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[scm1011]

How's everyone doing? It's crazy quiet around here lately.

I'm doing well, preparing for baby and maternity leave (6 weeks until my due date!). I'm so ready for both! Our bar friends (lol) are throwing us a shower on Sunday, which should be great and totally low key. Basically we're all just going to watch football, eat food, and I'll leave with some gifts - sounds perfect I'm also taking Monday as a "sick day" since my company doesn't allow me to use sick days on maternity leave

Otherwise not much going on. I'm having some unfortunate drama with my ILs (my SIL chose to unload on my after my baby shower down there, telling me I'm mean and distant and blasting me with some BS examples. I was pretty blindsided and upset because I thought we were close). On the bright side, I now feel zero guilt about skipping Christmas in NY this year in favor of a low-key holiday here, so that's a win.

What's going on in your world?

[leeluu]

Hi! I haven't posted much on here but I'll just jump in!

I'm crazy busy at work and stressed. Having an 18 month old who is in a major mama phase is not helping. I'm in the airport now about to come home and I'm so excited because I miss my daughter so much. I've been in Seattle since Sunday for a conference.

I had to write out a family schedule because this fall is so crazy between my work travel, DH's travel, weddings, etc. I'm regretting my idea of hosting my dad a major milestone birthday - that's only in a month and I don't know when I'll fit working on that in.

It's definitely all good stuff right now, I just need caffeine!

Oh and I'm secretly hoping I'm pregnant but won't know for sure for a few days. being in first trimester this fall would be the least helpful thing on earth, but damnit I want a baby now lol !

[5kcandlesinthewind]

Oh my gosh, scm1011 , I can't believe you're so close! Have you packed a bag and gotten the nursery ready? As someone who put everything off until the bitter end and then had to scramble (thanks for showing up so damn early, kid!) make sure that at least the bag is packed early! And I'm sorry your SIL is giving you grief. I hope she can get her head out of her ass, but in the meantime, I would give zero fucks about it. Low key holidays are the best, for sure.

Fingers crossed for you leeluu, and welcome!

It's status quo here. Work is ... work. Ben turned 16 months on Sunday, and he's basically the tasmanian devil like 90% of the time. Tomorrow is our 6th anniversary, so my ILs are coming over to watch Ben so my husband and I can go out for an early bird special and still get home for bedtime. And we get to go out again in a couple of weeks for the 10th anniversary of our first date (which normally we'd ignore, but it's a significant, round number this year, ha), which is two more times than we've gone out to dinner solo in the last year. Livin' the dream here, haha.

[scm1011]

FX for you, leeluu !

Happy Anniversary, 5kcandlesinthewind ! Our dating and wedding anniversaries are also 4 years + a week-ish apart in October. It'll be 8 years married and 12 years together for us this year. Enjoy your dinners, and wow to Ben being 16 months already! Time flies.

Nursery is getting there. I still have to organize, wash clothes, hang artwork, etc, but all the big stuff is done. I have plans to finish up on Monday, as well as packing my hospital bag. I'm not really sure what to do with that though, since I commute via T. Do I start lugging it to work at some point? I commute to DTX, DH commutes to Dorchester, and I'm delivering at MGH, so it wouldn't be convenient for either of us to run home to Somerville to grab it if I go into labor mid workday. Hopefully the baby will do me a solid and wait to start his/her arrival at home.

[5kcandlesinthewind]

Glad the big stuff is done! I'd probably leave a small bag with duplicate essentials at work (like toothbrush/toothpaste and a hairbrush) and leave the big bag at home ready to go. I didn't have anything packed because he wasn't due for 4 more weeks, and I somehow stupidly thought we'd get sent home when we went to the hospital, so I didn't even try to throw things together before we left. My poor husband was left to fumble around and try to figure out what I might want based on my still-heavily medicated ramblings. It did not go well, poor man, though he tried his best. But really, like 90% of what you need is given to you, so I wouldn't stress over it.

[scm1011]

Woah, 5kcandlesinthewind - was there a reason you went into labor 4 weeks early?? The thought the I could give birth in 2 weeks is terrifying 

[bostonmichelle]

I'm so excited for you scm1011 , even though I've told you like 1000 times!!!

Yay for date nights 5kcandlesinthewind !

We are finishing up some house projects lately. We finished all the pergo floors on the second floor and I think we figured out our nursery paint colors. I'm hoping to paint the nursery next weekend. This weekend we are putting carpet treads on the stairs and taking out our glass doors for our guest bathroom, hopefully. And I have a 17-20 mile run to do tomorrow morning.

I haven't announced it here yet since its been so dead and I don't really go here anymore but I'm 14, almost 15 weeks pregnant!

ETA: I want pictures of the nursery scm1011!

[scm1011]

bostonmichelle, right back at ya, friend!
And I'll def post nursery pics when its finished (hopefully Monday!)

[5kcandlesinthewind]

Congratulations, bostonmichelle! Hope you've been feeling ok. Man, you and scm1011 put nonpregnant me to shame with those runs while pregnant. I am currently trying to talk myself into paying half of what I pay now for a parking space because I don't want to have to walk 15 minutes each way, ha.

scm1011, I'm not sure they ever said what happened. He was fully developed and didn't have any issues, and we're one and done, so I didn't think to really ask. The whole thing was such a blur, and I think I still have some sort of PTSD around it. aside from how quickly it all happened, I wouldn't wish it on anyone, so I hope your little one stays put until it's time!

