Tell me about your relationship with your in laws

[andwhat]

Sept 6, 2016 11:06:29 GMT -5 NitaX said:

Sept 6, 2016 10:07:12 GMT -5 andwhat said:

Ha. My MIL is...special. Things have gotten better since having a kid, but she is still...special. My FIL is very nice, but just old. H's parents are closer to my grandmother's age than my parents. My SIL is great. She loves DD like crazy and we get along well. We would probably be closer if we were closer in age. She is in her 50's. H also has brother's but the gap is even greater than that of him and his sister, so they are not that close.

IL's are bad with money. So we have to deal with all those issues since MIL thinks we are loaded for some reason. She never goes to SIL for money (to my knowledge). And the other kids are a mess. So that isn't happening. We fully expect for them to have to come live with us in the future and planned for this in our new home. None of their other kids would have done this even if they had the means. :eye roll:

GIRL. I swear it's because it's two people working. Folks always think we're loaded with money. Ever heard of BILLS people? Food, utilities, car insurance, mortgage, student loans. Those pesky things? My mom, bless her heart, is notorious for asking me for money. My answer is always - BILLS. She told me one day "You're the brokest, workingest person I know." NAWL. It's just that I have BILLS and kids. I'm not paying for your life and mine. I've been on my own with my own bills since I was 22. And hell, even when I lived in her house, I was paying for my sister's clothes and what not.

I'm also preparing for the day my mom has to move in with us. She and my baby sister aren't on speaking terms, and my middle sister might kill her because they're always bickering about something. 

Now, my MIL, that thang ain't never setting foot in our house let alone living with us in her old age. We'll find some money to put her in a home or something, but she for dayum sure can't live with us.

I had to tell H that I will not pay for a person's needs so they can use their money for their wants. Now if they REALLY needed it, that is one thing. H did not understand this until there was a point when we were in serious saving mode so we cut our movie channels from cable. We went to his parents house and they had every damn channel you could think of. I didn't say a word. When we left he said 'did you see that shit?' Yes I did boo, this is what I have been talking about.

And ever since then he doesn't give them money. But of course that is all my fault.

[nsuhomer]

My FIL knows I'm the best thing that ever happened to his son, but he is a recovering AZ republican, and though he is trying to grow, often asks questions about how hard it must be to be a multiracial person, or be in an interracial relationship, etc.

My MIL does not like me. We gave it a try for years and came close to finding peace with eachother until her rather cold, old world Cuban father told me he loved me. He is not an I love you person, and has apparently very seldom said it to her. He mostly loves that I speak Spanish to our kids and put so much effort in keeping our culture alive with them.