Wednesday Randoms

[abcdefu]

Good Morning!! Happy Hump Day!

I have 5 more days at work before I go out with my ligament surgery. For my 30th birthday, I will be recovering from surgery, so I am planning a trip for when I turn 30 1/2, since I am using all my vacation time for my surgery so I can get paid. Eureka1984, I may be somewhere close to you for the trip!

In other news, I purchased a wedge pillow that has a neck massager in it! I hope it arrives today!

I also lost another pound! I only have 4 more pounds to lose until my ticker is accurate, since I gained some of the weight back.

And one last random, I am (im) patiently waiting for a client to come in my first stating he/she was arrested playing p.o.k.e m.on go! I will die from laughter!

[glitzyglow]

What is the recovery time like for your surgery abcdefu? The half-birthday trip sounds fun!

Tonight I'm going out with some friends for a "girls' night" dinner. I'm looking forward to it.

I want to try to lose 10lbs by the end of September. Doable if I really try!

[pandora]

abcdefu , good luck with the surgery! Also, I am going to need details on this arrest! (Hope it's nothing serious, not making light of someone's nightmare).

I have been trying to get out of the house for 3 hours now. It's not looking pretty! We've had a diaper blow out (all over me, so we jumped in the shower...again), 3 diapers later, 2 feedings from baby screaming and now I'm just exhausted and having another bowl of cereal, LOL. So much for getting out before the strong sun. :/

I am freaking out because my area's post office stinks. They lose mail constantly and I do not receive half of my mail so I got an PO Box thinking that would help. I thought it was. My baby's ss card was supposed to be delivered in early June. I just confirmed that it was sent to the PO Box so these people screwed up again and I'm freaking out that my son's ss # is likely in someone else's hands. WTF. Now I will be reviewing his credit to ensure nothing nefarious gets in there! SS office doesn't care, they just shrugged their shoulders and said to come in for another. Nice controls, grrr!

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I totally told my coworker yesterday that someone is going to get arrested by police or shot (by a private citizen) for trespassing. LOL.

pandora, can you freeze your baby's credit? I know you can for adults. It might give you some piece of mind?

I think my yoga teacher was trying to kill us all last night. He does hatha yoga when I have a preference to vinyasa. But he's so cool and told me he thought he scared me off last class. It's pushing me out of my comfort zone and I get a great workout from his classes but I can only do it twice a week because it makes me so sore.

I'm trying to teach a supervisor about personnel costs. She doesn't understand that our personnel cost is not JUST their hourly wage. Their salary is only 67ish percent of PC because we pay insurance premium, taxes, EAP, etc on their behalf. It's a concept she just can't understand I guess. So I just told her what formula to use and don't worry about the "why" behind it.

[doglove]

Add me to the trying to lose weight camp. I've got the final ten pounds to go - the hardest! My doctor put me on metaformin to see if that would help because I have PCOS and the weight can be so stubborn to take off even though I'm working my butt off with exercise and cooking all my meals/tracking my food.

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pandora way to sneak in there that you had your baby (unless I missed it!) CONGRATS!!!!!

I'm all hoped up on green tea this morning. I'm really starting to see the results of my health and fitness! I fit into shorts that were too tight last year. Once I see progress it makes it all easier.

Going to some fundraising thing later today, but meeting up with one of my good friends first!

[Linie]

I'm jealous of all the weight loss in this post! I used to be great with keeping my weight on track, but since starting this job last year, I have gained a ton. And I can't get rid of it. Drastic measures will have to be taken...

Divorce was pronounced yesterday, now another two months for it to be official.

Last and urgent on the to-do list: sell the house

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Tomorrow is my Friday, so I'm excited for a long weekend. I think we may go to a food truck/brewery thing Friday for happy hour since I'm off!
My mom is making me batty and causing my anxiety to bother me a little. What else is new there?
I also need to lose some weight, but am not yet motivated. J has been eating healthier and exercising, so I should really get my butt in gear so we can do it together. I just love food. Dammit.

[shoofly]

Congrats on the weight losses, everyone. I could really use some of that motivation!

