I'm so sorry. I was fired almost a year ago and it was so devastating. I was the breadwinner, it was so scary to think how we would manage financially. I know exactly how you feel...it is just awful. I took the next couple days to wallow, lay in bed, cry, and just feel sorry for myself. Don't try to push yourself too hard initially, take a day or two. It's a shock and something no one is ever prepared for.
You are NOT a loser, losing a job is one of the shittiest situations but you are not a loser. If you can, go on the vacation. We had one planned for 2 weeks after I lost my job and we still went. It was already paid for anyway. Best decision ever. That time away with DH was a nice little escape and helped clear my head a bit. I knew I had to come home and face the real world again but it really did help.
It WILL work out. I felt like it never would, I felt hopeless. And then an opportunity presented itself and I ended up going in a completely different direction in my career. You CAN do this, and you will. Be kind to yourself. ((Hugs))
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Not laid off- for all intents and purposes I was fired. Now- I was given the option to just close up shop and go or they offered to let me stay at work through the end of the month and put in my "resignation" in a couple weeks. Which, hello! Obvs I need to stay on and get paid for as long as possible until I can find something else. The firm Administrator also told me that if I end up filing unemployment they won't contest.
I also just saw that my position was posted on indeed 7 days ago- I'm just floored.
It's bizarre to me that they fired you, but are allowing you to stay on through the end of the month. Do you carry benefits? I would ask if you can stay on through the first day of August to keep your benefits for an extra month. DH's company let him do that when they laid him off. So nice. /sarcasm.
Post by lovelyshoes on Jul 6, 2016 21:37:50 GMT -5
I am so sorry. It's the worst. You are not a loser, it can happen to anybody. Be kind to yourself, regroup and move forward. I hope you find something better and this experience will be a distant memory soon. Hugs.
I'm so sorry. If they told you they won't contest unemployment if you resign, get it in writing!
I hope something even better comes for you soon.
Yes, definitely this. Since, ya know, if you resigned you can't collect unemployment. They're saying you can keep working for a few weeks, then resign...and then they'll still allow you to collect unemployment? .
Post by vanillacourage on Jul 6, 2016 22:16:10 GMT -5
I'm sorry. I've been there and it just totally fucking sucks. Agree with others - wallow, go on the vacation and take some time. I'm in such a better place and it will happen that way for you too.
That really sucks; I'm sorry. It sounds like they're being shitty about it. You are not a loser, in any way. All sorts of awesome people have lost their jobs somewhere along the way.
I was going to send you a private message, but I've decided to post publicly because there might be someone out there in our shoes who can benefit from reading and sharing our painful experience.
I won't lie to you. It's still not a great time for me. It has been three months, and I remain rather sad.
But I put on a happy face every day because there is nothing to be gained from wallowing.
It has taken me a long time to go public with my unemployment in the real world beyond GBCN. It is embarrassing. It is shameful. It is depressing. Who gets fired? Shitty people get fired.
Right?
Wrong.
I am finally at the point at which I recognize and accept that you don't have to be shitty to be fired. Amazing people get fired all the time. Oprah was fired at one point. Oprah!
When I read this article about how a high-ranking executive at The Met handled his recent firing, I felt inspired. It helped me go public about my unemployment and to let go of unnecessary shame. I posted for all to see on Facebook. I finally told my in-laws. I reached out to my husband's extended family for possible leads. And now I am having lunches and drinks with so many people, including people I haven't seen for years.
What I've learned recently is that people are kind and supportive and really want to help you get back on your feet. I don't know if any of my meetings will lead to anything, but, at the very least, all of these friends and acquaintances are lifting my spirits and reminding me that I have many great qualities. Being fired did not negate those talents.
I won't even begin to discuss real employment strategies. All of that stuff is so dependent on industry, years of experience, specialization, location, etc.
What I do want to convey, however, is that you are not alone in feeling this horrible feeling about getting fired. It's insanity. It's like an out-of-body experience. How could this happen to me? Do I suck?
We do not suck. We really don't. And you won't believe this for awhile, but it's true.
It may take you some time before you feel better about yourself. I'm getting there slowly.
You may also consider reading all the wonderful posts in my verge-of-giving-up thread from a couple weeks ago.
Admittedly, I felt too down to respond to many inquiries in that thread (and some private messages) as I'd originally intended, but I did read everybody's words. It was a bit overwhelming. It still is.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Jul 7, 2016 6:54:30 GMT -5
My HR knowledge is limited to one state and one position so I could be mistake but I'm pretty sure I'm not. Please do not resign on paper if you want to collect unemployment! That signature on a resignation letter is the first and most effective way to stop a claim.
Not laid off- for all intents and purposes I was fired. Now- I was given the option to just close up shop and go or they offered to let me stay at work through the end of the month and put in my "resignation" in a couple weeks. Which, hello! Obvs I need to stay on and get paid for as long as possible until I can find something else. The firm Administrator also told me that if I end up filing unemployment they won't contest.
I also just saw that my position was posted on indeed 7 days ago- I'm just floored.
I feel humiliated and heartbroken and defeated.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. The feeling of being fired is the worst. I had a similar sort of thing happen to me (before the days of internet job postings) -- I was all headscratchy when someone called about the job I had been doing for years. I'm not an employment lawyer, not a lawyer at all, in fact, but if they "let" you resign you may not be eligible for unemployment at all. Please check into this before you officially resign. If you have emails about this, you might want to keep them and just agree orally to whatever your last day will be without an actual letter of resignation. Good luck!
I'm so sorry. It's really shitty of them to advertise your position before telling you.
I'm not sure how things work in the US but if resigning normally stops you from collecting unemployment (it does here), do not put anything in writing.
I am so sorry. I echo what others are saying about not being eligible for UE if you resign. I'd probably work my time, NOT put in my resignation, and let them fire me. Good luck and hang in there!