Weekday Randoms

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My mom is at the vet with her 13 year old husky this morning. Sweet girl can't hold urine at all since yesterday morning. This is unlike her. I was crying all night about her. I feel like the end is near. She was my stepdad's doggie and he's been gone for 2.5 years now. I'm just so sad. I dont want any bad news while I'm at work. I can't deal. I'm so anxious today

[doglove]

I'm already in vacation mode. I don't leave for PDX until Thursday. Oops. Hope everything's okay @blueyes623.

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Andplusalso..tomorrow is my day off and I have a dr appt scheduled--well now I have an emergency dentist appt too because my tooth hurts and I'm pretty sure I lost a filling. Oh and all of these drs are new to me since we're new here.

[glynn]

Had a great 2nd and 3rd date with a guy I have been talking to for 3 weeks or so.... I am going to have to let him go though. He really wants to get serious quick and I have lingering feeling for someone else. I told him about it yesterday day but I need to bit the bullet and break it off completely. The other guy is no good for be but when we are together it is amazing..... I need amazing right now bacause I can not get him out of my mind. I hate to hurt the perfectly nice guy.....

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Hugs @blueyes623! That's so so hard.

I'm officially over my wallowing period. It's time to buck up camper. I'm back on a healthy eating routine and after really phoning it in last week, am excited to get back to the NROLW this week. I wanted to really get on it today, but I'm exhausted and didn't really eat well yesterday and I find that really causes a shitty workout.

I also signed up for and really started to use Mint to get my budgeting on track. I might turn out to be a responsible adult after all!

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I got stood up by one guy AND another called me fat this weekend, so ... yeah. I'm feeling a little over the dating scene at the moment. Good thing I have a lunch date planned for tomorrow.

Today started eating better and working out commitments to myself. I've done well with the "diet" part today, just need to make my lazy ass work out in some fashion tonight.

I also filed an application to start volunteering. Training isn't for a while, but I'm excited at the prospect.

Dental appt. for DD today, so I'm hoping for all good news on that front.

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Aug 15, 2016 13:26:14 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Aug 15, 2016 12:43:10 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

I got stood up by one guy AND another called me fat this weekend, so ... yeah. I'm feeling a little over the dating scene at the moment

Dude needs his eyes examined. Not only is it fucking rude to comment on anyone's figure, you aren't even close to fat. 

Girl, I know. He must have been struggling yesterday. I laughed at him and blocked him. Problem solved.

[doglove]

Fu@k those dudes @bigtowlittletoe.

[bg]

Those guys are super lame @bigtowlittletoe.

I traveled off and on for two months which provided a good distraction but now I'm back and ALL THE THINGS are hitting me emotionally. I know blips are normal, but I felt like I was getting to a good place before all of the traveling and now I'm back to struggling. Glad therapy is tomorrow!

It was good to see friends on friday and saturday. Need to remember the good stuff too.

[glitzyglow]

I'm normally off work today, but we have an event my boss wants me at this evening so I'm attending. My makeup looks great and I'm wasting it on a boring work dinner.

My cat has a uti. After a long night and early vet run, he's unhappily locked in my room with his litter, food, and water. Last time this happened I caught him dribbling peeing in a spot in the foyer, so until he makes a substantial deposit in the litter box he's quarantined.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Aug 15, 2016 12:43:10 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

I got stood up by one guy AND another called me fat this weekend, so ... yeah. I'm feeling a little over the dating scene at the moment. Good thing I have a lunch date planned for tomorrow.

Today started eating better and working out commitments to myself. I've done well with the "diet" part today, just need to make my lazy ass work out in some fashion tonight.

I also filed an application to start volunteering. Training isn't for a while, but I'm excited at the prospect.

Dental appt. for DD today, so I'm hoping for all good news on that front.

I'm right there w you - l had a lunch date on Friday who flaked then a Saturday date cancelled bc of a work shitstorm. I'm wondering if I've got some 'don't date me' pheromone stuff going on

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My xbf who is a good friend is about to be cut off. I asked why something was awkward with his best friend's ex-wife. I assumed it was because of the divorce. Nope. He apparently banged his BFF's ex-wife once they were both single because they "always" had a thing for each other but were never single at the same time (aka she was effing married and he was DATING ME). He effed up the timeline though because when he said they did it initially, we were still together. And then when i called him on it he changed the dates. He got his comeuppance because the chick is engaged to a guy that she banged while married. He got tossed to the curb.

