Flameful confessions.

[pantsparty]

Jul 28, 2016 8:35:10 GMT -5 ProfessorArtNerd said:

I'm probably going to cry to my therapist today about kid ballet.  I see everything as a symbol of something much greater.  I feel like this is all my fault, if I'd stayed and heard how far off track she was, I could've worked with her.

Also- the past two nights, H has slept during the day then went out at night.  Lucy and I called them "party nights" because we can do whatever we want to do and be as loud as we can.  It's so much easier when he's not around

Is Lucy crushed about this? It's not necessarily a bad thing to learn you have a work hard at something to get to the next level. She may make some friends in her new class too!

[puddleofgrace]

[Deleted]

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

I would consider how you feel about any/every woman, gay person, person of color, person with a disability, and what Trump would mean for their rights and their safety.

[sugarbear]

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

My flameful is that I don't understand how this is even possible.

I'm judging.

Sorrynotsorry.

[Deleted]

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

What are your basic fundamental beliefs? Which candidate do you think lines up best with those and why?

I'm honestly shocked that anyone can be wavering between Clinton and Trump.

Also, even setting aside all the racist, xenophobic, and misogynistic things he has said, remember that Trump asked Russia to hack American emails yesterday. Sit with that for a bit.

[sequins]

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

What are your reasons for wanting to vote for Trump?

[eddy]

I am shocked Trump has not mocked Gabby Gifford yet. That is how low of a human I think he really is. I bet someone had to take his phone away last night.

[Elsa]

Jul 28, 2016 7:00:03 GMT -5 TR said:

I refuse to buy a house that doesn't have a pool or doesn't have the space for us to put one in. It's literally the only thing that is a must have for me in this whole move. Flameful because I'm not the one buying the house.

This is a requirement for our next house. It must already have a pool.

Our friends got a quote for a pool this year- and their years requires some grading so that jacked up the price some, but their quite was $80k. Insanity.

[NandaB]

Jul 28, 2016 9:37:01 GMT -5 @wandering said:

Jul 28, 2016 7:16:53 GMT -5 cinderbella said:

I've lost 18 pounds and nobody has noticed. And I'm the WORST at spotting weight loss in other people so I really have no reason to be annoyed. I started out pretty heavy and have 40 more pounds to lose so it's not like there wasn't extra padding to begin with. LOL

Congrats!

And people may have noticed but don't say anything. I know for a fact I never comment on a person's body weight unless it's someone who has specifically said to me, "I lost 10 pounds from making lifestyle changes" which I presume means they are open to a compliment at the time. I personally don't like when people comment on my body.

Keep up the good work!

It's such a hard spot, because I love complimenting people, but am super self conscious myself. I take my kids to play somewhere run by a very nice woman. We hadn't been in probably 6 months and she had obviously lost quite a bit of weight. So after all of the "nice to see yous" I mentioned that she looked really great and she said she had lost over 100 lbs!!!! So then I was able to gush and congratulate her, but tried to tread lightly in case she didn't want to talk about it with basically a stranger.

[CurlyQ284]

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

Trump doesn't have a plan for any issue. So if it's about issues....Its Hillary.

If it's about who is a better human being, that's also Hillary.

[TR]

I have a feeling that @bonster214 's coworker has been feeding her his FoxNews crackpot stories and I get the general idea that she's not very self-informed (from the straight ticket voting comment) so I think that's a factor here.

[malibu]

I...

I'm not really sure what to say about Bonster's post.

Like, I fucking hate Trump with the fire of a thousand suns, and I can't even imagine in any possible universe how anyone - especially female - could ever think that racist, sexist, bigoted, xenophobic pig could ever have any place in any possible position of government.

You know how Trump thinks Mexicans are drug dealers and rapists? How he wants to build a wall?

How he says Russia should hack HRC's email?

How he is is FUCKING ENDORSED AND BELOVED BY THE KKK AND NEO-NAZIS?

How he has four decades' worth of involvement in discriminatory and racist actions?

Yeah. Think about that.

I hate that fucking Cheeto (TM Awesomely Luvvie).

[Elsa]

@bonster214 you do realize that it's because of Obama and ACA that - should your kidney issue be a bigger thing- you won't be precluded from future coverage because of pre-existing conditions? Hillary will fight to maintain and improve ACA. Trump will dismantle it. You could potentially be without insurance and the ability to get it should whatever it is that is happening be a big deal. I'm absolutely no wishing that on you, but it's things like that you need to consider.

[NandaB]

Jul 28, 2016 9:53:53 GMT -5 sugarbear said:

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

My flameful is that I don't understand how this is even possible.

