Sunday Randoms

[nextbigthing]

Jan 11, 2017 16:55:25 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

Jan 11, 2017 16:01:25 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

How often do you talk on the phone? Has he made any affectionate moves or comments at all? At this point I'd think there should at least be some smooching.

It's hard when you feel like they aren't all in but you want to be (although I'm not sure what I want anymore(

I hate talking on the phone. To anyone. We've talked on the phone twice. We usually text.

He hugs me. Kisses me on the cheek. We flirt. But that's been it so far. My thought is that he's moving slow because A) his failed relationships in the past. But I'm just guessing. Or, B) maybe he does consider us just friends. But I really don't think so. I'm thinking more A.

next time you see him, if you want to, kiss him hello quickly. Maybe he's just nervous.

That's what I did, I just gave him a quick kiss and got it out of the way.

[sweetchix]

Jan 11, 2017 12:34:27 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Jan 11, 2017 10:40:07 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I've stepped back a couple times as well, usually when I start to question whether or not I think he wants to keep seeing me, and then that's the time her surprises me with a text or says/does something when we're together that makes it seem like he *does* want to be with me. Problem is, he hasn't even kissed me yet. Not even a move. So then I think maybe he just wants to be friends. I've been trying to plan it so we are both kid-free and someplace where we can talk about what we are/what we want from this. Not a conversation I really want to have at Texas Roadhouse or a bowling alley, but at this rate, and for my own sanity at time, I think it may have to do. I really like him, and he seems to really like me. He truly does feel bad that we can't go out more often. But sometimes I ask myself if I'm ok with this, am I ok only seeing him every 2-3 weeks. If there were more communication on his side? Then absolutely. This nothing or minimal communication in between is when the questions and doubts start rolling through my head. Hoping to be able to get out this Friday. He's kid-free, but I'm not . Trying to get a sleepover set up for DDs but I probably won't know until that day.

Are you dating other people also?

Honestly, I don't think this is what you need in your life.  There is no reason you two couldn't have phone conversations to keep that communication going regularly so you wouldn't have to wonder.  And people with kids get sitters all the time. You both could work it out if you wanted to. I think him not doing these things is him telling you he is not willing to give 100% to this...and you deserve someone who would move heaven and earth to see you regularly.  His kid schedule will probably never change, so are you really willing to settle for that sort of infrequent contact?

No, I'm not seeing anyone else, but that's because I haven't met anyone else.
Right now I'm ok with what we have going on, other than wishing we communicated more during the week, but things could change. I am at the point in my life that I would like a serious relationship. And if I find out that that is not something he wants right now, then it's not meant to be for us.

[sweetchix]

Jan 11, 2017 16:58:02 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

Jan 11, 2017 16:55:25 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I hate talking on the phone. To anyone. We've talked on the phone twice. We usually text.

He hugs me. Kisses me on the cheek. We flirt. But that's been it so far. My thought is that he's moving slow because A) his failed relationships in the past. But I'm just guessing. Or, B) maybe he does consider us just friends. But I really don't think so. I'm thinking more A.

next time you see him, if you want to, kiss him hello quickly. Maybe he's just nervous.

That's what I did, I just gave him a quick kiss and got it out of the way.

I'm too nervous to make the first move too! lol

[nextbigthing]

Welp, we just broke up. I know it's the right thing, it wasn't going anywhere, he said really nice things about me, but we both knew it wasn't going to work.

I'm sad, but not that sad, no tears. He was just a really nice guy but we weren't right. I just hate that I have to start again, but I've decided to not do anything else until my divorce is final. I have to focus on keeping DS safe and STBXHS nonsense

[Linie]

Jan 11, 2017 23:38:37 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

Welp, we just broke up. I know it's the right thing, it wasn't going anywhere, he said really nice things about me, but we both knew it wasn't going to work.

I'm sad, but not that sad, no tears. He was just a really nice guy but we weren't right. I just hate that I have to start again, but I've decided to not do anything else until my divorce is final. I have to focus on keeping DS safe and STBXHS nonsense

Be kind to yourself. I just read your other story and wanted to send you some virtual hugs.