This is a wonderful update. Yay for sobriety! And I'm so glad you've become active in Al-Anon. I know it was hard at first, but good for you for keeping with their program!
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Lucy! Thank you for such a wonderful update. I'm so happy for you and your H.
"I also finally accepted my own traits and recognized that if I left him, I was likely to find another unhealthy relationship until I did serious work on my own baggage of growing up in an alcoholic home."
That was a profound and admirable thought! Congrats to both of you for working on the issues.