Randoms/vents/AWs/whatever because it's dead in here!

[abcdefu]

Good Morning!

It is so dead over here! Where is everyone? What is going on in your life? TELL US!!!!

I'll start (because, obviously, I made this thread, so...)


I am starting out the day with a lot less friends on facebook due to racist posts from last night. If you think 'stop and frisk' is a good idea, even though it violates the 4th and 14th amendment, yet you freak out when you feel your 2nd amendment right is threatened due to gun control, you are a special kind of stupid! 

Anyway, my face has been buried in books since I decided to take a certification exam in January, which is my first step to finding a life, or new life? In 2017, I plan to apply to a trillion jobs all over the country and see where I end up! I hope it's in the DC/VA/MD area, but if not, that's okay. Scary, but exciting!

COME BACK EVERYONE!

UPDATE: I applied for two jobs in VA. Holy shit you guys! If I get one of them, I'm moving! I have two amazing, very supporting, friends in VA and it could really be good for me to put some distance between my family and me.

Also, both of these jobs are my dream jobs!!! AHHHHHHHHH! Please send good job vibes!

[dancelnow]

My refi to get the house in my name is almost done. With the rate drop and paying down principle to 80%, I'm going to pay the same per month to drop to a 20y (currently 28 remaining) and not have to escrow. I am good with saving in my own per month and paying insurances and taxes directly. And saving the escrow miscalculation hassles. By my conservative calculations if I up my principle payment by half my minimum raise per year plus some of my bonus, I'll have it paid in 12 years.

[verycontrary247]

Hiiii.

Between work and school and impending travel, I've bee feeling really burned out. Friday I'm flying to ABQ for work, flying back the next Thursday, then pretty much immediately have to leave to drive to NYC for ComicCon. Trying to get everything done costume-wise this week is proving to be difficult.

I'm seeing someone, and things seem to be moving a bit faster than I typically allow. I think I'm okay with this. It's been a year since my last trainwreck of an attempted relationship.

[bg]

Yo! I'm on week two of a new job. Day to day it's going to be a little boring but I'm hoping it's going to be a good stepping stone to better things.

I'm seeing someone new too. He's very different than what I'm used to, but I think that could be a good thing.

Between new job and new guy I'm still trying to figure out my new schedule workout wise. I think I need to start getting up earlier and workout in the morning. Also, it would help if it wasn't so damn hot here!

[Deleted]

All good things to report this morning.

Wearing a new bra, so my boobs feel/look great.
Lunch is nearly here.
Stayed with J last night, who cooked dinner, kept my wine glass full and then the man put out 3x between the end of the debate and work this morning.
I think I'm making enchiladas tonight.

[dancelnow]

Also BF and I are going on a date downtown tonight even though I have an extra early morning at work tomorrow. We haven't been out in several weeks due to finances, kids, schedules and him moving so I'm really looking forward to it. I love dates at home making dinner together, but I also really enjoying going out in town.

[glynn]

Jumped out of a plan Saturday with a meet-up group and then had lunch downtown. They were all older than me but we were all in the same place in life. I was a good day. Sunday took my son and on a zip line/obstacle course thingy and it was fun.

Found out yesterday that I have 3 weeks to move and I have no place to go. My son is with me right now so I kinda need a 3 bedroom but really can't afford it. Want a house but have not been able to fine one. Calling about aprtments in few...

My 2 adults kids and BF/GF are going home for Christmas which I love. Where am I going to put 6 people when I am homeless?? My sons GF will be here for almost a month and I have never meet her so I am nervous about that.

[jigsy]

glynn, have you checked your tenant rights? I think you posted last week about your LL selling the the place you are living, right? In my city, even when the LL sells, they still have to give you appropriate notice.

I don't have much to post about. I am still considering moving. I feel so back and forth about it. One day I am more on the "stay in LA" side, but then I llok at my bank account and want to cry so I move to the "move to SLC" side.

I had lunch with a friend who was extolling the virtue of my ability to be so fearless when it comes to living and moving. I appreciated everything she said, and it made me realize how lucky I am that I even have the ability to have this choice ahead of me.

[glynn]

i have been given the 30 days notice. Just so much around here is low income which I am not. The one place I found was rented the next day and I never got a call back. I am hoping that since the 1st is coming up that more places will be come available.

