Tuesday randoms

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PDQ
Spoke to some old coworkers and there's quite the hot mess going on at my old job.
It was a surgical/procedural suite in a hospital--so an area with a crew of about 15 + surgeons. No one has taken my position so they are short. Another coworker is on a leave of absence. There are people on vacation because it's summer. There was a huge issue in which a manager had an affair (and then it ended) with a subordinate (who is now on leave of absence)and is now getting divorced from spouse who also works in our facility. No one brought it to HR, but now area is suffering because manager will not replace the ex-affair person while they are on leave.
They are all fed up and it's a total disaster. I feel bad for them, but I am so so happy I am out of there.
HAPPY TUESDAY!

[karenj]

Oh my, I'm glad you are out of there to. What a mess.

My H told me last night that he thinks we should call it quits. Says we aren't either one happy. Of course, this was all on the phone. I feel like I should be really heartbroken but I am really just worried about money. He had just started back to work at the end of April, we just got health insurance, and we still are not caught up on bills. Everything is in my name so I don't have to worry about that. My girls are going to be so sad.

[doglove]

Yikes @blueyes623. Hugs karenj. I missed my circuit class at the gym yesterday and I see they are offering a similar one (tabata) tomorrow at 5:30am with my favorite instructor. I am going to make a serious attempt to go, but yikes. I'll have to be up by 5am.

[glynn]

Jul 19, 2016 9:11:21 GMT -5 karenj said:

Oh my, I'm glad you are out of there to. What a mess.

My H told me last night that he thinks we should call it quits. Says we aren't either one happy. Of course, this was all on the phone. I feel like I should be really heartbroken but I am really just worried about money. He had just started back to work at the end of April, we just got health insurance, and we still are not caught up on bills. Everything is in my name so I don't have to worry about that. My girls are going to be so sad.

Sorry.... Are you married to my XH?? He kept telling that I was not happy then that we were not happy. Mine was by text though... Good Luck it will get better I promise.

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karenj, my xh also said we were getting divorced because I MADE him unhappy. NOTHING to do with him cheating on me and being a condescending jerkface who gas lighted constantly.

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((karenj))

[pinkdutchtulips]

Hugs karenj

I told xh we were getting a divorce over the phone

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I'm OBSESSED with the RNC. Like I cannot turn it off. Political Nerd alert! I'm getting SO excited to head to the Democratic convention but I have NO idea what to wear. If anyone has any ideas I'm all for it! I'm an apple shape and about a size 8/10. I really love my legs. I still can't believe i'm going. It's like a dream come true.

I totally went off my diet this weekend, but I'm trying to tell myself it doesn't mean I've gained 10 pounds back, and that getting back on track today will help it all out. I'm heading back to yoga tonight and I'm SO excited. Then later a pampering at home facial.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Jul 19, 2016 11:36:34 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I'm OBSESSED with the RNC. Like I cannot turn it off. Political Nerd alert! I'm getting SO excited to head to the Democratic convention but I have NO idea what to wear. If anyone has any ideas I'm all for it! I'm an apple shape and about a size 8/10. I really love my legs. I still can't believe i'm going. It's like a dream come true.

I totally went off my diet this weekend, but I'm trying to tell myself it doesn't mean I've gained 10 pounds back, and that getting back on track today will help it all out. I'm heading back to yoga tonight and I'm SO excited. Then later a pampering at home facial.

are you following the CEP thread about the RNC ? It's pure gold

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I'm casually seeing someone who is republican but truly dislikes trump yay. but then he went off on a rant about the saying "black lives matter" vs "all lives matter". I legit felt my eyes glaze over and my vagina fold itself up and put a do not disturb sign on the clit.

[glynn]

Jul 19, 2016 12:55:24 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

I'm casually seeing someone who is republican but truly dislikes trump yay. but then he went off on a rant about the saying "black lives matter" vs "all lives matter". I legit felt my eyes glaze over and my vagina fold itself up and put a do not disturb sign on the clit.

LOL

[berbles]

UGH. I'm in a stupid fucking argument with an acquaintance who is defending his repeated use of the word fa***t. So disgusting.

This was after I had the NERVE(!!) to warn him that his GoFundMe asking people to pay for him not to vote for Trump is illegal.

Oh, but then he followed it up (after changing the wording on the GoFundMe) with the fact that he's not actually even registered to vote. Oh, so you're a liar, you're attempting to commit voter fraud, AND you're a fucking homophobic twat. HOKAY.

[shoofly]

I can't believe it's only Tuesday. I am just sooooo tired and worn out. Not because of anything strenuous actually, lol...but because I cannot sleep. To save my life. SO TIRED. I go in for a med check tomorrow, so I need to speak with her about trying another sleep aid. Ugh.