There are some things I never needed to know. NEVER. This is final straw in a long list of things.

[abcdefu]

I'm still in "non weight-bearing" status. I just know that I better have the have the nicest muscular arms this side of the fucking Mississippi! So.Much.Wheeling.

I did A BUTTLOAD of shopping while in the hospital. I am now receiving all the clothes I ordered. Why do pain meds make me think I am rich?!?

@blueyes623 , I'm sorry! I hope everything is okay with the pup and your appointments go well. I know all too well how difficult it is to start over with new doctors.

@pdx18, I hope you have better luck with Mint than I did. I would delete the weekly summary because I felt like it was yelling at me every Sunday morning!

@bigtowlittletoe, Ewww! Eff those guys! I always think "who the hell says that to someone?" and then I remember that some people are just assholes! Glad you blocked!

@lemonlover,

[sweetchix]

I scheduled my first mammogram. This makes me more nervous than it probably should.

My running group did a trail run tonight. It was fun but it was only supposed to be 3 miles. We ended up going 3.8. That .8 nearly killed me!

[verycontrary247]

I've been in a really weird mental place recently where I want the affirmation of strangers way more than the people I already know.

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Aug 15, 2016 20:03:41 GMT -5 mp said:

Aug 15, 2016 13:47:22 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Girl, I know. He must have been struggling yesterday. I laughed at him and blocked him. Problem solved.

I had  

Well, I'm a size 10.  I'm also 5'9".  I don't expect to ever be a size 0 without major health complications.  And any guy who thinks otherwise is an idiot.  It wasn't that it hurt, it was just that I could tell he was communicating without provocation just to be hurtful - what a psychopath.  Like I said, it didn't phase me one bit - lunch date today!  

[Linie]

I'm still in this strange funk where I'm super tired and cry every 5 seconds, despite my anxiety medication and industrial doses of magnesium.

I'm super worried for my best friend/soul mate, but cannot talk to him due to (his) family issues. Work is boring too. At least I have no appetite, so I might lose a little of this extra weight...

XH is doing his best to make the house sale super awkward as well...

[pinkdutchtulips]

Aug 16, 2016 7:51:27 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Aug 15, 2016 20:03:41 GMT -5 mp said:

I had  

Well, I'm a size 10.  I'm also 5'9".  I don't expect to ever be a size 0 without major health complications.  And any guy who thinks otherwise is an idiot.  It wasn't that it hurt, it was just that I could tell he was communicating without provocation just to be hurtful - what a psychopath.  Like I said, it didn't phase me one bit - lunch date today!  

at 6'0" (which in and of itself scares guys away) at my thinnest I wore a 12 and feel more comfortable in a 14 or 16 bc a 12 means I'm practically anorexic. This is what I hate about dating - guys want a size 0 or a 2 regardless of height :/

[doglove]

Aug 15, 2016 20:03:41 GMT -5 mp said:

Aug 15, 2016 13:47:22 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Girl, I know. He must have been struggling yesterday. I laughed at him and blocked him. Problem solved.

I had forgotten about this exchange I had until recently because I screen shotted it and saw it in my saved images. Anyway, this guy was like "hey call me" and I didn't. So within 15 minutes, he starts going "why haven't you called me?" BECAUSE... it's been 15 minutes? He goes OFF - full fledged mental breakdown crazy person status, and includes the "lets be honest, you're fat anyway and I was just being nice". I was a size 4 (I am currently a 6ish.) So... yeah. I am not a stick, size 0, but wtf? Guys just throw that insult out because they know it will hurt. 

@ssholes. 

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Aug 15, 2016 20:34:24 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

@lemonlover ,

He's in denial about life. AND his best friend knows he slept with his xw and they are STILL friends. He's also a functioning alcoholic. Had NO idea when we dated for 1.5 yrs. Only found out a year-ish ago.  Major trigger for me since my dad die as a result of his alcoholism. 

[bg]

Aug 16, 2016 8:56:30 GMT -5 Linie said:

I'm still in this strange funk where I'm super tired and cry every 5 seconds, despite my anxiety medication and industrial doses of magnesium.

Wanna be in a strange funk together? I'm right there with you. But I know that this too shall pass...

