I'm furious- help me be rational please

[Bernadine]

You know how I've been bragging about paying off debt? I paid off one card last spring. I opened the statement today, expecting a zero balance. Well, xh charged 3 plane tickets, for him, his cousin, and his cousin's girlfriend, to the tune of $1,027.77.

Would it be out of place to send a fb message to the cousin and his gf, explaining that xh charged the tickets to my card, and ask them to give me the money directly? Of course, it's possible they've already given him money.

And I'm sending an email to xh asking him when he'll be giving me money. And calling first thing Monday morning to make an appointment with my lawyer.

[cbwm1]

Oh shit, dude.

I don't even know what I would do.

But definitely have that account cancelled so he can't use it again, the stupid fuck.

[sneetch]

It is completely rational to be furious. I'd definitely send that email - what's the worst that could come of it?

[scotty]

I would be LIVID. I think any type of messages are fine, assuming you're cool with fall-out.

What a doucher.

[cbwm1]

Sept 7, 2012 21:00:44 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Can you call the CC company and dispute the charges? Say that XH stole the card/used it without your knowledge?

Oh, this might be a good idea.

[girlfriday11]

I completely understand wanting to light him on fire, but if you want me to be honest, you should talk to your lawyer before you do anything. Not going to make this about me, but if you ever want to talk douchbag ex-husbands, let me know.

Ugh, I am sorry he did this.

[peachykate]

He is out of fucking control, I would definitely call and do whatever you can so that he can't use the card anymore.

I think I would assume they already gave him the money so I don't think that I would email them directly. At this point I think everything needs to go through a lawyer.

[sonrisa]

I'd call them, tell them that they'll need to send you the money or you will be disputing the charges and asking the airline to cancel the tickets. Perhaps not the best answer, but I'd be pretty pissed.

[speckledfrog]

Sept 7, 2012 20:59:45 GMT -5 @jehc said:

HOLY FUCKING SHIT

I want to kill him FOR you.

I would email the cousin and his gf.

Why was he paying for their plane tickets anyway?

I'm guessing because he's a jackass and Bernie will have to pay for it and he can pocket the reimbursement money.

[pittsmcgee]

OMG SHUT UP
I can't even believe the nerve of this fucking guy. You have the patience of a saint.
I say ask them for the cash. I honestly can't get over the balls on him.

[hubes]

I would outright dispute the charges and let him explain why the tickets were cancelled. And call your lawyer. I would not drag the cousins into it.

[annyong]

I will let other people help you be rational. I'll just be livid with you. What a pos.

[girlfriday11]

Sept 7, 2012 21:04:32 GMT -5 hubes said:

I would outright dispute the charges and let him explain why the tickets were cancelled. And call your lawyer. I would not drag the cousins into it.

Ok, I change my answer to this.

[Bernadine]

I have limited travel experience- I assume I'll be charged a fee if I just cancel the tickets?

[idoinjuly]

Is he still an authorized user on the card? If not, dispute and file charges.

[yep]

I can't believe you keep letting him get away with crap like this. It's time to take control of your life. I would rather have ruined credit for the rest of my life, than let him continue to get over on me.

[vanillacourage]

Is he an authorized user? If so cancel the tickets and immediately remove his privileges.

Is he not on the account? If not call the CC company and contest the charges. They may ask you to file a police report which you should do.

[saraandmichael]

why was the credit card still active?

[mudslide]

Sept 7, 2012 21:10:02 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I have limited travel experience- I assume I'll be charged a fee if I just cancel the tickets?

Call the credit card company to tell them the charges are fraudulent, not the airline

[Bernadine]

We had agreed when we first split that we wouldn't change anything with the credit cards. He hasn't used it before now. Still, dumb on my part.

Ok, I don't think I'm going to do anything until I talk to the lawyer.

[gault]

Jesus fucking christ, I hate this guy.

WTF?

[Deleted]

So he WAS on the credit card? Is it possible to dispute a charge that was made by an authorized user?

[Deleted]

Sept 7, 2012 21:21:24 GMT -5 @reannalynne said:

So he WAS on the credit card? Is it possible to dispute a charge that was made by an authorized user?

No. But she can call the airlines and cancel the tickets then cancel the card.

[hubes]

Sept 7, 2012 21:29:36 GMT -5 elle said:

Sept 7, 2012 21:21:24 GMT -5 @reannalynne said:

So he WAS on the credit card? Is it possible to dispute a charge that was made by an authorized user?

No. But she can call the airlines and cancel the tickets then cancel the card.

Do this if he's Still an authorized user. I wouldn't wait until Monday.

[mrsjuleshs]

Dispute. Why have you not removed him as an authorized user? When DH & I separated, I immediately removed him from the account.

[mrsjuleshs]

If you can, call and cancel immediately. And report this to your lawyer.

[hisno1girl]

You can also set up alerts on your credit card so that you get a text anytime the card is used for $25, $50, or whatever amount you designate.