Post by snatchparade on Sept 6, 2012 20:52:36 GMT -5
If you really feel inclined to give in and have a phone conversation, stay on point. If he starts to ask you personal questions, steer the conversation back to the purpose of your phone call: the refi. Do not let him get into your life. He doesn't belong there anymore. If he persists, tell him that you need to go and that you will continue the discussion in email.
I guess I don't understand why you couldn't manage all of this via email, to be honest.
At the same time, it sounds like you're wise enough to redirect him if you did speak on the phone about the situation and he started asking questions that had nothing to do with the loan. He can ask all the questions he wants, if you don't answer them, that's okay....and who cares if he paints you as a bitch? His opinion doesn't matter!
Post by explorer2001 on Sept 6, 2012 22:55:45 GMT -5
Sorry my advice is to tell him that you want to have everything documented so that you can go over it in detail because there is so much to it and you don't want to miss anything.
Post by marigoldgirl on Sept 7, 2012 8:38:01 GMT -5
I always say to my X when he asks questions that do not pertain to the conversation. 'I'm not going to discuss that." or " This conversation is about ________ let's stay on that topic."