Vent ahead, add yours

[wineandcheese]

Can I vent for a minute? I had a breakdown the other day shopping. I know I need to lose weight. Store after store I went into nothing looked right. With H and a good guy friend I started feeling better. Today my mom comes over right after we got home from an 18 hour drive and the first thing she says is that I got fat and my spare tire grew. I had to leave the room since I started crying. When she was done talking with H she comes into our bedroom and makes comments again. I had a frozen pizza in the oven and now I don't want to eat at all. Let's pretty much tell the mentally unstable person she is fat. H is literally sitting here watching me eat. I used to have issues with binge and purging and haven't had an issue since I stopped therapy over 20 years ago. Right now is not the time. H wants to go to her house and tell her off. Ugh. May it's just because I'm sleep deprived but I just feel like shit right now.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[luv2rn4fun]

Wow, so many ((hugs)) that is very wrong of your mom for so many reasons. I am sorry she said those things to you. I am also glad you have such a loving and supportive DH. I do think someone needs to say something to your mom.

[MrsMB]

Goodness, that is NOT OK for her to do that!!! NOT OK wineandcheese . I am so sorry. SO many hugs. She is supposed to support you no matter what! I am so sorry.

Yes, someone needs to say something to your Mom.

[macmars45]

I'm so sorry your mom said those terrible things to you. It wasn't ok. (Hugs)

[katespade]

I am so sorry that your mom said those things to you. (((HUGS)))

Would it help if you wrote a letter to her that explains how she made you feel and what type of support you need from her going forward? Even if you decided not to give it to her, writing out those thoughts might help you process everything.

[bk1]

I am so sorry she said those things to you. That is not okay at all.

I'm so thankful you have such a supportive and loving H.

[travelbug]

Soo many hugs. That is totally not okay. She should not have said that all, your H sounds so great that he wants to go over there!

We are all here for you! I'm sorry that happened!

[estrellita]

Wtf? How horrible! I'm so sorry she said those things to you *hugs*

[wineandcheese]

Thanks guys. Usually her comments just roll off my back but with H taking me shopping and loving so much but it either wasn't my size or looked like crap it hit hard. I found a few things but ended up leaving one outlet mall in tears.

I'm a luck gal that DH always tells me I'm beautiful or sexy. I just have been feeling down about my weight. Hopefully this is the push I need to get my butt in gear, restart MFP and clean off the treadmill.

[wanderingenough]

I'm so sorry that your mom said such awful things. Sometimes I wonder why mothers think they have a pass to say things to their daughters they would never say to anyone else.

[Blue Moon]

I'm so sorry she said such awful things to you. ((Hugs))

[grover]

My mom has sad similar statements to me in the past. I finally told her it was hurtful and if she wouldn't cut it out she wouldn't be welcome over and I would immediately plan to get up and leave he house if she mentioned it. It got better until becoming pregnant at the same time as my much skinner much younger sister. I told her that I still don't want comments about my size or how I'm carrying, and certainly not to be compared to my sister knowing about my IF journey.

(Hugs)

[cowgirlcutie]

I'm so sorry you were subjected to such awful comments, wineandcheese. Good on your H for being caring and supportive. He sounds like a keeper

[awick14]

I'm so sorry she said those things to you!! Omg I can't imagine someone saying that to anyone let alone there daughter.

[HoneySpider]

((wineandcheese)) I'm so sorry. I've had a difficult relationship with my mom in terms of weight/food because she tends to be critical but in a way that I know she means to be helpful (if that makes sense). I'm pretty sure my grandma was the same way with her and it's trickled down. It sucks.

[pooh8402]

omg I'm so sorry, that's so horrible of your mom (of all people!) to say those things to you. I'm glad your H is supportive of you, and hope that you will continue to lean on him as you work through your feelings.