[sharknado]

Sept 27, 2016 13:39:39 GMT -5 glynn said:

i have been given the 30 days notice. Just so much around here is low income which I am not. The one place I found was rented the next day and I never got a call back. I am hoping that since the 1st is coming up that more places will be come available.

Good luck, I'm moving in with my mom this weekend.
It has almost been six months since I ducked out of my marriage. But since I'm pretty much homeless and all of my income goes to pay for daycare, I have not started the legal ball rolling. I think after the new year I will file. He still doesn't want a divorce and thinks I will "come back" to my senses. At least I am in CO and he is in FL

[glynn]

Sept 27, 2016 15:58:14 GMT -5 sharknado said:

Sept 27, 2016 13:39:39 GMT -5 glynn said:

i have been given the 30 days notice. Just so much around here is low income which I am not. The one place I found was rented the next day and I never got a call back. I am hoping that since the 1st is coming up that more places will be come available.

Good luck, I'm moving in with my mom this weekend.
It has almost been six months since I ducked out of my marriage. But since I'm pretty much homeless and all of my income goes to pay for daycare, I have not started the legal ball rolling. I think after the new year I will file. He still doesn't want a divorce and thinks I will "come back" to my senses. At least I am in CO and he is in FL

Sorry, I moved the first time because of a divorce. I got what I could afford at the time. Good Luck!

[abcdefu]

Sept 27, 2016 13:39:39 GMT -5 glynn said:

i have been given the 30 days notice. Just so much around here is low income which I am not. The one place I found was rented the next day and I never got a call back. I am hoping that since the 1st is coming up that more places will be come available.

Not legal advice, but does your state have emergency stays of orders? I agree with jigsy to make sure you know ALL your rights!

[jigsy]

Sept 27, 2016 17:21:24 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Sept 27, 2016 13:39:39 GMT -5 glynn said:

i have been given the 30 days notice. Just so much around here is low income which I am not. The one place I found was rented the next day and I never got a call back. I am hoping that since the 1st is coming up that more places will be come available.

Not legal advice, but does your state have emergency stays of orders? I agree with jigsy to make sure you know ALL your rights!

Exactly! Not trying to be pushy, but I hate when LL think they can do what they want. In most cases, you have to be able to complete your lease. If your lease is expired and you are month to month, they sometimes the notice period is 60 days, sometimes it is 30 days, and it has to be in writing, not a phone call.

[abcdefu]

Sept 27, 2016 17:45:30 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Sept 27, 2016 17:21:24 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Not legal advice, but does your state have emergency stays of orders? I agree with jigsy to make sure you know ALL your rights!

Exactly! Not trying to be pushy, but I hate when LL think they can do what they want. In most cases, you have to be able to complete your lease. If your lease is expired and you are month to month, they sometimes the notice period is 60 days, sometimes it is 30 days, and it has to be in writing, not a phone call.

Yes! I have witnessed people receive 6 months on a hardship stay. Like Jigsy said, many times you can finish out your lease and the new buyer may have to honor it.

 In my state, you pay rent; you can stay. It's a bitch and a half to get someone out of a property you own. Tenants have rights yo!

[daisyn]

Saturday will be 7 years since I left my ex-husband. We've now been apart longer than we were together. And I've now also been single from my ex-boyfriend for 2 years. I think I'm finally ready to meet someone and settle down. Hear that universe?!?!?

[Deleted]

Hi!

PDQ
I keep writing and deleting.  There are things that are good and then things that are....blah.  Overall I'm really happy with J, my new city, new job etc.  But J has not found a job yet.  He doesn't show it much, but he's frustrated.  I knew I had a job when I got here and he didn't so I totally expected this, although I thought he'd be settled by now.  He's not feeling "at home" yet because he's not in a routine and I feel "responsible", KWIM?   

We were back in NYC for a few days a couple weeks ago for a long weekend.  I was supposed to get to see two of my girlfriends and they both flaked on me.  Not like we spent tons of time together in recent years, but I was in town and even at the same baseball game as one and she avoided me.  I just don't get people.  In recent years so many friendships dwindled and now it's extremely apparent.  

