I've been crying all day

[Bernadine]

Normal for 12 days post partum, right?

We had a rough night. I was all excited because she slept for like 4 1/2 hours....but then she was awake from 2-5:30. And then up again at 6. Wanting to eat constantly, but then falling asleep. I'm exhausted and frustrated and feeling like if I was a better mother, I'd have more patience.

This is just normal hormonal stuff, right?

[fryjack2]

Your are exhausted and 12 days pp. tears are normal.

Newborn sleep cycles are hell. It's a miracle any of us survive them. A trick to get her to stay awake is to take some of her clothes off so she isn't warm enough to fall asleep. Sometimes it works. It may buy you a half hour longer stretch of sleep if it works.

Sending you hugs and sleep. Can you get a break and take a nap today?

[underwaterrhymes]

Totally normal.

I cried every single night for the first two or three weeks after K was born. I was just so tired and of course my hormones were crashing.

It starts to get better really soon, but if it doesn't, talk to your doctor. They can help you with that. ❤️

[Deleted]

I think it's normal. I cried a LOT after having Sofia. I remember just being so overwhelmed and realizing that it was so much harder than I thought it would be.

Hang in there, it does get better. Maybe your h can take over for an hour or two so you can have a nap?

[hymen]

I remember at about 2 weeks after DS1 was born having a complete and utter meltdown. My H took the baby from me and made me go take a nap. It is amazing how much hormones plus lack of sleep messes with you. ((Hugs))

[isabel]

I would say pretty normal, but definitely keep an eye on it. Have you otherwise been feeling pretty good?

I vividly recall a night when I was maybe 8 or 9 days pp when DS woke up around 2 or 3 and promptly spit up all down my back and all over my pillows. He wouldn't sleep anywhere but on me after that. I was terrified to fall asleep with him on me, so I spent the rest of the night on the couch with him on my chest. When DH came out the next morning to go to work I was sitting there sobbing holding a sleeping baby. H stayed home that day. lol

Anyway, I think it can be very normal and totally understandable. You are so sleep deprived and this has nothing to do with your capabilities as a mom. You're doing great!

[Bernadine]

Jul 2, 2016 13:26:45 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Your are exhausted and 12 days pp. tears are normal.

Newborn sleep cycles are hell. It's a miracle any of us survive them. A trick to get her to stay awake is to take some of her clothes off so she isn't warm enough to fall asleep. Sometimes it works. It may buy you a half hour longer stretch of sleep if it works.

Sending you hugs and sleep. Can you get a break and take a nap today?

I usually feed her in just a onesie. Her newborn pics are this afternoon, so probably no nap. Just keeping my fingers crossed for a better night tonight.

[jenna]

I cried after E's birth - a few days after we came home. 


Plus, I was so tired from the lack of good, uninterrupted sleep - that it just made everything seem more difficult.

Hang in there.

[pinkeggs]

So normal, but it doesn't make it suck any less I remember after DD2, sitting and sobbing on the couch and telling DH "I'm totally fine, it's totally fine, I know everything is fine" and just crying for hours.

Postpartum is such a bitchy mindfuck. Just cry and get through it, friend. Hugs.

[Bernadine]

I've generally been feeling ok, but I absolutely want to talk to my dr if this keeps up. I'm thinking today is mostly just because last night was bad.

[Monica Geller]

I had a slightly different situation since J was in the NICU for the first 2 weeks, but I cried a lot during those 2 weeks, and for the next 2 after he came home. Keep an eye on yourself but most of it is normal and won't last forever. You're a great mama!!

[cabbagecabbage]

Yes. There were many tears shed those first weeks. It's really hard but I promise it gets better.

eta: if it doesn't get better or not better enough, don't hesitate to reach out for help. There is no shame and many women get very real ppd.

[kaybee85]

Jul 2, 2016 13:31:23 GMT -5 @ygmg said:

I remember just being so overwhelmed and realizing that it was so much harder than I thought it would be.

YEP, this right here. Hang in there - these first few weeks are rough. ((Hugs))

[alzi]

So many tears. So normal. Hugs.

[bugandbibs]

Probably normal.

