Friiiiiiday/almost the weekend!

[bg]

My first post-divorce sort of relationship has fizzled out. I traveled the last 3/4 weeks so I'm not surprised, but I think I was more emotionally invested than I thought because it's hitting me harder than I expected. I think probably a sign that it was a bit too soon. The awkward part is that I'm going on vacation with a mutual friend for a wedding in about a week and he'll be there too, we're flying there together etc...  

So I'm going to take a few days to mope and this weekend I'm going to run with a friend and try to regroup and find new ways to focus on me. 

What fun plans do people have this weekend??

[Deleted]

Sorry about your relationship. I swear I dated way too soon and the break up killed me. But you're allowed to be emotionally invested. There is no rule of reserving your emotions until x month or x amount of time. An ex-boyfriend and I are really good friends. We even went on a trip together a year and a half after we broke up. He's crashing at my place next month and we are going to Vegas. So it doesn't always have to be burned bridges.

On the fun plans... I just have market hunting.

[glitzyglow]

I have to get a lot of random stuff tonight because after work tomorrow I am heading to my hometown for a weekend visit. It's a little overwhelming, but I'm sure I'll get it done. These trips always make me a little anxious because inevitably someone I didn't see in my hometown finds out I was there and is all, "Why didn't you tell me you were in town?!" "Uh, because I only had 36 hours in the area and had to make cuts?" isn't normally the answer they like to hear, but it's true!

I have a family relationship that I'm struggling to navigate after a really unpleasant experience with that person. I don't know if I should decrease contact, or ask the family member if everything's okay because I'm concerned about her extreme negativity (family member would probably become super defensive), or if I should mind my own business and proceed on as usual. It's really bothering me and I wish I knew the right thing to do.

[cuddlyevil]

I'm going to a cookout for a friend on Sunday after the kids go to their Dad's. Beyond that, we're doing church and not much else. I'm still recovering so I need to take it easy.

[doglove]

I have zero planned and I'm 100% excited about that.

[bg]

Jul 29, 2016 14:49:20 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

ugh. Life is amazing, why am I stuck on someone who isn't stuck on me?

I feel ya, this is where I am too. 

[berbles]

I'm going to lay low this weekend, for obvious reasons. There's a viewing party with my supporter's group on Sunday, but I think I should skip it. I might go to happy hour with some girlfriends tonight.

XFI is going to spend the weekend at his BFF's house. BFF is a reformed piece of shit - he used to use women, gaslight and make them crazy, cheat, etc. But we've been talking a lot and he has such a good insight and self-awareness. He said, "I just got so tired of hurting people, and in turn hurting myself." I think it'll be good for XFI to spend some quiet time talking with him.

[sweetchix]

Not much planned for the weekend.

DD1 is getting her hair cut tomorrow morning. She wants quite a bit taken off so it's just below her shoulders. I'm wincing at the thought (I love both hers and DD2's long hair). She also may have some blue streaks put in; however, I don't want the hairdresser to bleach her hair, so it probably won't be as bold as she really wants. Regardless I think it will look good.

I'm going to a medium party tomorrow night so that should be interesting. I've never had a reading done before.

Other than that, we'll probably just clean and hang at the pool, as long as the weather cooperates.

[bg]

Jul 29, 2016 15:04:57 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Jul 29, 2016 15:01:04 GMT -5 bg said:

I feel ya, this is where I am too. 

I'm liking soley out of solidarity.

I actually may go see my therapist again. Not because I'm so upset over CT, I'm not. But I wonder if I'm so stuck on him because of some issue he represents that I haven't figured out.

I've been reading a book about relationships (The Truth by Neil Strauss) and I'm probably over-thinking.

**nods** I'm queen of overthinking. Good luck!

[jenstar]

Saturday here, I got up early and went to the gym, after having the last two days off from laziness and not wanting to go out in the cold lol. I'm annoyed I did that because now I won't be able to get back until Tuesday

Today I'm cleaning my house and later meeting my interior designer mate to do some measurements at my new house for built ins. I'm super excited that they then should be ready by the time we get to move in, but who knows when that will be at least for now we don't have to move! I hate moving haha

Tomorrow we have lunch with my family and then I'm taking DS away for the night to my friends place in the country, they have chickens and a huge yard and he loves to visit. And my bff just got back from OS so we have lots to catch up on. I can't wait!

[jenstar]

Jul 29, 2016 15:04:57 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Jul 29, 2016 15:01:04 GMT -5 bg said:

I feel ya, this is where I am too. 

I'm liking soley out of solidarity.

I actually may go see my therapist again. Not because I'm so upset over CT, I'm not. But I wonder if I'm so stuck on him because of some issue he represents that I haven't figured out.

I've been reading a book about relationships (The Truth by Neil Strauss) and I'm probably over-thinking.

Sorry @32flavors, that's a bit sucky. I had a similar thing with a guy I dated and while I didn't go back to therapy then I did make sense of it all after a while and there was definitely something there that I needed to learn. I hope you can get past it x

[statlerwaldorf]

I don't have any plans. We need to get better about taking date nights. I think I'm going to look for a sitter and make plans for next weekend. Does anyone have any good date night ideas?