I already had a diagnosed anxiety disorder and my psychiatrist had me on buspar while I was pregnant and a Rx in hand for something stronger and BF safe(ish) as soon as I delivered and those first few weeks were still hell.
What seemed to help a bit was H would get home from work and eat dinner, then take the baby so I could have a warm meal. He'd pass the baby back to me so I could feed him and then I'd hand him off and go nap from about 6:30-9 or 7-10. Getting 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep helped my sanity so much. As soon as I woke up, DS was right back on the boob & that was the beginning of our overnight feedings.
and definitely if anything feels off, talk to your doctor. I have no idea how much of a hot mess I would have been without my psychiatrist.
Do you know that commercial where the moms are doing choreographed dances with their kids? I think it's for cereal. I cried bc I never choreographed a dance with my kids (had #3 in January). I felt terrible about it until 2 months ago when DS was 3 months and I realized how ridiculous I was being. Post birth hormones are crazy. I hate that commercial.
Anyway, what helped me was knowing it gets better. You'll start getting more sleep. Things WILL be better. If you need help from your ob, so be it. You'll be okay.
Post by amandakisser on Jul 2, 2016 21:41:23 GMT -5
I only ever admitted this to my bff, but about a week or two after DD1 was born I told my husband I regretted having a baby. I was so, so, SO sad and sleep deprived and she was a very demanding baby. A couple days later the crying subsided. She's the best thing that's ever happened to me and I know that now. But while the hormone crash was happening? It felt like an eternity. Hang in there, it's totally normal, but so listen to everyone else when they say if it hasn't gone away in a couple weeks then definitely call your doc. You're doing great!!
Post by AHappierHour on Jul 2, 2016 21:45:52 GMT -5
The first few weeks is survival mode and for me things got better after week 3. My boobs didn't hurt so much, I wasn't such a bloody mess, I was figuring out my new routine.
If things aren't getting better by when you go to the dr for your check up talk to them about it. (( hugs ))
I only ever admitted this to my bff, but about a week or two after DD1 was born I told my husband I regretted having a baby. I was so, so, SO sad and sleep deprived and she was a very demanding baby. A couple days later the crying subsided. She's the best thing that's ever happened to me and I know that now. But while the hormone crash was happening? It felt like an eternity. Hang in there, it's totally normal, but so listen to everyone else when they say if it hasn't gone away in a couple weeks then definitely call your doc. You're doing great!!
I told H I wished we could give the baby back and go back to it just being us and the dog. I think he didn't really know what to say to me. Pretty sure he said something about how it would get better, but it was hard to see that at the time.
I only ever admitted this to my bff, but about a week or two after DD1 was born I told my husband I regretted having a baby. I was so, so, SO sad and sleep deprived and she was a very demanding baby. A couple days later the crying subsided. She's the best thing that's ever happened to me and I know that now. But while the hormone crash was happening? It felt like an eternity. Hang in there, it's totally normal, but so listen to everyone else when they say if it hasn't gone away in a couple weeks then definitely call your doc. You're doing great!!
I told H I wished we could give the baby back and go back to it just being us and the dog. I think he didn't really know what to say to me. Pretty sure he said something about how it would get better, but it was hard to see that at the time.
I told MH my mom was better at taking care of DD than me.
It's so so fucking hard. And so humbling.
I cried so many times. 2w was also when MH cracked and told me he couldn't continue like we had been. Lol.
It did get better. Not as quickly as I wanted, but it did.
I cried so much the first few weeks. So normal. But I also talked to my doctor about ppd and got on Zoloft- I'm very thankful for that decision. She helped me decide if it was the normal "baby blues" or something more.
I'm 8 weeks pp now and it's like night and day. I can finally enjoy my baby and we have some sort of schedule going. You will get through this and it will be great. I remember making a similar post when I was about 2-3 weeks into it.
One thing that saved my life was getting a baby carrier that worked for us. I got the Lillebaby (can use for 7lbs and up with no insert) and a baby ktan. This let me hold the baby and do some things that made me feel human- like drink coffee. It also puts DD to sleep every single time.
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I know this is way late, but just wanted to say this response helps me a lot - sitting here 4 days pp and riding the waves of sadness. Wanted to send a quick thanks as it really resonated.
Super normal. I remember sitting in the rocking chair watching Real Housewives of Atlanta or some mindless shit and had those big silent tears just streaming down my face. You are not alone!!
It has been 16 years but I still remember those first weeks. It is tough as hell and it sucks but you will get through this and be able to tell the next mom to go thru it the same.
I hope it ends soon and you get some real rest and even better... that first smile.
You got this.
Eta @bernadine how are you doing? Any good advice for the new mom?