WWSOD?

[kanga1]

I'm sure I'm overthinking this but hey overthinking is what I do best. I'm going on a 2nd date tonight. He lives an hour and a half from me but only works 45 minutes so he's coming to my house right from work. We are going to dinner and maybe a movie. He has to be at work at 7am tomorrow....if we go to the movie and it gets late do I offer to let him stay at my place on the couch or just let him drive the hour and a half back? On our first date we only hugged not even a kiss so sex is not on the horizon. He is the son of my friend's coworker so he's not a total stranger meaning I think I can trust him in my house. I was just thinking offer to let him stay to be nice and not deal with extra driving but I don't want to give him the wrong idea because so far I haven't felt any chemistry with him. Nice guy but no chemistry.

[doriswe]

Honestly? I'd let him figure it out. If he needs, he can always get a hotel. Not your problem.

[TR]

Aug 4, 2016 15:05:01 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Honestly? I'd let him figure it out. If he needs, he can always get a hotel. Not your problem.

This exactly. He knows what time the movie is, how far away he lives, and what time he needs to be at work. So none of this is a surprise to him and he can handle it.

[dancelnow]

Personally I'd offer, but wouldn't help him at this point if he didn't bring a change of clothes for work tomorrow.

[arielroux]

Don't overthink it - See how the night goes. Because my concern would be what happens if I extend an offer NOW only to realize halfway through the date that I DON'T want him staying. Rescinding the offer (IMO) would be more awkward than not extending the offer at all.

I also agree with doriswe to just let him figure it out. If driving home late was a concern for him, he probably wouldn't have scheduled this type of date on a work night, you know? Don't feel bad if he has to drive home late. He knew the timing situation when he agreed to, or suggested, the date.

[stephreloaded]

What makes YOU feel comfortable?

[statlerwaldorf]

I wouldn't feel comfortable with it. My now dh lived an hour away when we first started dating and made the long drive back on work nights for a while.

[carowen]

I think a lot of people would interpret that as an invite for sex. Which is fine if you're game for that but just something to consider. But I'd just let him sort it out at this point.

[Linie]

He's a grown man, he will figure something out which doesn't involve your couch.

Hope you have a nice evening!

[arielroux]

kanga1, how did the date go?!

[kanga1]

Aug 5, 2016 10:47:01 GMT -5 arielroux said:

kanga1 , how did the date go?!

The date went alright! We went out for dinner and then went back to my house and played pool and had an amazing make out session   We are kind of at 2 different points in our lives so I don't really see us going anywhere relationship-wise but it is nice to actually find a nice guy to hang out with once in awhile. He drove home around midnight so I bet he's dragging butt today LOL.