Tuesday Randoms

[TR]

So...she doesn't like the fact that you date/sleep with multiple guys? Which is what a LOT of other single woman in America do? Ooookay then.

We had a really great weekend up until last night. We had kind of a clusterfuck Sunday night into Monday morning due to taking in a stray dog, I had to sleep in the guest room with my dog which put me in a weird mood (I really love sleeping with BF and waking up to morning sex, damnit!) and then we were dealing with finding out whose dog it was, keeping her separate from my dog, etc. So I just felt kind of disconnected from BF all day and let it get to me and saying goodbye at the end of the night was weird and I just wish the whole weekend had ended on a better note. Blah.

[TR]

Jul 5, 2016 10:59:13 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Jul 5, 2016 10:38:46 GMT -5 TR said:

So...she doesn't like the fact that you date/sleep with multiple guys? Which is what a LOT of other single woman in America do? Ooookay then.

We had a really great weekend up until last night. We had kind of a clusterfuck Sunday night into Monday morning due to taking in a stray dog, I had to sleep in the guest room with my dog which put me in a weird mood (I really love sleeping with BF and waking up to morning sex, damnit!) and then we were dealing with finding out whose dog it was, keeping her separate from my dog, etc. So I just felt kind of disconnected from BF all day and let it get to me and saying goodbye at the end of the night was weird and I just wish the whole weekend had ended on a better note. Blah.

That sucks. I hate feeling like I left things in a bad place.


I think she disagrees with non-monogamy as a social concept. That people can both care about each other and not consider sexual monogamy to be the pinnacle of an ideal relationship. While we were out a husband I know in an open relationship was flirting with me. Nothing happened between he and I, but apparently just seeing that it could bothered her. 

Yeah, we've texted this morning and both said we wished we'd handled it differently, but I'm looking forward to actually seeing him, either for a quick second tonight on my way to the gym or tomorrow for a soccer game so we can hug it out.

Ah. Is she married? I can see how if she has some insecurities, watching a husband flirt with another woman (no matter his marital agreement) would be unnerving for her, like, oh if this guy does it, maybe my husband will want to, but that's HER issue and she has no right taking that out on you.

[berbles]

@32flavors, maybe you can respond with an invitation to ask you questions about your relationships, instead of judging based on incomplete information. You know, something like, "I understand that you are concerned, but I'd much rather have an actual conversation with you about it. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask. But please know that I reserve the right not to answer anything I'm uncomfortable with."

And yes, I've found that 90% of the time, when someone is judging another person's relationship, it's because they're projecting their own insecurities.

[berbles]

I'm really nervous about Friday. BF is going to propose at a Quakes game. Tons of friends will be there. His parents are flying in from Phoenix.

Actually, I'm laughing in my head about how he thought he was going to pull this off as a surprise. It's MUCH better that I have some idea of what's happening, even if no one else knows I know. Otherwise, I'd be really annoyed at him telling me I need to leave work early on Friday, lol.

I'm also feeling a little tiny bit of weird guilt because XH will probably be there. XH is the one who introduced me to soccer and the Quakes. OTOH, I met BF at a tailgate, so the Quakes brought US together too.

Oh, also, I realized a super weird coincidence: XH popped the questions 19 days after I had gotten my first real, full time job. BF is going to propose 18 days after I finally got another full time job (after a year and a half of un/under-employment). That's kinda weird, right? Both times the timing was completely coincidental to the job.

[Deleted]

Yay berbles! I would NOT want to know because I would be so nervous like you.


A guy was yelling and waving a knife around in my apartment complex when I was walking my dogs. One of our landscaper/gardeners ushered me another way away from the guy. At first I thought he was joking. Nope. Like a chef knife and yelling something something "you're DEAD". When I drove by to leave I saw through the front gate he was in a stand off with the police. Guns pointed at him and everything. I am curious as to the outcome.

[berbles]

Jul 5, 2016 13:45:44 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

Yay berbles ! I would NOT want to know because I would be so nervous like you.


A guy was yelling and waving a knife around in my apartment complex when I was walking my dogs. One of our landscaper/gardeners ushered me another way away from the guy. At first I thought he was joking. Nope. Like a chef knife and yelling something something "you're DEAD". When I drove by to leave I saw through the front gate he was in a stand off with the police. Guns pointed at him and everything. I am curious as to the outcome.

Liked for the first part, not the second!

How scary!

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Jul 5, 2016 13:47:35 GMT -5 berbles said:

Jul 5, 2016 13:45:44 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

Yay berbles ! I would NOT want to know because I would be so nervous like you.


A guy was yelling and waving a knife around in my apartment complex when I was walking my dogs. One of our landscaper/gardeners ushered me another way away from the guy. At first I thought he was joking. Nope. Like a chef knife and yelling something something "you're DEAD". When I drove by to leave I saw through the front gate he was in a stand off with the police. Guns pointed at him and everything. I am curious as to the outcome.

Liked for the first part, not the second!

How scary!

Nothing like celebrating the nation's freedom quite like getting arrested. Am I right?