I'm judging.

Sorrynotsorry.

I'm here. I'm glad the rest of you are giving helpful answers because I'm really WTF about this "dilemma"

[blackcat]

Jul 28, 2016 7:00:03 GMT -5 TR said:

I refuse to buy a house that doesn't have a pool or doesn't have the space for us to put one in. It's literally the only thing that is a must have for me in this whole move. Flameful because I'm not the one buying the house.

Not flameful    We bought a house with a pool in October and it's pretty much the best thing ever. 

[jojoandleo]

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

At least something in here is actually flameful. Honest question, no snark, what makes you WANT to vote for Trump?

If it is because he is a "business man" listen to Bloomberg's speech last night. Trump is actually a TERRIBLE businessman. He has filed bankruptcy 3 times. He is in debt up to his eyeballs. The only reason he has what he does is because he came from money. He doesn't pay small business owners. He has been sued for not paying people more times than I have questioned why I went to law school.

Is it Benghazi/emails? That shit is hyped. Hillary actually had nothing to do with denying reinforcements for Benghazi.  The emails-many SoS did the same/similar thing.  This was a Republican witch hunt.

Is it a fear of immigration?  He seriously has no real plans.  A wall will never be built.  And even if it WAS-IT WOULD DO JACK SHIT.  It is simple pandering. 

Is it that you like that he calls Mexicans "rapists"? women "fat pigs" or says they are "bleeding out of her you know where"? Do you think ALL Muslims should be banned? (Or do you only think MIDDLE EASTERN Muslims should be banned?  Do you even know there are Muslims of every race?)  Do you like that he has white supremacists campaigning for him?  If so, go ahead and vote for him and may god have mercy on your soul.

[calamity]

[sewf]

I don't know this person. A friend shared this on facebook and it is geared toward Bernie supporters, but I think it's still relevant.

Justice Blaine Wainwright

July 26 at 12:20am · Los Angeles, CA ·
New Rule:

If you're voting for Trump (or a third-party candidate to "punish" the DNC) you have to meet with your Gay, Lesbian, Transgender, Black, Muslim and Hispanic friends and explain why your need for spite is more important than their right to live free and happy lives.
You have to look them in the eyes and tell them why your anger at a 238 year old system, that didn't dramatically change in a few months, is worth more than their safety or security.

You need to meet with every mother, father, sister, brother and parent who has lost a loved one to gun violence and tell them why a lack of Bernie supporters at the polls is enough reason to support the RNC's love affair with guns and their hatred of common sense gun reform.

You have to tell your female friends that you're furious about Benghazi and other vague incidents that are somehow Hillary's fault and that the de-funding of Planned Parenthood is worth enduring as long as she isn't in the White House.

You'll need to take time away from PokemonGo and Netflix to talk with the youngest generation of Americans who will live with the legacy of non-existent environmental protection that your vote promised them. An environment we tossed away, because Hillary is pro fracking. A position far worse than Trump's pro fracking policy and one she assuredly can't be persuaded to change.

You'll be expected to go door to door and apologize to all the people who will lose their health insurance when President Trump dismantles Obamacare. Access to medical services may be important, but they'll need to understand you were expecting free college.

You'll be requested at several LGBTQ events, where we'll patiently listen to your reasons why you voted for a President whose party just stated they'd work to reverse marriage equality. I would do this one quickly however, before we get too comfortable being treated as human beings, worthy of equality.

Of course, you'll also need to offer your time checking genitals at bathrooms around the country, as your vote ensures the Right has the political power to continue punishing and demonizing transgender people who simply want to pee.

Sexual assault survivors will want to know why their attackers walk away with a slap on the wrist, after being found guilty, but all the failed investigations and fruitless legal hearings in the world will never prove Clinton's innocence.

Your African-American friends will most likely expect a solid reason why you supported a party that sees no problem with police brutality or the militarization of their local law enforcement. Black Lives Matter, but not nearly as much as sticking it to the 1% percent. I suppose this seems like a problem we can continue to kick down the road.

I'd also prepare a few remarks for officers who go to work everyday terrified that they'll be the next ones punished for the ignorance of those who share their uniform, an ignorance that's been encouraged, normalized and weaponized by a news cycle that rewards the loudest jackass in the room and punishes the thoughtful introspection of empathy.

You'll also want to start growing your own food, because once President Trump sends his goons to deport "All dem illegals", you'll find a remarkably non-existent workforce of Americans willing to pick the nation's food for pennies a day.