I returned from vacation on Friday last week. Vacation was amazing!! Flew into Atlanta, stayed at my gf's house overnight, then we drove to Panama City Beach, FL the next day. Stayed at the beach from Saturday-Thursday. Came home Friday. I can't put into words how much I needed to get away after everything that's happened in the first 6 months of this year. And I have a great tan to show for it

I jokingly posted on fb that I was looking for jobs in GA/FL. One of the doctors I work with said I just couldn't leave! Yesterday, though, she approached me and said that she received an email from an old colleague looking for someone in my specific position in Pensacola, FL. SERIOUSLY?! I mean, it could just be a coincidence, but a huge one. I'm trying to decide if I should contact the person hiring or just leave it alone.......

[glitzyglow]

shoofly, dude, look into that job at least!

[berbles]

Jul 13, 2016 6:58:19 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Good Morning!! Happy Hump Day!

I have 5 more days at work before I go out with my ligament surgery. For my 30th birthday, I will be recovering from surgery, so I am planning a trip for when I turn 30 1/2, since I am using all my vacation time for my surgery so I can get paid.

My 30th birthday was SUPPOSED to be a tattoo party at my house. A small group was invited and my tattoo artist was going to do some small tattoos for us. Then he went MIA and I had to scramble to think of something else to do. XH refused to help me plan anything.

I ended up trying to do a pajama party at my house. Exactly 3 of my friends showed up in PJs. Even my XH couldn't be bothered to put a pair of fucking sweats on. It was probably the exact moment I knew our marriage was over. He couldn't even bother to put on PAJAMAS to help me celebrate my 30th.

So for my 30.5 birthday, I got my damn tattoo.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Jul 13, 2016 13:33:43 GMT -5 berbles said:

Jul 13, 2016 6:58:19 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Good Morning!! Happy Hump Day!

I have 5 more days at work before I go out with my ligament surgery. For my 30th birthday, I will be recovering from surgery, so I am planning a trip for when I turn 30 1/2, since I am using all my vacation time for my surgery so I can get paid.

My 30th birthday was SUPPOSED to be a tattoo party at my house. A small group was invited and my tattoo artist was going to do some small tattoos for us. Then he went MIA and I had to scramble to think of something else to do. XH refused to help me plan anything.

I ended up trying to do a pajama party at my house. Exactly 3 of my friends showed up in PJs. Even my XH couldn't be bothered to put a pair of fucking sweats on. It was probably the exact moment I knew our marriage was over. He couldn't even bother to put on PAJAMAS to help me celebrate my 30th.

So for my 30.5 birthday, I got my damn tattoo.

I remember my 30th bday .. xh still just a bf at that point and gave me my present - in a parking lot at lunch !! - bc he was in the middle of a 16 hr work day - no special dinner, no party ... my mom, sister and I went out to celebrate the day after.

[berbles]

Jul 13, 2016 13:57:55 GMT -5 pinkdutchtulips said:

Jul 13, 2016 13:33:43 GMT -5 berbles said:

My 30th birthday was SUPPOSED to be a tattoo party at my house. A small group was invited and my tattoo artist was going to do some small tattoos for us. Then he went MIA and I had to scramble to think of something else to do. XH refused to help me plan anything.

I ended up trying to do a pajama party at my house. Exactly 3 of my friends showed up in PJs. Even my XH couldn't be bothered to put a pair of fucking sweats on. It was probably the exact moment I knew our marriage was over. He couldn't even bother to put on PAJAMAS to help me celebrate my 30th.

So for my 30.5 birthday, I got my damn tattoo.

I remember my 30th bday .. xh still just a bf at that point and gave me my present - in a parking lot at lunch !! - bc he was in the middle of a 16 hr work day - no special dinner, no party ... my mom, sister and I went out to celebrate the day after.

I'm as pretty big birthday person (don't care if that makes me a child. I also love chicken nuggets. No shame), so I was CRUSHED. It was easily the worst birthday I've ever had. For comparison, the year before, he decorated the whole house, including turning the spare bedroom into a hookah/smoke room, with pillows and blankets and shit, and brought us snacks while we were in there getting stoned.

Like I said, in hindsight, it was the first step in the complete crumbling of our relationship.