I am still in contact with an office looking for someone with my experience/exact job, in Florida. My information has now been handed off to their Clinic Manager to contact me. HOLY CRAP. If I move to Florida, my mom will be so upset. But it's Florida. And the beach! The sun! The new crop of men (lol)! The possibilities!

Lastly, I found out yesterday that my ex definitely has a new girlfriend. I left him on June 9th. They've been seeing each other since a week after I moved out/he threw my things in the hallway. We lived together. Were together almost a year. And someone commented on a pic yesterday (not of them, but related) and said they were "so happy to have finally met what'shername". Finally?!? Are you fucking kidding me? How about the live-in girlfriend he just broke up with - the one raising his son, the one he used, abused, and lied to, all literally? It has barely been a month. Finally my ass. Bitch. Unfriended. I don't need that shit.

[3dogdays]

Jul 19, 2016 16:41:46 GMT -5 shoofly said:

I can't believe it's only Tuesday. I am just sooooo tired and worn out. Not because of anything strenuous actually, lol...but because I cannot sleep. To save my life. SO TIRED. I go in for a med check tomorrow, so I need to speak with her about trying another sleep aid. Ugh.

I am still in contact with an office looking for someone with my experience/exact job, in Florida. My information has now been handed off to their Clinic Manager to contact me. HOLY CRAP. If I move to Florida, my mom will be so upset. But it's Florida. And the beach! The sun! The new crop of men (lol)! The possibilities!

Lastly, I found out yesterday that my ex definitely has a new girlfriend. I left him on June 9th. They've been seeing each other since a week after I moved out/he threw my things in the hallway. We lived together. Were together almost a year. And someone commented on a pic yesterday (not of them, but related) and said they were "so happy to have finally met what'shername". Finally?!? Are you fucking kidding me? How about the live-in girlfriend he just broke up with - the one raising his son, the one he used, abused, and lied to, all literally? It has barely been a month. Finally my ass. Bitch. Unfriended. I don't need that shit.

Hugs! My STBXH went on vacation with 'friends' the weekend after I moved out with our 2 year old. He hadn't even told his family we were getting a divorce and pictures showed up on Facebook of him kissing another girl. His mom had the nerve to tell me ' well you know he can't be alone'. F that. I told her I was no longer speaking to her. He cheated on me for over a year and that's what you say?!?! Some people aren't worth it.

[3dogdays]

On Thursday my STBXH will become my XH. I'm really sad about it. I don't miss him but I misse being married. I miss having someone to help me, to depend on, to talk to, etc. XH stopped being that person a long time ago but it still sucks. I'm doing ok being on my own and S is doing wonderfully ( besides being a 2 year old). I'm just sad and the finality of it all is bringing back all the thoughts of why I was scared to leave in the first place

[jenstar]

Jul 19, 2016 20:30:14 GMT -5 3dogdays said:

On Thursday my STBXH will become my XH. I'm really sad about it. I don't miss him but I misse being married. I miss having someone to help me, to depend on, to talk to, etc. XH stopped being that person a long time ago but it still sucks. I'm doing ok being on my own and S is doing wonderfully ( besides being a 2 year old). I'm just sad and the finality of it all is bringing back all the thoughts of why I was scared to leave in the first place

I think that's totally normal. I still feel like that occasionally and I know my xh was a horrible husband. At least now we have a second chance to find someone who will be a good husband and partner x

[doglove]

Jul 19, 2016 20:30:14 GMT -5 3dogdays said:

On Thursday my STBXH will become my XH. I'm really sad about it. I don't miss him but I misse being married. I miss having someone to help me, to depend on, to talk to, etc. XH stopped being that person a long time ago but it still sucks. I'm doing ok being on my own and S is doing wonderfully ( besides being a 2 year old). I'm just sad and the finality of it all is bringing back all the thoughts of why I was scared to leave in the first place

That's totally okay, I experienced all those same emotions when my divorce was final. I got the paperwork and just balled in the car reading it over. The word dissolution of marriage just really got me. Hugs. You will be okay and you can find that again with a relationship that is more healthy for you. 

[doglove]

Omg shoofly, that just again confirms you did the right thing to get away from that guy.

[dancelnow]

So far today I've been hit on at work by 2 men who I am at the very bottom end of their "half your age +7" range. And one square in the middle of my range, but married with kids. And when I told my BF he responded along the lines of he never realized what I deal with. And a little worried he was just like those guys adding to my problem. Told him at least he's not retirement age and hitting on me.