This would also be the best time to pick up a few stuffed animals. It's the least you can give to the immigrant children whose families will be ripped apart by your anger. What's Spanish for, "You'll get a new mother ,but I won't get another revolution."?

I imagine a few mosques would love to sit down with you as you poetically pontificate on the ills of "Crooked Hillary" and all the crimes she's mysteriously never been convicted of, even if it means the Muslim community continues to be targeted and blamed for the actions of 0.0001% of their religion. (You won't need to do this for the white "lone wolf" shooter, as it's clear they're acting alone and clearly don't represent Christianity. He's just "sad and depressed.")

Skype will be a great tool when you need to video chat with the Syrian refuges who have seen their homes and entire lives destroyed by both American and Russian carpet bombing. Language barriers aside, I imagine they'll understand that your frustration is a fair trade for their entire lives and continued homelessness while we scramble to fix the mess we created, the mess Trump is happy to abandon.

If you could set aside some time to sit down with your fellow Americans with disabilities, I am positive they would love to hear the many reasons you helped empower a man so fond of mocking them. A man who delights in stepping on the weak, struggling and often forgotten. A coward enriched by rolling over people who many of us don't bother to recognize and even fewer take the time to empathize with or relate to. I imagine their daily struggles pale in comparison with your need to label a Mother and Grandmother as a "Lying whore."

In the end, you won't have enough time to meet with all these people and it's probably for the best. Once you start humanizing those most affected by your flippancy ... you risk seeing the bigger picture, which only assures your eventual return to reality. Once that starts to happen you'll be forced to accept that Bernie Sanders was ONLY able to get the DNC to change, because of the tireless efforts of his supporters.

Supporters like myself. Supporters like you.

You'll soon realize that few "Berners" love Hillary, but they understand their support of her is necessary to ensure this country survives long enough to give Bernie's policies time to take root. Suddenly you'll be forced to admit that political revolutions don't happen in a year and that dramatic changes are going to take time, time that will not be afforded to a country torn apart by an egotistical madman with a penchant for indifference, pettiness and revenge. By the time this realization solidifies, you'll find yourself looking around at this beautifully diverse country, your family, and loved ones and you'll wonder why you ever considered risking it... all because your hatred of a woman was more powerful than your love of country, freedom, humanity and basic decency. You'll question your friends who are cursing the man they just recently considered their savior and you'll have to look at yourself from the outside in.

There it is. Perspective.

This is bigger than you, or me or Bernie Sanders. This isn't your typical Left vs. Right political nonsense. This is real, this is happening and you can join your fellow men and women in opposition or you can damn the country to trillions in debt, a shattered NATO, racial hatred, homophobia, war, isolationism and a world destroyed by Trump's assurance that Climate Change is a "hoax".

What world will you leave for the next generation? What amount of anger is worth destroying everything and empowering the proud intolerance of the know nothing base? Which politician can be pressured by environmentalists and those who wish to foster peace? Which candidate will listen to the professionals, experts and leaders in their field? Which politician adapts and evolves their political opinions based on the will of their constituents and presentation of new evidence?

We all get to choose how to shape this world and your choice will forever define the person you are and the America you want.

Pragmatism can be a terribly bitter pill to swallow, but change can be found in compromise, progress in patience. As a gay man who only recently felt the embrace of equality, I know all too well the hopelessness of frustration and the righteous rage of disappointment, but I refuse to abandon progress or those still waiting for their seat at the table, because I dislike the host of the party.

I am not voting for her, I am voting for them.

Don't burn down the farm, because the crop wasn't what you had hoped. Enrich the land, ensuring an even better crop next season and help his supporters secure a world welcoming and willing to see Bernie's goals come to fruition.

[Deleted]

Bonster, follow this (which will cause you to vote for HRC):



Additionally, I'm 99% sure you're a troll.

[Lucy Honeychurch]

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

[tictac]

I can understand people that are torn between voting for Hillary and voting 3rd party. l don't personally have that dilemma, but I can understand how someone else could.

Being legit torn between Hillary and Trump? Does not compute.

[kris356]

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

You do realize you do not have to vote a straight ticket in the general election in PA? Primaries in PA are closed but in the general, you can vote for a Democrat for president, a Republican for Congress, a Republic and Democrat for state offices/judges. It is like a wonderful political buffet! 

[panicfoot]

Jul 28, 2016 7:00:03 GMT -5 TR said:

I refuse to buy a house that doesn't have a pool or doesn't have the space for us to put one in. It's literally the only thing that is a must have for me in this whole move. Flameful because I'm not the one buying the house.

You will not regret this. 

