Petty vent

[1confused1]

I just need to get this off my chest and, obviously, I can't talk about it with my family.

Backgroud: My sister has 8 month old twins and she just had surgery. Her and BIL live about a mile from me.

My parents stayed at her house for 10 days to help. 4 adults (well 3 1/2 because my sister couldn't do much) taking care of 2 babies. NOT ONCE did they offer to do anything with my kids or help me out in any way.

I really shouldn't be surprised because it is like this all the time. I've talked about it with them before, but nothing changes.

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.

[pinkdutchtulips]

hugs ! i feel your pain ...

i can count the number of times my parents have helped me .... ONCE (when i left xh). my sisters have been on the receiving end of help more times than i can count including when my sister's nanny up and quit bc my sister had been in Africa for 2-3 weeks and was worried about ebola (mind you my sister was no where near where the ebola outbreak was) and my mom hopped the first train from SEA to SLO to help.  All they had to do was mention they needed help and BAM my mom was en route. i had to BEG for help and i'd get a maybe ..... grrrr

[1confused1]

pinkdutchtulips hugs

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Sorry 1confused1, that's shitty.  (I'm an only child) I have so many friends that have similar complaints.  Or that the sibling that doesn't do shit for their aging parents is the favorite one that's put on a pedestal, while the other peasant child is the one running and doing for the parents.
It sucks and it's not fair.  I'm sorry their actions suck.

[doglove]

I'm sorry 1confused1, that's so frustrating that they act like that.

[asoctoberfalls]

That's not petty; that's difficult and frustrating. I'm sorry.

[redshoejune]

I'm sorry that is frustrating. I have a similar situation in my family.

[berbles]

Jul 31, 2016 15:23:12 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Sorry 1confused1 , that's shitty.  (I'm an only child) I have so many friends that have similar complaints.  Or that the sibling that doesn't do shit for their aging parents is the favorite one that's put on a pedestal, while the other peasant child is the one running and doing for the parents.
It sucks and it's not fair.  I'm sorry their actions suck.

My dad was that child for his mother. 

Despite the fact that my dad is a drug addict who stole from her on multiple occasions, including one time he stole her car.

Despite the fact that my uncle took care of her in his home until he couldn't, and then paid for her nursing home until she died.

Nope, my dad was still her favorite. Poor Uncle.

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Aug 1, 2016 15:49:46 GMT -5 berbles said:

Jul 31, 2016 15:23:12 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Sorry 1confused1 , that's shitty.  (I'm an only child) I have so many friends that have similar complaints.  Or that the sibling that doesn't do shit for their aging parents is the favorite one that's put on a pedestal, while the other peasant child is the one running and doing for the parents.
It sucks and it's not fair.  I'm sorry their actions suck.

My dad was that child for his mother. 

Despite the fact that my dad is a drug addict who stole from her on multiple occasions, including one time he stole her car.

Despite the fact that my uncle took care of her in his home until he couldn't, and then paid for her nursing home until she died.

Nope, my dad was still her favorite. Poor Uncle.

My uncle sounds just like your dad and he was the favorite. My mom did everything for her aging parents when they were sick. They cursed her and put him on a pedestal. I do t get it!

[berbles]

Aug 1, 2016 16:05:40 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Aug 1, 2016 15:49:46 GMT -5 berbles said:

My dad was that child for his mother. 

Despite the fact that my dad is a drug addict who stole from her on multiple occasions, including one time he stole her car.

Despite the fact that my uncle took care of her in his home until he couldn't, and then paid for her nursing home until she died.

Nope, my dad was still her favorite. Poor Uncle.

My uncle sounds just like your dad and he was the favorite. My mom did everything for her aging parents when they were sick. They cursed her and put him on a pedestal. I do t get it!

I felt really bad when I reconnected with my cousins and they invited me up to their parents' house. They "introduced" me to grandma, who I hadn't seen in almost 20 years, and she kind of made pleasantries but didn't seem to really understand who I was. About 30 mins later, she brought her wheelchair up really close to me, grabbed my hand, and said, "You're David's daughter, aren't you?" I confirmed and she was just gushing over me. It was really awkward.

[jojoandleo]

I mean, your sister JUST HAD SURGERY. They were also taking care of her. I can't really begrudge them when their whole point in coming was to help your sister. As someone whose sister had a C-section and then a seizure, my mom, step-dad and BIL all took care of their 5 year old, new born, and my sister. It was pretty time consuming.

I can understand the frustration with the larger picture, but I just don't think this is a good example.