I had surgery a month later, and he 1. was late picking me up for my pre-op appointment, 2. couldn't be bothered to do anything to help me afterward, including keeping his laundry off the floor in front of the bathroom or replacing the TP he used up (the TP was behind the toilet and I was unable to turn or bend at the waist, so I sat on the toilet and cried for 5+ minutes until he heard me; I also couldn't yell/scream due to the abdominal surgery).

We were separated 3 months later.

[shoofly]

Jul 13, 2016 13:22:54 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

shoofly , dude, look into that job at least!

I just sent an email to the provider who is looking to fill the position. I'm scared! Wimp!

[Eureka1984]

abcdefu keep me posted, we could do something in town!

I'm feeling all rage-y today. I have a bump on my eye and the summer camp I'm working for was in the sun all day today. It's so hot... Ugh

[1confused1]

berbles, and pinkdutchtulips, my 30 birthday was a dinner at By the Bucket, nursing a 3 month old.

I feel you ladies!

[abcdefu]

glitzyglow,6-8 weeks non-weight bearing, then 4-6 weeks in a boot, then finally, PT. Due to my neurological and balance issues, they have to put a "brace" in the side of my foot and pin/screw to reconstruct the ligaments. Oh and no crutches due to balance, so wheelchair, and we all know how my family feels about that!

pandora, LOL! It didn't happen yet! I'm waiting for it to happen, but if it does, you best believe, I will post about it! BTW congrats on your baby boy!!! How are you guys doing?

Eureka1984,I will definitely let you know!

Thanks ladies for sharing all of your 30th birthday stories! I know it's just another day, but I always envisioned doing something awesome for my 30th. It will just be postponed. Plus, I want to do something that can't be done on my real birthday.

[pandora]

Jul 13, 2016 10:34:59 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

pandora , can you freeze your baby's credit? I know you can for adults. It might give you some piece of mind?

That's an interesting question. That would be great if I could. I was thinking about it today and wondering if I even can pull his credit report on his behalf - maybe because I'm his guardian? I was planning on applying for a no fee credit card to start building his credit for him which I know others who have done that...so maybe I can as a guardian? I don't know. I tried to go to the SS office today and online it said it was open until 5pm. I picked up his birth certificate (they said it was required) and walked 20 minutes in the scorching heat, following the shady spots to try to keep him from over heating and stopped into random coffee shops to cool him off in intervals...FINALLY got to the SS office and the bastards close at noon on Wednesdays. RAGE!! Nothing online and the security said that the online hours are wrong entirely - they close at 4pm. GRRRRR. So, our next HOT day of 95 is Friday and of course that is the next possible day that I can go. So ridiculous. I literally got home, unpacked everything and we both jumped in the shower. I wish I could drink real drinks!! 

Yes, yes! I did post in June that I had my baby but no worries - I HAD MY BABY!!! (LOL) It was a rough road getting to meet him. 3 days of labor only to end up with emergency cesarean. But, all worth it that I got to meet my almost 10 pound chunky cherub. He was in NICU for ~3 of the 5 days because of the labor and other things but I'm hoping things settle down soon. He had a little surgery last week and has been going through a CrankyPants stage but today was a bit better so I'm hoping he's coming out of it. My sister was supposed to stay to help with the recovery but she fell ill and left the 1st day I was home. It was bad. I could barely move from surgery and I'm so thankful that a friend heard that she left (I have a lot of stairs and am not set up well for such surgery which is why I was trying to avoid it) and took 2 days off of work to stay with me and to help. She is my angel! 

Here's a little funny: I have been walking around for hours around midnight to calm him this past week. I live in the city. Sunday night I found a little park and I sat on one of the benches and was numb from exhaustion. I see two teenagers on the other side. I thought, "Yup, they are doing a drug deal (they were) but that's OK because my baby is calm." - I've lost my stinking mind! LOL.  I've been in survival mode and still trying to get on top of things. Today was my first productive (if you want to call it that, dang SS office) day being out. He's amazing and he just started laughing out loud yesterday. Melts my heart!! He's just 2 months and I feel like I just had him!! He loves to snuggle. I'm SO in love with him it's completely wild and overwhelmingly awesome!