I sometimes feel a little lonely, especially because even my mom is far away (Let's remember that she left NYC first, though and I moved closer toward her with this move).    Ehhh...such is life.  

[jigsy]

@blueyes623,I was J when I first got married. XH had a job and we moved, and I went from thinking it would be super easy to find something - I had never had an issue before - to just being super depressed. XH was forming friendships with his co-workers, I was at home alone. I would be included in group outings of course, but they were never "my" people. I ended up getting a shitty host gig at a restaurant 4 months after we moved and it was a game changer and things were much better. I am sure it will get there for you and J too. Just try to be patient! I know that my XH had real guilt about how depressed I got, and that made me feel even more guilty. I don't know if there would have been a better way to handle it, but you know J and you know what kind of support he needs - just keep that in mind. And try not to let it drag you down too much - when you are at work or whatever, don't feel guilty because you are enjoying your new life. J will figure out his place soon enough

[sweetchix]

I have a lunch date tomorrow with J. I took some extra time for lunch so I don't have to rush. I'm excited, but I'm also stressing about what to wear.

Everyone at work was annoying me today. New boss kept making random comments every time she came out to the printer (which is right next to my desk). And cw who has been there for 8 months now has been on my nerves for the past week. Although I keep comparing her to my previous cw, who was AMAZING, and that's not fair to new cw. But I think I've just been in a sucky mood and easily annoyed

Edited: wrote precious instead of previous. Although, precious works too, lol.

[thedutchgirl]

I'm seeing someone, and so far so good! Moving slow, but for my first dating after getting divorced, the speed is good/respectful/nice.

[alleinesein]

For those of you who missed seeing it in the MM thread....after 3.5 years
I HAVE A JOB!!!!!

It ends on election day (that should be a clue as to what I am doing) but it is a paycheck and it relates to my degree field.  I got my first paycheck last week and almost cried.

[btay]

Why is it so hard for men to say more than 2 words at a time in an email? I am never going to get to know you this way!!!

[sweetchix]

And I just noticed I have the start of a pimple on the tip of my nose. Wonderful! That's all J will be looking at during lunch tomorrow

[Deleted]

jigsy, thanks for sharing that. I do feel a sense of guilt which is actually causing my anxiety to show up when it really shouldn't. I want him to be happy. We're able to do so much more here than we could ever afford in NYC. It was a great summer with lots of small trips, but this situation is just like a gray cloud. I hope it resolves soon.

[flatlan]

I have been having a tough few days. I am a pretty social person and I think I have spent a little too much time alone. I had dinner at a brewery tonight with friends and it definitely brightened my mood!

[redshoejune]

I hate dealing with my x and my work sucks. But my kid had two good days in a row which is huge.

[itsmyparty]

The Tinder guy I was seeing for a few months, who then wanted to kinda step back/break up/whatever due to his work schedule, is back in the picture. We went for a couple of weeks without contact, then I got a text from him one day: "I miss you." Well, I have to admit I was really, really happy to hear from him. I feel a special connection with him. So he has committed to making time for us when he IS home between trips, even if it's just a day or two. And so far he's come through on that promise.

I have been interviewing like crazy for jobs over the past month and despite so many multiple-round processes, I haven't secured a position yet. It's very frustrating to be told that I'm either overqualified (it's true, I am) for positions I've applied for and am clearly interested in, or that I'm too much of an outsider being that I've just moved here from another state. I have two more this week that I am very excited for, and damn I hope I get one of 'em. I need lots of positive thoughts, because like @blueyes623 's J, I feel very out of sorts without a daily work routine...not to mention the money thing.

[1confused1]

Nothing new here. Taking the xh back to court for visitation and child support.

Second verse, same as the first. :-(

[doglove]

Not much going on w/ me, same old same old.

[stephreloaded]

Sept 28, 2016 0:31:48 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Nothing new here. Taking the xh back to court for visitation and child support.

Second verse, same as the first.

 Good luck!

[stephreloaded]

I haven't been feeling well for the past weeks. It turns out that I'm having anxiety attacks every single day and I just feel like my heart is out of control. I started medication for it and I am feeling a tad better but this is new territory for me. I am looking at my life right now and I'm making changes to lower my stress level.