Thursday Randoms

[pinkdutchtulips]

Today is such a jumbled up day for me :*(

Yay !! It's DD's birthday but at the same time I hate being 'on guard' bc it's a trigger day w her dad. There are certain days he's more prone to violate the RO/PO and what was our anniversary and DD's birthday are the 2 biggest trigger days :/

I just hope and pray that he continues to stay away and doesn't try anything stupid today.

[doglove]

Hope it's an okay day pinkdutchtulips. I hate that on edge feeling.

I'm eager about my third date tomorrow, it's been such a long week having to wait to see him again.

[1confused1]

pinkdutchtulips, sending good thoughts your way. Happy birthday to R!!

[glitzyglow]

pinkdutchtulips, I hope for your and your dd's sake he stays far away with no contact.

I wish I made more money. I need to seriously buckle down and figure out what I need to do to make this happen.

I have some family coming in this weekend that sprang this on me with very short notice. I extended the offer some time ago, but given the relationship I have with this portion of family, it's probably best that a) it was short notice and b) it's a very short trip (2 days). I'm trying to be positive and get excited about the visit, but truthfully I'm not looking forward to it. I need an attitude adjustment.

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So I have a "friend" coming into town and we are going to Vegas for a few days. He asked me to split the room with him for 230. I am boarding my dogs for almost 200 and we're using my car/gas to drive there. No dude. No.

ETA: He's transitioning out of the military and qualifies for UE. He doesn't want to apply because he says he can live off his savings until he's picked up by the FAA in 3-4 months. And then he asks me for 200 bucks for the hotel room? I don't understand the logic.

[Eureka1984]

Jul 14, 2016 11:30:44 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I wish I made more money. I need to seriously buckle down and figure out what I need to do to make this happen.

We need to totally need to do some kind of group thing on saving money because I would love to make more too.

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@lemonlover I guess I don't really understand why you wouldn't pay for half of the room, unless you are going as some favor to him for some reason? Having to board your dogs is just part of being a dog owner. If I go out to dinner with a friend who paid for a babysitter, they don't expect me to pick up the tab for them because I didn't have to pay a babysitter. If the cost of gas is really going to be $200 then I take it all back, but if it's not, I think you should pay him the difference between the cost of gas and the hotel room.

[1confused1]

I'm so tired, I haven't slept through the night for the last 3 nights (two middle of the night phone calls and my son was sick last night). Hopefully I can sleep tonight!

[doglove]

No just no @lemonlover.

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Jul 14, 2016 12:57:57 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

@lemonlover I guess I don't really understand why you wouldn't pay for half of the room, unless you are going as some favor to him for some reason? Having to board your dogs is just part of being a dog owner. If I go out to dinner with a friend who paid for a babysitter, they don't expect me to pick up the tab for them because I didn't have to pay a babysitter. If the cost of gas is really going to be $200 then I take it all back, but if it's not, I think you should pay him the difference between the cost of gas and the hotel room.

It's a favor because he chose the activity and a non-dog friendly hotel plus asked to extend extra days so he could visit his grandfather. I wanted to do one night and he wanted to do 3. He's staying at my house for a week after for free so he can visit his friends here and he will borrow my car while I'm at work. I'm picking him up/dropping him off from the airport etc etc. We are also driving to LA and other places while he's here. I don't expect him to buy gas or groceries. If he pushed that he wanted me to pay half I would cancel on him and not go to Vegas.

 When I picked Germany for our trip, I paid for half his plane ticket because my ticket was free. I've paid for a cabin in Gatlinburg for a weekend. I paid for our last two night in Peru at a hotel. It's because I was in a better place financially. It's not like I split hairs over everything but I'm not spending extra money on something I didn't want to do in the first place but since he's my friend and I haven't seen him in over a year, I'm willing to use my vacation time and spend SOME money on seeing him and spending time with him.

[arielroux]

Jul 14, 2016 11:24:56 GMT -5 doglove said:

Hope it's an okay day pinkdutchtulips . I hate that on edge feeling.

I'm eager about my third date tomorrow, it's been such a long week having to wait to see him again.

I love (and hate) this feeling! I hope you have a great time!!

[statlerwaldorf]

I hope he doesn't try anything stupid pinkdutchtulips. It's ds1's birthday today too. He just turned 2. I also got the court date to renew my RO. I am really tired of dealing with the court.

Exh never acknowledged dd1's birthday and she was really hurt. I'm wondering if he will acknowledge ds1's. I'm afraid it is going to hurt dd1 even more.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Jul 14, 2016 18:55:09 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

I hope he doesn't try anything stupid pinkdutchtulips. It's ds1's birthday today too. He just turned 2. I also got the court date to renew my RO. I am really tired of dealing with the court.

Exh never acknowledged dd1's birthday and she was really hurt. I'm wondering if he will acknowledge ds1's. I'm afraid it is going to hurt dd1 even more.

so far so good nothing ... yet

DD's pretty ambivalent about xh remembering her bday. She has very few memories of him and was a no show at birthdays 2-4 and while he had a friend drop something off for her 5th bday (so he wouldn't violate the RO) he was entirely absent from her bday last year and it didn't bother her .