Sorry, got wordy! But, this is one of my starting over amazeballs parts. <3

[bg]

Jul 13, 2016 21:01:02 GMT -5 pandora said:

Sorry, got wordy! But, this is one of my starting over amazeballs parts. <3

Love this! Congratulations!!!

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pandora, amazing. I'm so happy that you're happy.

And I totally would have assumed those teenagers were catching pokemon. But what do I know? I lived the privileged life of going through the taco bell drive through and getting my weed with my cheesy gordita crunch.

[Linie]

Jul 13, 2016 14:10:32 GMT -5 berbles said:

Jul 13, 2016 13:57:55 GMT -5 pinkdutchtulips said:

I remember my 30th bday .. xh still just a bf at that point and gave me my present - in a parking lot at lunch !! - bc he was in the middle of a 16 hr work day - no special dinner, no party ... my mom, sister and I went out to celebrate the day after.

I'm as pretty big birthday person (don't care if that makes me a child. I also love chicken nuggets. No shame), so I was CRUSHED. It was easily the worst birthday I've ever had. For comparison, the year before, he decorated the whole house, including turning the spare bedroom into a hookah/smoke room, with pillows and blankets and shit, and brought us snacks while we were in there getting stoned.

Like I said, in hindsight, it was the first step in the complete crumbling of our relationship.

I had surgery a month later, and he 1. was late picking me up for my pre-op appointment, 2. couldn't be bothered to do anything to help me afterward, including keeping his laundry off the floor in front of the bathroom or replacing the TP he used up (the TP was behind the toilet and I was unable to turn or bend at the waist, so I sat on the toilet and cried for 5+ minutes until he heard me; I also couldn't yell/scream due to the abdominal surgery).

We were separated 3 months later.

I can relate to this. In January 2013, I had lens implants because I didn't want to use contacts forever and lasik was not possible. STBXH refused to go to the doctor appointments with me because he was "against" it. Never knew why.

After careful due diligence, I decided to do it in an out-patient procedure, without general anesthesia but my doctor told me that my eyes would be sore for at least 24 hours. STBXH refused to make time to pick me up from the hospital (at 7 pm) so I drove home alone, hardly able to see clear.

When I got home, he asked for dinner.

Four months later, I knew I had to leave him.

Good riddance!

[berbles]

Jul 14, 2016 3:06:15 GMT -5 Linie said:

Jul 13, 2016 14:10:32 GMT -5 berbles said:

I'm as pretty big birthday person (don't care if that makes me a child. I also love chicken nuggets. No shame), so I was CRUSHED. It was easily the worst birthday I've ever had. For comparison, the year before, he decorated the whole house, including turning the spare bedroom into a hookah/smoke room, with pillows and blankets and shit, and brought us snacks while we were in there getting stoned.

Like I said, in hindsight, it was the first step in the complete crumbling of our relationship.

I had surgery a month later, and he 1. was late picking me up for my pre-op appointment, 2. couldn't be bothered to do anything to help me afterward, including keeping his laundry off the floor in front of the bathroom or replacing the TP he used up (the TP was behind the toilet and I was unable to turn or bend at the waist, so I sat on the toilet and cried for 5+ minutes until he heard me; I also couldn't yell/scream due to the abdominal surgery).

We were separated 3 months later.

I can relate to this. In January 2013, I had lens implants because I didn't want to use contacts forever and lasik was not possible. STBXH refused to go to the doctor appointments with me because he was "against" it. Never knew why.

After careful due diligence, I decided to do it in an out-patient procedure, without general anesthesia but my doctor told me that my eyes would be sore for at least 24 hours. STBXH refused to make time to pick me up from the hospital (at 7 pm) so I drove home alone, hardly able to see clear.

When I got home, he asked for dinner.

Four months later, I knew I had to leave him.

Good riddance!

Hugs. Real winners we had, huh?
What's crazy to me, is that 4 months earlier, when I had my first surgery, he was a perfect husband and caretaker. He even moved a mattress into the living room so he could sleep near me (I was sleeping on the couch for my initial recovery) in case I needed anything. And he bought me an iPad while I was in surgery. I don't know what happened in the following months but it ended our marriage.

Thank God! I'm wayyyyyyyy happier now!!