I'm worried about how I appear to my son.

[hisno1girl]

Our youngest is coming for the weekend and he hasn't seen me in two months.

i am s shaking, trembling mess. I have lost 42Lbs since April.

if he starts to cry, it will break my heart.

[isabel]

((His))

I wish I had insightful things to say, but I just don't. I'm sorry.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry his 🙁 It's okay to cry. I wish you didn't have to deal with all of this.

[Saint Monica]

He knows, yes.

I would just text him that you don't want him to freak out but you lost some weight.

((His))

[panicfoot]

Giant hugs.

[litebright]

You are here. You are still you. You're dealing. He loves you, and it's OKAY for both of you to be worried about you and sad about the physical toll this is taking. It's okay for you guys to take that moment and cry if one of you needs to, and then to make a joke about the shittiness of it all and laugh together.

Big hugs, His.

[Moe]

You got this. I know you do.

Huge abrazos.

Also:


He'll cry.



Cry with him.



Tears are good for the soul.



Freak out and throw stuff together.

[lilafowler]

I'm legitimately afraid of what she may have posted in response. I don't want a pudding contest but I also don't want her to not be my friend

[flex]

You can give him a heads-up, but it's okay if he cries. Everyone deals with things differently. ((hugs))

[greenlight]

((His))

[happywife]

Sending you huge hugs!!

[lilac05]

Hugs, His.

He may cry, and that's OK. He loves you. And when people we love are hurting, sometimes we cry. It's OK for you to cry, too. And to admit to him if/when you're NOT OK. He knows. Being honest as you go through this will take you far. As an adult child, he has been the recipient of your love and support for many years. You've been strong for your kids for a long time, and now they can take a turn at being the strong one. You've raised your kids well...they can handle it.

[textbookcase]

Hugs, v. It's okay to cry. Thinking of you <3

[cherryvalance]

Lots of hugs to you.

I mainly just lurk here, so I hope it's okay if I share this. I was in your son's shoes when my grandmother was ill (lung cancer). I was terrified before I saw her because I had never seen her sick. After the initial surprise, in speaking with her, it was clear she was very much the same, strong woman she'd always been. We cried over the general suckiness of the situation, but we also laughed and told stories. I was relieved, and happy that I got to visit and (hopefully) support her.

Your son might cry, but I'm sure he wants to be there for you and will see the you he's always known and loved.

[dianecourt]

He may be surprised, and you all may cry, but there is no way he is not in this fight with you!

I am continuing my novena for you, so please know that there are many people who have you in their prayers every day.

[nikki25]

Thinking of you

[10nille]

This breaks my heart, hugs to you HIS.

[AHappierHour]

((( hugs )))

[Deleted]

Please don't worry about how you'll appear.   You're his mom, he loves you and cares about you. He's going to be concerned about what's going on--that's to be expected.  People deal with things in different ways and it's ok to cry or not cry, or cry and laugh.  You don't want to go through this, no one wants you to have to go through this, especially those closest to you.  It's hard to see loved ones hurting.  You're there for each other.  It's a new and unfortunate experience that you are sharing and there is no right or wrong--you've never had to do this before.  

I experienced a parent being sick with MDS/Leukemia (my stepdad).  My parents and I lived 5 minutes from each other so I saw them frequently...Honestly, we tried to keep stuff as normal as possible and we did for a long time until we couldn't.  Of course I was scared and even though I'm a PA, my hands were tied...I couldn't fix his disease.  I could only be there and be supportive.  We enjoyed the times we had together.  
I wish I had something more clever or comforting to say to you.  You're in my prayers and I'm thinking of you.