I kept tabs on myself by thinking about if what I was feeling could be solved by sleep. If you didn't feel better after a nap or with help then you should speak to your HCP. (((Hugs))) I cried every time I needed to nurse DD2 for the first 4 weeks. It was so hard.

[bcv513]

I cried every day for two weeks.

[mekia]

Yes, I cried a lot after both babies. These hormones are no joke.

[spitforspat]

I cried so much the first few weeks. So normal. But I also talked to my doctor about ppd and got on Zoloft- I'm very thankful for that decision. She helped me decide if it was the normal "baby blues" or something more.

I'm 8 weeks pp now and it's like night and day. I can finally enjoy my baby and we have some sort of schedule going. You will get through this and it will be great. I remember making a similar post when I was about 2-3 weeks into it.

One thing that saved my life was getting a baby carrier that worked for us. I got the Lillebaby (can use for 7lbs and up with no insert) and a baby ktan. This let me hold the baby and do some things that made me feel human- like drink coffee. It also puts DD to sleep every single time.

<3 <3 <3

[cville]

Yes.

Hang in there. If you're crying every day still in a couple weeks, call your OB.

[underwaterrhymes]

I also mention this because it was totally unexpected and I thought I was broken but was too embarrassed to tell many people at first. (I don't think it's super common because no one here had ever said, "oh man, me too!", but I'm also pretty sure I can't have been the first.)

My bladder was affected by the lengthy epidural with K, so instead of realizing I had to pee and excusing myself to the restroom as most people do, I was instead realizing I had to pee by peeling all over everything.

We had puppy pads everywhere.

Eventually my bladder remembered its job, but it was a super rough two or three weeks and the root of many tears.

[chickadee77]

Normal in my experience. I wish I had known that at the time, though. Hugs to you.

[Jalapeñomel]

Yes normal. It's so hard! You're doing a great job, I promise!

Also, don't be afraid to reach out to your obgyn if you don't feel good emotionally even if you think it's normal.

[Elsa]

Yes, I had bladder issues too. I had a catheter in for a long time bc of the bleeding and a balloon in my uterus and the combo of the two totally fucked my pelvic muscles. It does get better- I can now kind of hold it for a few min and don't just start going the second I see a toilet or hear running water.

Thinking of you Rak. It's so so hard.

[dancingirl21]

Yep, normal. DS2 is 2 weeks old and I spent some time crying last night when he was up 9:30-1am. Nothing I did made him happy so while he cried, I cried. I haven't slept more than 3.5 consecutive hours since he's been born and I'm so tired. This too shall pass. Hang in there!

[fivechickens]

Normal. I remember one day I had all three of them crying at the same time so I joined them. Sometimes it is all you can do.

You are not bad mother. Not even close.

[callmehales]

Yeah, newborns are cute but they suck sometimes. My DD will be a month old tomorrow, and hasn't gone more than 2 and a half hours between nursing sessions since the day she was born. Hence, I don't get more than 2 hours of uninterrupted sleep. I've cried more than once middle of the night because I can barely keep my eyes open and she doesn't want to sleep in the rock and play or the crib, only on me. Ask for help, or just ask for cheesecake or ice cream or whatever will make you feel the littlest bit better before you nap, lol

[dropitlikeitshott]

I'ts so hard. I cried for over an hour when I couldn't get the pump parts apart to wash(ds was a nicu baby). The hormones are so crazy postpartum.



You're doing a great job! Hang in there.

[dochas]

There is no way to understand what sleep deprivation is going to do to you. On top of the huge physical toll your body has been through. I honestly would worry about someone who didn't spend all day crying. This whole thing (the bad stuff) is temporary. Try to remember it's temporary.

[cleo29]

Totally normal. Cluster feedings are also very hard.

You are a great mom. My advice? Let people help. Reach out to those who have offered. Whether it is to be bring you food, nipple cream, whatever. Let them help so that you can focus on taking good care of yourself and that sweet baby girl.

[Monica Geller]

Jul 2, 2016 19:12:51 GMT -5 dropitlikeitshott said:

I'ts so hard. I cried for over an hour when I couldn't get the pump parts apart to wash(ds was a nicu baby). The hormones are so crazy postpartum.



You're doing a great job! Hang in there.

This happened to me too! I was crying at the little sink in my room trying to figure it all out!