Holiday weekend plans?

[sweetchix]

Whatcha all up to this weekend?

Tonight: cleaned the house a bit

Saturday: bubble run with DDs, DD1's friend, and her mom. Then home to work on prepping the upstairs bathroom walls for painting, then maybe a movie/sleep in the living room night.

Sunday: not sure yet. May take DDs to a park that is having 4th of July activities and fireworks in the evening. If not, we may go to the amusement park again.

Monday: XH picks DDs up at noon. Then I think I'll head to my mom's and hang by the pool.

[asoctoberfalls]

Saturday: getting a pedicure with my bff
Sunday: church, finishing packing at the old house
Monday: I was planning to go to the same bbq/party I always go to, but STBXH asked me not to go. He says he should keep these friends and I could keep my friends from before we were married. I haven't decided if I'm going to go or not.

[FormerlyRR]

Jul 1, 2016 20:31:29 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Saturday: getting a pedicure with my bff
Sunday: church, finishing packing at the old house
Monday: I was planning to go to the same bbq/party I always go to, but STBXH asked me not to go. He says he should keep these friends and I could keep my friends from before we were married. I haven't decided if I'm going to go or not.

WTF, he doesn't get to decide. If you were invited, go. 

[sweetchix]

Jul 1, 2016 20:33:15 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Jul 1, 2016 20:31:29 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Saturday: getting a pedicure with my bff
Sunday: church, finishing packing at the old house
Monday: I was planning to go to the same bbq/party I always go to, but STBXH asked me not to go. He says he should keep these friends and I could keep my friends from before we were married. I haven't decided if I'm going to go or not.

WTF, he doesn't get to decide. If you were invited, go. 

This. He has no "right" over your friends. If you were invited then obviously they want to continue to be your friend.

[asoctoberfalls]

Yeah. The thing is, I don't love the bbq. Last time STBXH and I were at the same party, it was awkward. But, I don't want X to think he has the right to ask me not to go. I'm not sure what I'll do yet.

[bg]

I'm still traveling in France and today we're going five hours south to our next stop. Once we get there, there will be relaxing, swimming, and I have a little bit of work that I need to do.

[cuddlyevil]

Jul 1, 2016 21:08:53 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Yeah. The thing is, I don't love the bbq. Last time STBXH and I were at the same party, it was awkward. But, I don't want X to think he has the right to ask me not to go. I'm not sure what I'll do yet.

Why was it awkward?

Thing is, he doesn't get to decide who will friends with him/you after the split either. Your friends get to make that choice.

Go, even for a few minutes.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Jul 1, 2016 20:31:29 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Saturday: getting a pedicure with my bff
Sunday: church, finishing packing at the old house
Monday: I was planning to go to the same bbq/party I always go to, but STBXH asked me not to go. He says he should keep these friends and I could keep my friends from before we were married. I haven't decided if I'm going to go or not.

screw him ... Go the block party !

[asoctoberfalls]

Jul 2, 2016 7:14:14 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Jul 1, 2016 21:08:53 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Yeah. The thing is, I don't love the bbq. Last time STBXH and I were at the same party, it was awkward. But, I don't want X to think he has the right to ask me not to go. I'm not sure what I'll do yet.

Why was it awkward?

Thing is, he doesn't get to decide who will friends with him/you after the split either. Your friends get to make that choice.

Go, even for a few minutes.

Yeah. One of our mutual friends just texted me asking what time I was going, so I called her to discuss. She was horrified i would even consider not going. I think I probably will go, unless something better comes along.

[stephreloaded]

Jul 1, 2016 20:31:29 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Saturday: getting a pedicure with my bff
Sunday: church, finishing packing at the old house
Monday: I was planning to go to the same bbq/party I always go to, but STBXH asked me not to go. He says he should keep these friends and I could keep my friends from before we were married. I haven't decided if I'm going to go or not.

Is he 3 and fighting for a toy? I would go. If I felt uncomfortable, I would leaver after a while but he is being ridiculous.

