What's the worst insult you ever received?

[anna7602]

The worst have probably come from my mother. Mainly because she has no filter, but also because the closer I am with someone, the more I expect them to be supportive instead of mean and critical.

I'm sorry your sister is like this and that it's difficult for you to process.

[raangoli]

Omg that's awful. I'm so sorry

I was an overweight kid and I remember a boy bumping into me in a public pool and he turned and said "ew I wouldn't want to do that to you". I was like 10 or 12 (I don't remember) but I remember being hurt. Top that with never feeling like I was beautiful or pretty (or being told I was), it hurt deep. It's probably why I still don't think I am.

[Deleted]

wtaf is wrong with your sister??? time to disengage

My mom told me I gained weight and looked fat on my wedding day. lol. I wish I could have that body again. She also told me that I shouldn't have my cousin be one of my bms because she would be prettier than me. My mom is such a bitch sometimes. 

I have a big burn scar on my arm. A guy I liked in middle school told me that he liked me too but picked my cousin instead just because of my scar. 

[Deleted]

When I was in 8th grade I was walking down the hall away from some girls and I overheard them say "she has really chunky legs". My self esteem was already pretty bad, so that basically ended any shred of it for years to come. It took me until college to really accept that I had bigger legs and a butt, even when I'm not overweight. I'm from a long line of German and Austrian peasants, with some Scottish mixed in for good measure. It's just who I am. But I never, ever forgot it.

Your sister deserved to be completely embarrassed by that. I hope she never forgets it.

[Deleted]

Hugs to everyone. I wish people would think before they spoke!

[jln]

A boy in high school called me a whore. He walked up to me in the commons, told me I was a whore for liking this particular guy, then proceeded to berate me in front of a crowd.

Just recently I saw his mom on FB comment on something a mutual friend posted about bullying, about how sad it is that bullying happens in schools. I had to hold back from telling her that her own jackass son is a bully. It still fires me up just thinking about it.

My sister has said a whole lot of hateful stuff to me over the years, too. But she's fucking crazy cakes so I've learned to let it roll off.

[calamity]

PDQ

Wow @lapsha , she sounds so much like my sister.  
Life is too short.

I'm sorry. I hope she gets some therapy and works through her issues.

[badtzmaru22]

Quick backstory: DH and I had to push our wedding back about six months because he was in the hospital and almost died. Years later, I had TTTC and then a m/c.

My sister said, "wow, you didn't get to get married when you wanted, and now you can't have a baby when you want!"

What is the point of even saying something like that?

We have two kids now, and she never congratulated me on the birth of #2, and we are not close anymore.

My MIL called me a bitch to my face once, and she is dead to me.

[ellipsis]

Someone on The Knot (or Nest? I can't remember) told me I wouldn't be a good mom. For no particular reason at all I think.

Not sure if she's around here anymore just with a new SN.

[Deleted]

Oh man, some people are so mean. I'm sorry you've experienced those things.

calamity I'm sorry your sister is like that. Mine also says things like "This is how I am, and I don't plan to change." So...good luck with that I guess?

[Willis Jackson]

A college boyfriend's friend nicknamed me Succubus. Like, he never used my real name- always Succubus.

[pugz]

I feel like I forget specific comments but I do not forget the people that have been jerks.

[glinda]

I asked a guy to go on a date with me when I was about 13. He said "well I mean you're nice but you're just not pretty enough."

It was a little soul crushing.

[ECB]

This wasn't directed at me but it was about my DH and I and I was so floored by it - it really was a big reason why our friendship ended w/ this guy.

We went through 5 years of IF. 5 IVF and 4 FETs. A friend and his wife got PG the first time they tried when they had their DS1. When they tried for a 2nd child, they got PG again right away (although it turned out to be a blighted ovum).

While they thought she was PG, the guy said to my DH "I don't know what the problem is with you and ECB. I can get DW pregnant the first time every time" and then made a joke about giving us some of his sperm.

Asshole.

[Blue Moon]

I've been told I have chicken legs, toothpick arms, etc. A random person once rolled down the window of a passing car and yelled "go eat a sandwich" at me. One nasty girl in college told me that I looked like I would break in half when my bf fucked me. That hurt the most. I always had trouble gaining weight

[Marmee]

My Dad basically implied that my goal in graduate school was to find a husband and that was the only way I'd be successful as an Architect. He also said when I was pregnant with my 3rd "to not make the mistake they did and have too many kids." (I'm #3 of 5). To which I asked which one of us did he wish didn't exist. My grandparents (my Dads no surprise) told me when I was visiting them on Spring Break Freshman year that it was good that I looked like I lost weight. I was so angry because these people I've only ever visited /visited us maybe 6 times in my life & yet they considered the fact that I was maybe 10lbs at the time overweight important enough to bring up. Think that was the last time I ever saw either of them too (transferred colleges to other side of country). My brothers tortured me physically and verbally/emotionally but I've blocked most of that stuff out and I can't even contemplate thinking about it. I've had so many looks insults over the years, nothing stands out.

