this is a lifelong thing where the tendency to OD is high.

[bittybomb]

My brother in law is a coke addict. He is allegedly clean now, though I don't really buy it. My in laws enabled the shit out of him and when my husband ever said something, he was the unsupportive one who didnt understand. Ok. Sure. He had two stints in rehab, where my husband and I were the only ones to visit him (ironically, my in laws said he was "running away from his problems") and were the only ones to abstain from drinking in his presence at family functions after he came home. None of it mattered - he up and left and moved 7 hours away without a word to anyone. He didn't speak to my husband for 5 years (and told their parents my husband knew what he did - ok, sure). He only resurfaced 2 months ago with some bullshit apology that his therapist told him to make a clean break. Only time will tell, I guess.

Hugs. It's really really hard.

[flex]

I know it's hard, but you must distance yourself no matter the familial consequences.

Both my sisters were enabled by my mom for DECADES. And now they are people that normal, healthy people shun. Enabling is a killer, as well as substance abuse. I will admit I have some resentment towards my mom because of it, even though I know her intentions were good.

[spedrunner]

My xh was an addict and unfortunately until they wan to get help there's not much you can do besides take care of yourself. They are well informed of wha they need todo to get clean they prob know more resources than you. Until they are ready or hit rock bottom there's not much you can do besides tell them you are there to support them when they are ready
I'm also sorry you are going through this. It's a terrible and ugly place to bw

[kayl84]

I don't have experience with either, but there is an instance in our family that is taking place right now. It's being dealt with using kid gloves because of the simple fact of the ripple of "oh go figure" and "I told you so's" that would happen. Even though the person going through it is a grown adult, her past isn't so b&w adding to it a lot of guilt that my mother is facing. I've talked to as many people as I can trust (3, well 4 if you include dad) and luckily my mom has a very close set of sisters and friends who can help her. However, keeping up "appearances" are not easy and like last night I broke down and cried to my BFF. I told her that when I came to visit next week that I was never leaving and to just relax, hoping to avoid family drama due to my 3 hour vacation difference is a blessing, but it is almost like running away from the issues at hand...just a pre planned vacation.

I can 100% understand where you have a resistance to having a bright light shone on any/every flaw, mis-step, thing you've said & done, whether it be wrong or right. You also don't want to be quiet because of the OD and long term effects of it, I do get it. Shit is not fucking easy and I wish adulting had a pause button where I could go rewind and replay things.

I know this may not help much, but know that it isn't fun having to keep this quiet. If you ever need to talk, vent, whatever...message me. ((hugs)) I'm a nobody here, but I am ALWAYS around if anyone needs an ear. I sincerely mean that to anybody reading this. I'd say when life hands you lemons...but god damn Beyoncé has stolen all my lemonade happiness from me. <3

[lilafowler]

I'm sorry this is happening to your family.

[7costanza]

A childhood friend is an addict, he's been to rehab several times and is now in jail for drug related burglary, mail theft, etc. I cut ties with him years ago but still talk to his family occasionally, nothing they have done has helped. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

I'm sorry, scots

[scottyderp]

Thanks, everyone. My addiction is the Internet. I would probably be working the pole if I had nicer boobs.

Also, being tacky is my thing.

[kayl84]

Jun 23, 2016 20:04:55 GMT -5 scottyderp said:

Thanks, everyone. My addiction is the Internet.

First step is admitting you have the addiction. :-) I think we all do, to a degree.

[Vally]

My XH self medicated with cocaine, among other things, prior to being dx as bipolar II. I feared if I left I would be contributing to his relapse. My therapist finally got through to me when she pointed out that he used while we were together, and he may use again if I left, but clearly being there didn't impact his behavior at all.

I hope distancing from your relative gives you peace.