Randoms/vents/AWs/whatever because it's dead in here!

[pinkdutchtulips]

Not much here .... I'm feeling overwhelmed w DD. I'm envious of people who are able to divorce and share custody. I would love to have some solid, dedicated 'me' time that I can count on that doesn't require being at the mercy of other people's schedules.

Brought to you by a string of first dates on Tinder and guys wondering why need at least a week's lead time to find a sitter. Nothing more maddening than hearing 'oh' when you answer the question 'when's your next kid free weekend' ..

[pinkdutchtulips]

Sept 28, 2016 0:31:48 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Nothing new here. Taking the xh back to court for visitation and child support.

Second verse, same as the first.

hugs and GL !

[1confused1]

Thanks stephreloaded, and pinkdutchtulips

[glynn]

Went to look at a house today..... They did not even bother to clean the bugs up off the floors.... It was gross.

Went to look at one last night that I knew was out of my price range. I thought I might could figure something out until.... I found out it is super close to XH girlfriend that he has been cheating with for years.

[shoofly]

Just a quick question...about something I should probably already know and that's been asked before.

How do you tell someone you're not interested? I know it's dumb, but I am just so bad at being a people-pleaser and sometimes I'm just not direct enough. I have been talking with a guy I met off POF. We exchanged texts and calls for about a week and then met in person. We met a second time in person just this last weekend. I'm just getting a vibe that he wants more than I'm willing to give right now and also some possessiveness/jealousy coming through. He is currently being childish because of some conversation we had yesterday which has led him to not contacting me or starting conversations via text as he used to....and me doing all the work. Which can be fine when needed...but I know it's in direct relation to the convo yesterday.

I was supposed to spend some time with him this Saturday (which is also his birthday)...and I really don't want to. I'll be in his city for a football game with some friends and was supposed to meet up with him at some point. Ugh. This is annoying. And frustrating! lol Is this what happens when you do the high school sweetheart thing and don't learn how to break things off early??

[doriswe]

shoofly, a standard "I think you're a great guy, but I just feel like we're not a good fit. Good luck in your search!" and then stop responding.

[shoofly]

Thanks, doriswe. I guess I just overthink it, as I'm sure many people do. I get worried about all the questions, responses, having to explain myself. Seems simple enough, though. Thank you for entertaining my dumb question

[doriswe]

Sept 28, 2016 14:59:25 GMT -5 shoofly said:

Thanks, doriswe . I guess I just overthink it, as I'm sure many people do. I get worried about all the questions, responses, having to explain myself. Seems simple enough, though. Thank you for entertaining my dumb question

lol...I think we've all been there, but seriously, it's just that easy and stop responding. And trust your gut.  If dude isn't a good fit for you, pat yourself on the back for realizing it early on and stopping it before it goes any further!!

[Deleted]

Sorry itsmyparty. I hope you find something really soon.

[cuddlyevil]

itsmyparty, I hope you find something soon!

[cuddlyevil]

Not a lot of new stuff here. Getting trained on my new job, it's starting to come together and I really like the people I work with.

No dates since pof guy imploded, but I didn't have money to go out and I wanted to get settled into my new wake-up time.

Planning a trip to California for next year and an overnight in a hotel for the boys and I when DD goes on retreat in November.

[itsmyparty]

shoofly, I'm bad at it, too. Except I'm realizing it might be a bit because I didn't reject guys enough in the past. I just went along with things even when I wasn't really into the guy, until things either petered out or we had a fight or broke up. This time around I've had to do more "letting him down easy," which thankfully most guys have handled graciously.

@blueyes623, cuddlyevil, thank you! Big interview tomorrow - fingers crossed!

[melloyello]

I decided to finally finish school. Classes started in August. I'm enjoying them. But man I feel like my schedule is non-stop. Between work, school, and XH not taking DS when he's supposed to, I just don't have any downtime.

I had a summer fling. We had good times together. But I had to end it. We had some drinks and he stayed at my place one night. Early in the morning, I heard my closet door jiggling. Then I heard something like water hitting something hard. After the noise stoped and he climbed back into bed, it hit me what just happened. Dude tried to pee in DS's potty which was in front of my dresser! And it got all over my floor! I kicked him out of bed and made him clean it up. Then told him he had to leave. He reached out a couple days later like nothing happened. I told him that I can't be with someone who thinks it's a good idea to use a potty training potty OR who is too messed up to realize what he was doing. He denied the pee incident (ummm, you cleaned it up) and told me he can't handle the drama of being with me. Way to deflect buddy. So after that incident, I took a step back from guys. That was at the beginning of August.