[liveintheville]

Jun 27, 2016 13:44:04 GMT -5 @barefootbarista said:

I've been called a n*gger at least 3 times.

I've been called this as well. It was in third grade and I didn't even know what it meant. Once I did find out I was confused since I'm Vietnamese.

[bk1]

This one is kinda odd.


I remember being crushed when I was younger (7 or 8?) and my dad saying that I didn't fit into the family because I was the only "normal" one. He and my mom were divorced and I didn't have a good relationship with him (no relationship now) and just remember how awful it made me feel because I just wanted to belong.

[kategm]

I don't know if it's the worst (probably not because my mom has had some doozies) but it's the one that has stuck with me the longest. When I was in 7th grade a guy in class called me Bird Beak. I am fully aware I have a long thin nose, and of course that made me exceedingly self conscious about it. I probably always will be, and many times I think of that comment.

[CrazyLucky]

I think I tend to forget most things that hurt my feelings. Two things that stand out are from my sister and an old boss.
My sister had moved to Europe and was visiting for a week. I hadn't seen her in 9 months and had just had a haircut. The first thing she said to me was, "I hope you didn't tip the hairdresser." I have a good relationship with her. That was mean though.
My old boss was an asshole. I used to leave at 5pm because I had a life. He told me some people are like Yugos, some are like Cadillacs. Some stay til 5pm, some stay until the work is done, even if it's not done til 2am.

[heythere]

It was tradition at my grade school for the graduating 7th graders to "will" things to the 6th graders at the end of the year. The lists (of mostly funny stuff, like "I leave my math textbook with all the doodles to John" or whatever) was printed in a supplement to the yearbook and given to the 6th and 7th graders.

When I was in 6th grade, a 7th grader walked up to me at the pool in front of a group of kids and said "I'm going to leave you some liposuction because you're so fat". (To be clear- this obviously wasn't printed on the list- just said to make her friends laugh.)

It was so hurtful- has been more than 20 years ago and it still makes me sad to remember!!

People can be such jerks.

[Deleted]

Being called a nigger.

[zeewifeandmama]

About 12 years ago my husband had lost a significant amount of weight. We saw some older family friends at a restaurant that we hadn't seen in a long time. The wife says to MH " oh wow! You've lost weight! You look smart! " she then turns to me and says " oh and you must have found it! " I was speechless

[callmehales]

I've always carried extra weight in my midsection since hitting puberty...this bitch in 8th grade came up to me in the library and asked if I was pregnant. I was a huge nerd, so it was doubly hurtful since boys NEVER looked twice at me.

But the comment that makes me the maddest came from a guy I hung out with a few times freshman year in college. He told me he didn't want to date me because I was boring. BORING!! I might be too loud or too tall or too sarcastic , but I am NOT boring.

[ssmjlm]

Yall have heard about my childhood nickname "fatso." And well I have horrific self esteem as a result of it. It's also why I am so careful about making sure E knows that I think she's beautiful.

The worst recently was from my sister. She said she didn't want me at the beach house the same time as her and a friend b/c I make people uncomfortable and I'm just like our grandad. For one, this particular friend has only met me 1x and we were at the beach with E who was just over a year and I was particular about her schedule. So they can STFU. But the grandad comment hurt. He was an awful man and for her to compare me to him was a low blow.

[tacoflavoredkisses]

I lost 33 pounds leading up to our wedding. I saw my grandmother, who told me she was glad to see I had lost some weight but that I clearly had some more to go.

My mother has made a lot of hurtful comments (i.e. "You need to shave your mustache" while out shopping) but the hardest were her comments during my pregnancy. I gained 20 pounds total, and she acted like I had gained 100. She called me once to tell me she was "worried" about my hips. That I would get too wide and "never be able to get back to the way they once were."

[morecoffeeplease]

A guy in high school used to push me in the halls and call me butterball. It still makes me anxious 15ish years later when I think about it.

He friend requested me a few years ago. I wish I had the guts to message him and let him know how hurtful he was.

[undecidedowl]

No individual insult stands out in my memory. Actually, I think all of the "encouragement" from my mom to exercise/eat better/lose weight is what bothers me most. (I'm about 6 pounds overweight, not that it should matter.)

[mrssandro]

I have blocked it out of my head. I was made fun for my weight, my shoes, my tears and my inability to do any types of sports whatsoever. I was a easy target.

Now not so much.

[TamiTaylor]

My father told me when I was 8 or 9 years old that I was the reason my parents divorced. He stated that they would still be married if it wasn't for me. And yet he wonders why I don't want to have a relationship with him.