[leeluu]

Sept 30, 2016 11:26:23 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

FX for you, leeluu !

Happy Anniversary, 5kcandlesinthewind ! Our dating and wedding anniversaries are also 4 years + a week-ish apart in October. It'll be 8 years married and 12 years together for us this year. Enjoy your dinners, and wow to Ben being 16 months already! Time flies.

Nursery is getting there. I still have to organize, wash clothes, hang artwork, etc, but all the big stuff is done. I have plans to finish up on Monday, as well as packing my hospital bag. I'm not really sure what to do with that though, since I commute via T. Do I start lugging it to work at some point? I commute to DTX, DH commutes to Dorchester, and I'm delivering at MGH, so it wouldn't be convenient for either of us to run home to Somerville to grab it if I go into labor mid workday. Hopefully the baby will do me a solid and wait to start his/her arrival at home.

Will anyone be visiting you in the hospital? If so, could they grab your bag for you ? There was nothing I needed while delivering, and that took awhile. All I wanted shortly after I delivered was lunch.

[bostonmichelle]

Thanks 5kcandlesinthewind. *Knocks on wood* I've been doing really good until this week. I am exhausted and starving but I'm hopefully that goes away soon.

[liveintheville]

La shana tova! We took the kids to temple for first time. C was into it and very well behaved. L was tired or overwhelmed and sat on my lap the entire time.
Hurray to all the future Boston babies!

[scm1011]

5kcandlesinthewind, that must have been nuts. I don't blame you for still being a bit shell-shocked.

leeluu, I'm sure I can convince someone to run home and grab my bag if worse comes to worse. As for food, I'm happy that MGH is conveniently located next door to Whole Foods. I envision sending DH to the hot bar to bring me all my favorites

RockNVoll, the shower was a lot of fun! Lots of good food and relaxing with friends We feel fully geared up at this point. I'm jealous of all your upcoming travel!! I really love Copenhagen, and of course, I fully support any trip you make back here. I bet you're dying to meet your nephew at this point! Definitely let us know if you have time to GTG - I miss you! Sorry to hear that work is crap for both you and your DH. Do you think you'll be looking to make a change when you come back to the States?

[elfinia7]

I'm also way behind on this post, I don't come by as often as I use to. Updates on me are that I've been dating someone for awhile now and things are going amazingly well. He's met my family, I've met some of his closet friends. He loves to travel and thus has created an outlet for me to do the travel I've always wanted to (he's who I went to Europe with over the summer). We have a trip coming up in a few months that will have us in Hong Kong for New Years Eve, then Bali for a week, a night in Yogykarta, a night in Singapore and then three nights in LA to help ease me back into the trip home. It's the longest vacation I've ever taken but I'm super excited.

Work is work. I need something new and have been job hunting but options are limited at this time of year and I'm locked in by location as I don't want to move outside this area. Even if I weren't dating someone, my family and friends are here. I have no desire to move somewhere away on my own away from that support network.

I'm about to go on medical leave, tomorrow as a matter of fact for a planned surgery. Nothing thrilling, just getting rid of a bunion on my right foot, but I've never had any sort of surgery before so I'm nervous. I'll be out of work for 3-4 weeks for recovery time and I know I'm going to quickly be bored out of my mind lol

Things with my ex are copacetic. We speak occasionally, mostly just business but he seems to be doing well. He bought a house which blows my mind but I suppose it's his life It's insane to think of where I was emotionally this time last year and it seems surreal as I've come so far.

[scm1011]

elfinia7 - awesome to hear from you! I'm glad all is well. Your trip sounds amazing!! Good luck with surgery.

[donthasslethehoff]

Hi All - long time no talk. Hope everyone is doing fabulous. scm1011,you're so close to your due date!! That's so exciting. Congrats bostonmichelle!

Update one me (sorry, brain dump): We sold our house back in March, looked for a house forever and didn't find anything. We found a piece of land to build on and signed the P&S on that in April and moved into an apartment. House was supposed to be done end of August, then in August the builder said end of September, last week comes along and he said it's not going to be done until end of November. In the meantime we told our apartment that we'd be out by Nov. 1 and now our leasing office has a renter ready to go, so we have to be out.

The builder and his company own a bunch of apartment buildings in Worcester, so he has us moving into one of the units on Nov. 1 and he's footing the bill.

Currently, we have probably 70% of our belongings in a storage unit in Northborough, my aunt has all of our outdoor stuff (grill, mower, snowblower, smoker, etc.) in her shed in Townsend, we have probably 20% of our belongings in our current apartment. We're trying to only take the bare essentials to the new apartment because I refuse to have to move it all again. Builder is allowing us to put big stuff in the garage of the house we're building.

Basically our lives are a complete clusterfuck right now. If you're keeping up, that will be 3 moves in 7 months with 2 dogs and an almost four year old.

We're also trying to get pregnant and on our second IUI attempt. I am trying to stay as stress free as possible and reminding myself that all of this is out of my hands. It's tough.

I also applied for a new job last week (internal), but in a completely different function. I should hear today or tomorrow if I got the position.

[scm1011]

Ooof, that sounds brutal donthasslethehoff . I'm glad that the builder was able to get you a free place to stay, but I can imagine how taxing all those moves plus having all your stuff displaced must be. Add in IF treatments and you deserve a medal. FX that IUI #2 does the trick, and that you get the new position. Keep us updated! Hugs.