[1confused1]

berbles, so exciting!

[berbles]

Jul 5, 2016 14:21:48 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

berbles , so exciting!

Thanks!

I'm worried that he's going to do it on the field at halftime, in front of the whole fucking stadium and its cameras. I'm going to be on Sports Center, aren't I? 

[doglove]

Jul 5, 2016 13:45:44 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

Yay berbles ! I would NOT want to know because I would be so nervous like you.


A guy was yelling and waving a knife around in my apartment complex when I was walking my dogs. One of our landscaper/gardeners ushered me another way away from the guy. At first I thought he was joking. Nope. Like a chef knife and yelling something something "you're DEAD". When I drove by to leave I saw through the front gate he was in a stand off with the police. Guns pointed at him and everything. I am curious as to the outcome.

Yikes!

[TR]

Eeeeeeeee berbles!! I don't know how you're going to make it to Friday, lol. I wouldn't be able to concentrate on anything else!

I got to see BF and get a do-over hug & kiss. Then went to kickboxing in my open air, un-air-conditioned gym. Sooooooo hot!

[dreamcrisp1]

berbles, that's so exciting!!!! Yay!

[berbles]

Jul 5, 2016 18:29:53 GMT -5 TR said:

Eeeeeeeee berbles !! I don't know how you're going to make it to Friday, lol. I wouldn't be able to concentrate on anything else!

I got to see BF and get a do-over hug & kiss. Then went to kickboxing in my open air, un-air-conditioned gym. Sooooooo hot!

You know what's really funny? He and I are kind of pretending I don't know. Like, we keep talking about Friday and making plans, what with his parents flying in and everything, but neither of has has mentioned WHAT'S ACTUALLY HAPPENING ON FRIDAY. Because we're pretending I don't know. Even though we both know I know. But no one else knows I know.

[TR]

Jul 5, 2016 18:41:21 GMT -5 berbles said:

Jul 5, 2016 18:29:53 GMT -5 TR said:

Eeeeeeeee berbles !! I don't know how you're going to make it to Friday, lol. I wouldn't be able to concentrate on anything else!

I got to see BF and get a do-over hug & kiss. Then went to kickboxing in my open air, un-air-conditioned gym. Sooooooo hot!

You know what's really funny? He and I are kind of pretending I don't know. Like, we keep talking about Friday and making plans, what with his parents flying in and everything, but neither of has has mentioned WHAT'S ACTUALLY HAPPENING ON FRIDAY. Because we're pretending I don't know. Even though we both know I know. But no one else knows I know.

[jellymankelly]

Eeeek! That's so exciting, berbles! It is so funny to think back about how nervous you were about having the DTR talk, and now you two are getting engaged!

[berbles]

@32flavors, aw, I'm sorry honey. You're right that it's probably for the best, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.

[TR]

@32flavors, ugh I'm sorry. I've been in your exact position and even knowing it's for the best it still hurts. It's ok to be sad.

[thedutchgirl]

@32flavors, I'm sorry. Your perspective on it is good, but it is only natural to be sad about it.

[berbles]

Jul 5, 2016 18:55:13 GMT -5 TR said:

Jul 5, 2016 18:41:21 GMT -5 berbles said:

You know what's really funny? He and I are kind of pretending I don't know. Like, we keep talking about Friday and making plans, what with his parents flying in and everything, but neither of has has mentioned WHAT'S ACTUALLY HAPPENING ON FRIDAY. Because we're pretending I don't know. Even though we both know I know. But no one else knows I know.

I'm still cracking up. If I didn't know, I would have a pretty good idea that something was up. SO MANY people are coming to the game who don't ever come to games. LOL 

I was trying to tell BF last night that it was probably better that I know, even if I don't know all the details. He was still a little bummed that it's not a complete surprise. I didn't have the heart to tell him that I most definitely would have figured it out. 

Today I got an email from the guy who runs the supporters group (of which BF and I are a part):

The FO asked me to suggest them a couple from our group who could take part in one of those contests they are going to organize tomorrow. They will do some at half time, I think, but I believe that the one they asked for my help for is right after the game. I told the FO you and Chris will go there. I think - not sure- that you will take a couple of PKs on each other or some gimmick like that. I've been told they will give you guys some prizes, too. I didn't tell Chris, so if you wanna surprise him, I will keep it a secret. Wear your Ultras scarf and shirt/hoodie if you have one, if not, ask Jesus for a hoodie. He has plenty left.

They're all so adorable.


ETA: I'm totally playing along though. Acting surprised when people tell me they're coming, joking with the email-sender that I have no hand-eye/foot-eye coordination and will make a fool of myself.  (heart)

[boing]

berbles this is all so cute!!! I'm happy for you and can't wait to hear how it goes ❤️

[berbles]

Jul 7, 2016 19:54:53 GMT -5 boing said:

berbles this is all so cute!!! I'm happy for you and can't wait to hear how it goes ❤️

I just told him to try to make sure one of the team's professional photographers is on the field with us. Then I promised to shut up about it.