I grew up here and have always wanted a pool. The last house, our HOA had a pool down the street so that was NBD. Our new house doesn't have one and I'm seriously thinking about joining a private club or moving again. H thinks I'm nuts but it's too fucking hot to do anything else.


Stay strong, lol. 

[TR]

Jul 28, 2016 10:22:33 GMT -5 panicfoot said:

Jul 28, 2016 7:00:03 GMT -5 TR said:

I refuse to buy a house that doesn't have a pool or doesn't have the space for us to put one in. It's literally the only thing that is a must have for me in this whole move. Flameful because I'm not the one buying the house.

You will not regret this. 

I grew up here and have always wanted a pool. The last house, our HOA had a pool down the street so that was NBD. Our new house doesn't have one and I'm seriously thinking about joining a private club or moving again. H thinks I'm nuts but it's too fucking hot to do anything else.


Stay strong, lol. 

We'll likely have a country club membership for the club in the neighborhood through BF's work and there's a community pool in the neighborhood, but that's not even good enough for me, lol.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Jul 28, 2016 10:11:29 GMT -5 @aliciaroset said:

Jul 28, 2016 9:48:40 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

Is Lucy crushed about this? It's not necessarily a bad thing to learn you have a work hard at something to get to the next level. She may make some friends in her new class too!

I wanted to ask this too. DD didn't go up in swimming and it's really nbd. Ibam such a people pleaser and want to always be good but I don't have to pass that on to her! I hope she likes her new class.

pantsparty-

She's upset, but probably not as upset as I am.  I don't know.  She still wants to do it, so she will.  I just feel bad for her.  I imagine this is more about me than her.  I suck

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Jul 28, 2016 10:24:07 GMT -5 TR said:

Jul 28, 2016 10:22:33 GMT -5 panicfoot said:

You will not regret this. 

I grew up here and have always wanted a pool. The last house, our HOA had a pool down the street so that was NBD. Our new house doesn't have one and I'm seriously thinking about joining a private club or moving again. H thinks I'm nuts but it's too fucking hot to do anything else.


Stay strong, lol. 

We'll likely have a country club membership for the club in the neighborhood through BF's work and there's a community pool in the neighborhood, but that's not even good enough for me, lol.

We have a community pool we can absolutely walk to, but haven't joined.  Too much work, I want to go out my back door and hop in

[pantsparty]

Jul 28, 2016 10:25:42 GMT -5 ProfessorArtNerd said:

Jul 28, 2016 10:11:29 GMT -5 @aliciaroset said:

I wanted to ask this too. DD didn't go up in swimming and it's really nbd. Ibam such a people pleaser and want to always be good but I don't have to pass that on to her! I hope she likes her new class.

pantsparty -

She's upset, but probably not as upset as I am.  I don't know.  She still wants to do it, so she will.  I just feel bad for her.  I imagine this is more about me than her.  I suck

Consider maybe if you had been sitting in the lessons and working with her - what if you giving her extra work or making her work harder made her like dance less? Maybe this year she'll learn a little bit more, naturally, on her own. And it sounds like since she still wants to do it, she had fun in the class, which is great news.

Hugs!  (heart)

[pantsparty]

Jul 28, 2016 10:24:07 GMT -5 TR said:

Jul 28, 2016 10:22:33 GMT -5 panicfoot said:

You will not regret this. 

I grew up here and have always wanted a pool. The last house, our HOA had a pool down the street so that was NBD. Our new house doesn't have one and I'm seriously thinking about joining a private club or moving again. H thinks I'm nuts but it's too fucking hot to do anything else.


Stay strong, lol. 

We'll likely have a country club membership for the club in the neighborhood through BF's work and there's a community pool in the neighborhood, but that's not even good enough for me, lol.

We've lived our neighborhood for 3 years and have never once gone to our community pool. Our parents go every time they are here. LOL.

[pantsparty]

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

www.isidewith.com/

[W.T.Faulkner]

Jul 28, 2016 10:14:46 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

Jul 28, 2016 9:43:06 GMT -5 @bonster214 said:

I am so torn on who I am going to vote for. One minute it's HRC and the next it's Trump. I think I have my mind made up on an issue and then I hear someone from the other side and then change my mind.

I have basic fundamental beliefs but I'm wondering if it's ok to just vote for who lines up best with those and forget about everything else.

And honestly, I get so confused about politics and all of the political games and strategies. Why can't you just choose who you actually want without thinking about how its going to affect all of the various seats in that state.

I feel like a bad American.

How about you leave the relevant participants of this board to do the actual flaming?