guess who took it to the next level and shit their

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Kids shit their pants now and then, I swear. deep breaths, honey. deeeeeeeeeeeeeep breaths

[sonrisa]

Can you take a day off of work and spend it with the kids? Do something special and fun? (or, half day off with them, half day off for you).

Hang in there.

[pantsparty]

If this board is any sort of indication, a lot of people shit their pants.

[dcannie]

i'm sorry, bam.

[Deleted]

What kind of arrangement do you and your H have for the kids? How often is he seeing them?

[silva]

small steps, bam. small steps.

breathe.

hugs.

[pittsmcgee]

I'm sorry
Keep reminding yourself you are doing the right thing

[karmasabiotch]

Is H seeing the kids? Can he reassure them too?

[iamgrace]

I'm so sorry. I'm sure he will get through this. So will you.

[ralphlauren]

Hugs. You all will get through this and he will be back to his happy self in no time. Hell, my twin is 34 and does not adjust well to change. It take a few weeks to adjust to things and she bounces back.

He will be fine. (})

[Deleted]

Hang in there.

[sake]

Maybe start doing small rewards for accident free days? I don't know how old G is, and if this is happenign purely out of stress on his part, or to try to get you to do what he wants (let dad come back home) but either way, I think that this is something that will pass.
I hope that the counselor can see him soon, and hopefully that will help also.
You all are in my thoughts. Keep taking it one day at a time. It will get better.
((Hugs))

[thebamker]

Sept 10, 2012 11:44:52 GMT -5 karmasabiotch said:

Is H seeing the kids? Can he reassure them too?

yes. a lot. and he is.

we've even been doing it together. He won't talk to either one of us at this point. As soon as we bring anything up, he acts like he can't hear us and interupts us with weird comments to "show" he isn't listening.

I have never been so completely unsure of what I'm doing... and that is REALLY saying something. trust me.

[WOT?*]

Sept 10, 2012 11:44:19 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

RELAXXXXX. Seriously. Little kids just do this sometimes. it's okay. It's not indicative of anything except laziness or inattentiveness on the kid's part.

Don't read into these things too much, really, or you WILL start giving him a complex.

Absolutely this. Sometimes shit happens. My grandson is six and when we were out school supply shopping he waited until the last minute to tell me he had to go potty (though we had left the house not a half hour before and all had gone) and I had to buy him a new set of underwear for the ride home because he couldn't hold it in. It's not indicative of him having emotional trauma, just being distracted and not noticing until he was "full up."

Sorry you're dealing with all this. Deep breaths and keep telling yourself that you can do this and you'll make it through. If I can do this, you most certainly can. You're a helluva lot more grounded, educated and level-headed than I was back in the day. Just take it a moment at a time when you need to, not even a day at a time, just a minute at a time until you can get through that particular moment. This is one of those "moments."

[sprky79]

Sept 10, 2012 11:52:31 GMT -5 thebamker said:

Sept 10, 2012 11:44:52 GMT -5 karmasabiotch said:

Is H seeing the kids? Can he reassure them too?

yes. a lot. and he is.

we've even been doing it together. He won't talk to either one of us at this point. As soon as we bring anything up, he acts like he can't hear us and interupts us with weird comments to "show" he isn't listening.

I have never been so completely unsure of what I'm doing... and that is REALLY saying something. trust me.

You cannot be dictated to by terrorists, no matter how cute they are and no matter how much you love them.

You are doing the right thing. You know it, and your husband knows it. It is the way of the world that a five year old just does not know it. This too shall pass, as you find him an awesome therapist. Hang in there kiddo.

[Nicole]

((Bamker))

[picklepie09]

Sept 10, 2012 11:52:31 GMT -5 thebamker said:

Sept 10, 2012 11:44:52 GMT -5 karmasabiotch said:

Is H seeing the kids? Can he reassure them too?

yes. a lot. and he is.

we've even been doing it together. He won't talk to either one of us at this point. As soon as we bring anything up, he acts like he can't hear us and interupts us with weird comments to "show" he isn't listening.



My son is 7 and was pooping his pants a lot. I took him to the doctor and he was actually constopated. It sounds weird but he had a blockage so he thought he was done.. or farting and some would come out. He was so embarrassed he wouldn't say anything. Just frustrating.

If it continues call his pedi. I am not sure how old he is but maybe its something like constipation or it coudl be all he is going through. hang in there I can tell you that I 100% empathize wiht you.








I have never been so completely unsure of what I'm doing... and that is REALLY saying something. trust me.

[cleo29]

Wait, did your H move out? I'm so lost.

Regarding the poop, this does happen. Maybe if he is stressed about something going on with you and H, this is just how it is showing itself. I would try to not be angry with him and realize that he must feel pretty embarrassed about it already.

[pantsparty]

Please hang in there, bam. This will pass. If you cave I fear you will be in the same place again shortly, and going through this again would be bad for everyone.

From what I've read, you and your H seem like excellent parents and he'll get through this. Right now is just a bad time.

[iamali]

YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING.

I want you to look in the mirror and tell yourself everytime that seed of doubt starts to take root.

This is going to be very hard for him, I know you know that. But that hardship isn't a good enough to stop (IMO as your friend). I promise you (PROMISE YOU) that he will be ok.

(((hugs)))

You know how to contact me should you need to.

[speckledfrog]

Floyd, it's hard. It's gut wrenching. It's making you second guess yourself over and over. That doesn't mean what you are doing isn't the best option for the long run. Kids are very short sighted. You have to trust the decision you made back when things were "normal." G is smart, he's telling you he needs some guidance. He's also resilient and will get through this. The counselor will help. Big hugs to you.

[Jermys]

Aw, Floydie I think counseling would be wonderful for G and L, and I hope things ease up soon.

[weelass24]

I'm sorry floyd. I had no idea. Counseling sounds good. and maybe a little bit of just something fun to make it a little easier on them.