If you have children, and YOU left

[sharknado]

did your ex get all salty about you leaving them holding the bag.
H is moving out of the apartment and accusing me of breaking the lease. He wants me to pay off the lease, and he asks for money from me every two weeks to pay the rent.
I HAVE THE CHILDREN, HE ASKS ME FOR MONEY.
I'm sick to my stomach.

[doglove]

Have you seen a lawyer to discuss what you both are responsible for in terms of expenses to the apartment and the children?

[sharknado]

Jun 28, 2016 13:04:01 GMT -5 doglove said:

Have you seen a lawyer to discuss what you both are responsible for in terms of expenses to the apartment and the children?

No. Couldn't pay one if I wanted to

[1confused1]

I'm sorry.

You should see if your court has free legal services, I know my county does. They will be able to help you.

Even though I stayed in the house, I had to pay for half of the mortgage because both of our names were on it (the funds were automatically drawn from xh's bank account for a while so deposited my half in that account).

[sparkythelawyer]

You need to get in front of a lawyer asap. Your county bar association will have references to low to no cost providers in your area.

[Deleted]

Also if you have a work place EAP, they could help point you in the right direction maybe? Is your name on the lease?

[glynn]

You need to speak with a Lawyer no matter what. I left my first XH and took the kids. He did not make a issue of the house payment nor did I make a issue of the child support until we went to court.

This time however I had to pay 1/2 the house payment even though he did not pay child support. When we finalized I asked for the child support that he owed for the months I paid 1/2 of the house and the utilies. He owed me $1,500 which he is still paying on.

This is a lot of the reasons my divorces both took a year to do.

Sorry, Good Luck!

[pinkdutchtulips]

He was .... I had emergency orders in place and a RO.

I 2nd everyone's advice and get a lawyer. I DIY'd mine (I'm a paralegal) and had friends look over it but I'm still going to be spending SOME money on a lawyer bc the court is driving me nuts re paperwork

[cuddlyevil]

Contact Legal Aid, one of my neighbors was able to secure free/low-cost services for her divorce.

My XH tried to tell me that "I'll get a job as a pizza guy so all my real income will be in cash tips, then you won't be able to come at me for CS." in one of his rages. I calmly told him that it doesn't matter, the court would still expect him to pay the amount set forth in our decree.

He did not come at me for any money after the fact though.

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Jun 28, 2016 13:06:16 GMT -5 sharknado said:

Jun 28, 2016 13:04:01 GMT -5 doglove said:

Have you seen a lawyer to discuss what you both are responsible for in terms of expenses to the apartment and the children?

No. Couldn't pay one if I wanted to

Do you have a credit card? My lawyer didn't take credit cards but I would've paid any bills with credit to free up some cash to pay for one in your case. Are there free legal services in your area?

Not through lawyer costs, but through another agreement I made with my ex I ended up with about 10k in debt. Best 10k in debt I ever took on to get rid of his ass.

I hope you can get some legal assistance.

[daisyn]

I left my ex and we were renting a house but we didn't have a lease so that wasn't an issue. Not sure how it works when there's a lease. Can he afford the rent on his own?

[abcdefu]

If he has a lawyer, and used marital funds to retain said lawyer, there could be a chance the court could order him to pay your attorney fees. This is why you can't afford to not have a lawyer, like the other ladies said previously.

[statlerwaldorf]

My local legal aid won't help with divorce, but maybe a tenants rights organization could help you figure out your rights and responsibilities in this situation.

If there is any possible way you can get a lawyer, you really need one. And I get how stressful that is when you don't have that kind of money sitting around. Even just paying for an hour consult would be worth it to find out your responsibility here.

Have you considered filing for child support? I was able to go through the child support enforcement agency without paying anything and before I filed for divorce. It takes forever to get a court date here, so you might want to consider getting the ball rolling.

[redshoejune]

I agree that a lawyer would help. It's also really really nice to have someone in your corner.
I looked up some links for you last night but my computer crashed before I could post and you can probably google as well as I can.
Legal services has some clinics but I don't know if they could help you. There are some other places that charge flat fees, but may consider the rental issues *extra.

[redshoejune]

Oh and my X didn't say too much about the kids. He said they deserved to have two parents together and I said they deserved better than seeing their dad treat their mom bad all the time.

[stephreloaded]

A lot of lawyers offer free first time consultation. I would go to one and then see whether they may give you a payment plan.