[dreamcrisp1]

I've been called fat and I am a size 0. Some guys don't know what they want. I'm not super skinny but I am small. Men are just weird and some are serious assholes.

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Aug 16, 2016 14:49:14 GMT -5 dreamcrisp1 said:

I've been called fat and I am a size 0. Some guys don't know what they want. I'm not super skinny but I am small. Men are just weird and some are serious assholes.

I was coming in here to say this. I was dating when I was a size 2/0. And men still called me fat. Now I'm bordering on a 14/16. In terms of online dating (I'm on break currently) I didn't really see any difference in the amount of responses I got. I guess that's to say everyone has a different version of what they are attracted to. In fact one guy who I had dated when I was thinner and dated again once I'd gained some weight preferred me with the additional weight. Women can never win I swear!

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Aug 16, 2016 10:49:48 GMT -5 pinkdutchtulips said:

Aug 16, 2016 7:51:27 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Well, I'm a size 10.  I'm also 5'9".  I don't expect to ever be a size 0 without major health complications.  And any guy who thinks otherwise is an idiot.  It wasn't that it hurt, it was just that I could tell he was communicating without provocation just to be hurtful - what a psychopath.  Like I said, it didn't phase me one bit - lunch date today!  

at 6'0" (which in and of itself scares guys away) at my thinnest I wore a 12 and feel more comfortable in a 14 or 16 bc a 12 means I'm practically anorexic. This is what I hate about dating - guys want a size 0 or a 2 regardless of height :/

I found this while dating as well.  I'm 5'8 and 16 sometimes 18.  I just didn't fit the mold of what most of the guys in my dating pool seemed to want.  There are still some out there though, so don't lose hope.  Dating is a crapshoot of luck and timing.  And there are so many assholes.

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I wish legitimate matchmakers were a thing. Sort of like a therapist/matchmaker who could dig deep and really find out what you actually need/who you would be compatible with and can also tell you things you do on dates that might be a major turn off but you are totally unaware about. And at the same time has a large group of men they do the same thing with and can help match you up. Because honestly I feel totally clueless about all of this even after six years. And I continue to only be attracted to guys who don't seem to be the best for me, and yet cannot get close to the nice guys. I don't think I'm scared of being treated well or anything, but I also am really attracted to a super confident/borderline arrogant man. So if someone could find a super confident/arrogant man who is sarcastic as fuck, can put me in my place when needed (I can really get going on tangents and need to be told to calm the fuck down), and is also nice, available and doesn't ghost me, that would be great!

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Aug 16, 2016 20:11:40 GMT -5 mp said:

Aug 16, 2016 18:58:13 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I wish legitimate matchmakers were a thing. Sort of like a therapist/matchmaker who could dig deep and really find out what you actually need/who you would be compatible with and can also tell you things you do on dates that might be a major turn off but you are totally unaware about. And at the same time has a large group of men they do the same thing with and can help match you up. Because honestly I feel totally clueless about all of this even after six years. And I continue to only be attracted to guys who don't seem to be the best for me, and yet cannot get close to the nice guys. I don't think I'm scared of being treated well or anything, but I also am really attracted to a super confident/borderline arrogant man. So if someone could find a super confident/arrogant man who is sarcastic as fuck, can put me in my place when needed (I can really get going on tangents and need to be told to calm the fuck down), and is also nice, available and doesn't ghost me, that would be great!

There's a difference between confidence and arrogance, though. Arrogant men are assholes. Confident men are kind and don't need to flaunt anything because they know it.

Totally I guess that's why I say borderline line arrogant, like not braggy or showing, but has a bit of edge. I'm totally probably using arrogant wrong lol.

[asoctoberfalls]

My final hearing for my divorce is tomorrow.

Crazy how fast it happens (we just separated in March and filed in June), but I'm ready to move on.

[Linie]

Aug 16, 2016 10:48:43 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Linie that sucks. Can you spend sometime with another friend or do something else that might make you feel better? I'd take you out for drinks if I lived close.

I texted/ fb messaged two different guys about an hour and a half ago and I have heard back from neither. I might be checking my phone like a tool every few minutes.

Thank you (and bg), I will make an appointment with my therapist for next week.

The book you recommended (the Truth) arrived yesterday and I will start reading asap. I have also bought a nice note book to start writing down my thoughts and fears, that has helped me in the past. I can't imagine losing this BFF, but I know I have overcome tougher shit before...