[Deleted]

I'm doing a refresh of my organizing project and going through and purging more stuff today. I love doing this! It feels so amazing. Then I'm going to go see a friend's new house. Tomorrow I have a workout and then yoga class and will just hang around. For the fourth I have a dog who gets really scared so my mom is coming to hang out with me and watch the fire works from my window

[glitzyglow]

Today: Work, then I plan to go home and do laze around. Maybe watch a movie.
Sunday: No concrete plans. My roommate mentioned wanted to do something in the afternoon, but no set plans.
Monday: Meeting up with an old coworker to see fireworks. I asked her if she wanted to do something during the day, but she hasn't said anything yet.

I kind of want to go on a hike, or kayak, or do something outdoorsy. But I also think maybe I should wait until next weekend when it's not a holiday weekend.

[asoctoberfalls]

Jul 2, 2016 9:34:12 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Jul 1, 2016 20:31:29 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Saturday: getting a pedicure with my bff
Sunday: church, finishing packing at the old house
Monday: I was planning to go to the same bbq/party I always go to, but STBXH asked me not to go. He says he should keep these friends and I could keep my friends from before we were married. I haven't decided if I'm going to go or not.

Is he 3 and fighting for a toy? I would go. If I felt uncomfortable, I would leaver after a while but he is being ridiculous.

It's kind of ridiculous. We have been together for 15 years. His friends are my friends. My friends are the wives of his friends, all of whom started dating after we were together. So I have known the wives as long as he has.

It's awkward because I don't like to see him interacting with people. I think he's fake and manipulative. Plus, not everyone knows we split up. And those who do know have mostly heard his side of the story, which isn't the truth.

[pinkdutchtulips]

saturday - clean up, do laundry, hit the grocery store, binge watch The Revolution on History Channel
sunday - church, make flag cake for monday and freeze
monday - get to parade check-in by 9a, walk in town 4th of July Parade w/ GS then fireworks picnic w/ my cousin and his family

[TR]

Tonight: soccer game with fireworks and I'm hoping they'll have the funnel cake cart there!

Tomorrow: out on the boat with friends

Monday: maybe hanging out at a beach house, but only if we feel like dealing with the traffic.

[Mrs.Rad888]

Jul 2, 2016 11:57:15 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Jul 2, 2016 9:34:12 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Is he 3 and fighting for a toy? I would go. If I felt uncomfortable, I would leaver after a while but he is being ridiculous.

It's kind of ridiculous. We have been together for 15 years. His friends are my friends. My friends are the wives of his friends, all of whom started dating after we were together. So I have known the wives as long as he has.

It's awkward because I don't like to see him interacting with people. I think he's fake and manipulative. Plus, not everyone knows we split up. And those who do know have mostly heard his side of the story, which isn't the truth.

My XH is also fake and manipulative, as well as being a pathological liar. I didn't think anyone else saw that about him, and I worried about what he was telling our mutual friends. I didn't really need to worry, because his true colors did eventually show, and most people already knew the truth about him. I did lose some mutual friends in the divorce, but they were mostly his friends anyway that I would probably never have hung out with if he wasn't there.

XH has his Facebook page totally unlocked, and I can see by his friends list that he's not friends with any of those people any more. They always get figured out.

ETA: I hope you go, ignore him, and have a great time.

[asoctoberfalls]

Mrs.Rad888, I know you're right - a person can't help but show their true colors eventually. It's weird because I don't want him to lose his friends, but I don't want those friends to be deceived about how he really is. I think that this will all work itself out eventually.

[1confused1]

Jul 3, 2016 8:16:51 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Mrs.Rad888, I know you're right - a person can't help but show their true colors eventually. It's weird because I don't want him to lose his friends, but I don't want those friends to be deceived about how he really is. I think that this will all work itself out eventually.

My xh lost all his friends and some of them have become some of my best friends. The truth comes out eventually.

[cuddlyevil]

Jul 3, 2016 8:16:51 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Mrs.Rad888, I know you're right - a person can't help but show their true colors eventually. It's weird because I don't want him to lose his friends, but I don't want those friends to be deceived about how he really is. I think that this will all work itself out eventually.

He isn't your problem anymore. And again, neither of you get to decide who your friends remain friends with.

If he loses them, it's on him not you. And I would be willing to bet that they know how he really is.