I am talking to a guy from one of my classes. But that's all it is at this point since we both have pretty full schedules.

[dancelnow]

What is with guys people find here that aren't properly potty trained?!?

[melloyello]

Sept 29, 2016 10:21:01 GMT -5 dancelnow said:

What is with guys people find here that aren't properly potty trained?!?

After it happened, I remembered that thread and I was like "yea, no way am I even debating staying around with that guy like that poster did"

[doriswe]

Sept 29, 2016 15:13:00 GMT -5 melloyello said:

Sept 29, 2016 10:21:01 GMT -5 dancelnow said:

What is with guys people find here that aren't properly potty trained?!?

After it happened, I remembered that thread and I was like "yea, no way am I even debating staying around with that guy like that poster did"

maybe he just needed you to believe in him 😜

[melloyello]

Sept 29, 2016 21:16:05 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Sept 29, 2016 15:13:00 GMT -5 melloyello said:

After it happened, I remembered that thread and I was like "yea, no way am I even debating staying around with that guy like that poster did"

maybe he just needed you to believe in him 😜

LMAO! Yea, I believe that he's a mess

[doglove]

Oh wow melloyello.

[pinkdutchtulips]

i have an adult only 'playdate' tomorrow night

[statlerwaldorf]

My ex just canceled on the kids because he has to take his mom to the doctor on a Saturday night. She died over the summer. His gf's mom has also passed away, so he couldn't have been referring to her mom.

[Mrs.Rad888]

Oct 1, 2016 17:27:49 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

My ex just canceled on the kids because he has to take his mom to the doctor on a Saturday night. She died over the summer. His gf's mom has also passed away, so he couldn't have been referring to her mom.

Hmmm...even the best doctor isn't going to be able to fix that ailment!

[jenstar]

Oct 1, 2016 17:27:49 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

My ex just canceled on the kids because he has to take his mom to the doctor on a Saturday night. She died over the summer. His gf's mom has also passed away, so he couldn't have been referring to her mom.

A likely story...

[cuddlyevil]

DS1 asked me if I was going to get married again this morning. He almost sounded jealous of the neighbor kids "they have a mom and dad.". Uh, so do you, we just don't live together (neither do the parents of the neighbor kids).

Whee?!?

[jellymankelly]

Oct 1, 2016 17:27:49 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

My ex just canceled on the kids because he has to take his mom to the doctor on a Saturday night. She died over the summer. His gf's mom has also passed away, so he couldn't have been referring to her mom.

Don't they know she's dead? How old are your kids? Is this really the best excuse he could come up with? I have so many questions.

[statlerwaldorf]

Oct 2, 2016 10:44:20 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

Oct 1, 2016 17:27:49 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

My ex just canceled on the kids because he has to take his mom to the doctor on a Saturday night. She died over the summer. His gf's mom has also passed away, so he couldn't have been referring to her mom.

Don't they know she's dead? How old are your kids? Is this really the best excuse he could come up with? I have so many questions.

They are 7 and 2. He never told them. Xh hardly ever saw his mom and didn't have much of a relationship with her. He never told me or the kids. I invited XSIL and XFIL to Ds1's birthday party and found out she passed when I asked XSIL how her mom was doing then I felt terrible. I told dd1 when she asked why XMIL didn't come to the party.

He is supposed to see the kids from 6 to 8 on Saturday nights. Usually he just says he has to leave early for a doctors appointment, but for whatever reason this time he needed to add the mom part. He is a few crayons short of a box.

[Linie]

I was in the US last week for business. I didn't sleep at all on the flight back and jetlag is killing me today.

It was my birthday last Sunday and the BF was incredibly generous with his gift: an Ipad Pro!

I'm doing another Master at my old university this year and my first class was this weekend: out of a class of 32 students, most are around 30 years old, so I'm clearly the "old woman", but the courses are so very interesting that I'm very happy I'm doing this.

[doglove]

Oct 1, 2016 21:21:28 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

DS1 asked me if I was going to get married again this morning. He almost sounded jealous of the neighbor kids "they have a mom and dad.". Uh, so do you, we just don't live together (neither do the parents of the neighbor kids).

Whee?!?

Maybe this would be a good learning lesson to teach him that we don't need to be married or partnered off in order to achieve happiness in life? I hate that there is so much society pressure about this. 

[doglove]

Happy birthday Linie!

[dancelnow]

DS got upset again last night about mommy and daddy not being married anymore. The trigger was that I had to cook dinner while he wanted me to help him play something and I made the comment that it's just us now so sometimes i have to do that. Broke my heart.