Intro

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I'm new here.

H left the house last week and we are separating. We've been together 10 years, married for 6 years and have a 4 month old. It's been a culmination of issues that we thought we'd resolved before having a baby, but we realized we had just been in a honeymoon phase and things got pretty bad quickly.  We argued on Friday, and for both of us, the last straw was realizing that we didn't want to keep putting ourselves through this and expose our daughter to a bad marriage.

When he left on Friday night, I was devastated. I was just in shock that it came to this so soon after having a baby. By Saturday, I felt like the fog had lifted. We got together on Sunday to talk about the plan for the separation, and we both felt immense relief that we are on the same page. I won't say that I am happy, but I feel at peace with our decision. It's still a little surreal to me.

[sweetchix]

Welcome to the board. While I'm sorry you find yourself here, you'll find lots of support here.

[doglove]

Hugs. I'm sorry. This is a great group of supportive ladies so I'll hope you'll stick around.

[bg]

I'm sorry! I hope now you can focus on you and your new babe.

[stephreloaded]

Welcome to the board!

I would say that the up side of this is that when you divorce early, there is less stress on the kid since they don't know any different.

::hugs::

[redshoejune]

Yes, surreal it is! I hope things stay amicable for you.

[berbles]

Welcome.

My divorce was a huge relief too.

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Aug 1, 2016 13:36:54 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Welcome to the board!

I would say that the up side of this is that when you divorce early, there is less stress on the kid since they don't know any different.

::hugs::

This was the tipping point for us. We know it won't be perfect, but we hope to have a 'new normal' worked out by the time she's cognizant of our family dynamic. 

[racegrrl714]

*hugs* sorry you are here, but welcome. I second the poster that said there is less stress on the kid since they don't know any different. My almost 6 year old is having a really rough time with our separation. I honestly wish I'd came to my senses earlier so she wouldn't have to deal with this stress.

[glynn]

Sorry, welcome.

[nextbigthing]

I'm sorry you're here, but welcome!

I kicked STBXH out when DS was 14 months, if it's over its over and it good they're too little to get it.

Hopeople things go smoothly for you!

[statlerwaldorf]

Welcome and I'm sorry you are here. I separated from my xh when my second child was a baby. It has been so much easier on him than my oldest child.

[thedutchgirl]

Welcome. I'm sorry you find yourself here.