I need a CIO pep talk

[loira]

I'm sorry. I can't speak to one vs the other, but huge hugs. And lots of wine.

[humpforfree]

YUP! I was all JUST SLEEP with Lane, but with Ella I felt like I was dying. I had to leave the house, console myself with treats and then drank heavily when I got home. Maybe it is just baby 2 vs baby 1? Or, earlier timing? Ella was barely 4 months and Lane was almost 6...

[statgirl]

I was the other way. DS1--poor baby, let's co-sleep on the floor, you want my bed???, maybe we need a king. DS2--cry all you want, I'm not enabling you, no bed sharing for you. DS2 is by far the better sleeper but I get more frustrated when he won't sleep. Luckily, he sleeps really well as long as he has his own bed (vacation is a different story and that SUCKS). A lot has to do with their personalities. DS1 needs an audience at all times while DS2 is content in his own presence.

You are doing the right thing. The transition will be worth it. If you decide to stop CIO, it will be okay too. DS1 STTN now at 3. He is a night owl but even when he wakes up, it is a quick cuddle and sleep again maneuver. DS2 is more finicky but CIO works most of the time.

[soozy87]

Do it. It is worth it! Sleep for everyone is on the other side of a couple of tough nights. As they get older I think it gets harder. What you are doing is best for everyone!

[carolinagirl831]

Ugh yes, dd 1 we did cio around 6-7 months.she was not cuddly and I think crying actually helped her settle down. Dd2 is so different, cio breaks my heart with her, she loves cuddling and would prefer I hold her all night. She does not like cosleeping keeping though, something about our bed? I never coslept with dd1.
Dd2 will cry so hard she poops, every time. It's been very hard to do cio with her. She's 15 months and I spend about an hour rocking her to bed at night. I decided I don't care anymore she's my last baby.

[Brie]

I was the same way. With C IDGAF. With P I just could not do it.

I think it's a personality thing maybe? With C I always felt like he was fine but stubborn. With P I genuinely felt like he needed me for something reason. Idk.

ETA: P didn't reliably STTN until 18 months and we are just now hitting the point where we can dump him in his crib and he'll put himself to sleep. I don't recommend this. Don't be like me.

[patbutcher]

Hope it went ok.
I feel like I'm going to be the opposite- with N, I waited until 6 months because she was so "little" and I had to leave the house every night to stop myself running in and grabbing her. With S, I could do it now (I won't, she is only 3 months), and I don't think it would bother me. Knowing the end result is too alluring.

[rugbywife]

Yes, I had a much harder time with DS. He seemed much 'younger' at 5months than DD did.