Would you call this a date?

[sweetchix]

Some background... I graduated high school with J way back when and we've been FB friends for a while now. His niece is the wife of the volunteer fireman.

Yesterday my dad and I drove up to the firehall to drop off some kid's clothes. I saw J as I was driving around back, yelled hi, and that we were coming in. I park, we get out and head inside where J was waiting for me. He gave me a hug and thanked me for my donation and took me over to be introduced to A & K. I chatted with them for a bit and then we (J and I) walked over to my dad and A's dad and the 4 of us talked some more. J's 4, yes FOUR, kids were there and he called them over and introduced me to them as well. Anyway, we were leaving and I gave him a hug good-bye and he mentioned meeting up for drinks to chat more since then wasn't really the time and place to catch up. I said it sounded good and then followed up with a FB message last night since I'm kid-free all of next week into next weekend. He said he was looking forward to it and would get back to me on a day since he had to find a sitter (he has full custody of his 2 older boys).

So, I'm wondering... is this a date? Or is it just old schoolmates catching up?

[doglove]

Seems like it could go either way, I would meet up and think of it as a non-date though to keep the pressure off of it. Any sparks before or now??

[glynn]

I agree it could go either way.

[sweetchix]

Aug 8, 2016 15:36:15 GMT -5 doglove said:

Seems like it could go either way, I would meet up and think of it as a non-date though to keep the pressure off of it. Any sparks before or now??

That's kind of what I was thinking as well. Don't think of it as a date and see what happens.

Well, this is the first time I've actually seen him in person in 22 years, and with the circumstances I saw him, I can't really say there were sparks. Plus, he was dating someone, but apparently they broke up, so our FB interactions have been pretty platonic in nature. I'm not sure when exactly, but it has to have been a couple months since I haven't seen pics of them together in quite some time. I do; however, think he's nice looking so there's that.

[Deleted]

I say go with an open mind.  It could go either way!

[stephreloaded]

I wouldn't call it a date. I think it's perfectly normal to want to catch up with someone that you haven't seen in a long time.

[statlerwaldorf]

It could go either way.

[Deleted]

I'm imagining you guys setting a date/time and then him responding,

[sweetchix]

Aug 10, 2016 8:14:09 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

I'm imagining you guys setting a date/time and then him responding,

Add some blushing and, yep. Lol

[sweetchix]

Aug 10, 2016 11:40:30 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Aug 10, 2016 8:33:04 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

Add some blushing and, yep. Lol

So when is it?

I haven't heard back from it yet. If I don't hear back by Friday I'll send him a message asking if he still wanted to get together next week.

[TR]

Aug 10, 2016 11:51:41 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

Aug 10, 2016 11:40:30 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

So when is it?

I haven't heard back from it yet. If I don't hear back by Friday I'll send him a message asking if he still wanted to get together next week.

If you have to do this then it's definitely not a date.

[sweetchix]

Aug 10, 2016 12:32:06 GMT -5 TR said:

Aug 10, 2016 11:51:41 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I haven't heard back from it yet. If I don't hear back by Friday I'll send him a message asking if he still wanted to get together next week.

If you have to do this then it's definitely not a date.

I'm leaning this way anyway. So, if and when we are to meet up, I'm just treating it as 2 classmates catching up. If it moves on from there, great. If not, that's ok too.

[doriswe]

Aug 10, 2016 11:51:41 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

Aug 10, 2016 11:40:30 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

So when is it?

I haven't heard back from it yet. If I don't hear back by Friday I'll send him a message asking if he still wanted to get together next week.

honestly, if you sent a message and he doesn't respond, I'd let it go. Not worth the effort, even if it is just two classmates catching up.

[sweetchix]

Aug 10, 2016 17:22:06 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Aug 10, 2016 11:51:41 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I haven't heard back from it yet. If I don't hear back by Friday I'll send him a message asking if he still wanted to get together next week.

honestly, if you sent a message and he doesn't respond, I'd let it go. Not worth the effort, even if it is just two classmates catching up.

Do you mean our initial conversation or if I message him later this week? I figured I would send one later this week to touch base if I havenMt heard from him and then drop it if it goes nowhere after that.

[doriswe]

Oh, I thought you had already sent one message after the initial, face to face, conversation. If not, please ignore!

[sweetchix]

Aug 10, 2016 21:22:50 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Oh, I thought you had already sent one message after the initial, face to face, conversation. If not, please ignore!

Oh, I did. Sunday night. I told him it was nice to see him and that we should meet for drinks like he had said when he hugged me good-bye. We messaged back and forth a few times into Monday and his last message was that he would get a sitter and get back to me. So I figured I'd give him a few days and check back with him. If he doesn't follow through after that, then I will drop it.