Another Bridesmaid Vent....

[mrsjason]

So, I mentioned in the FFC post about being in a wedding for my soon to be SIL.

I also mentioned that I purchased (per her request) several months back a dress from Janie and Jack for Macy to wear. I got a decent deal on the dress, it was discounted from $179.00 to $89.00......although $89.00 is still a lot for a dress for a two year old to wear. I also purchased (although not requested) matching silk shoes which were totally overpriced at $59.00 for Macy to wear. Yes I could have got them cheaper somewhere else, but I bought them for her anyway. BTW, I purchased her dress back in October of last year and the shoes this past July.

Fast forward to today.....

I received a text from the Bride asking what size shoe Macy wears, I was a little confused, as she didn't say what she needed her shoe size for and I assumed she was asking because she was either going to give Macy a gift or buy her shoes for the RD.

Then I received an email from her mom frantically asking me to send Macy's measurements because the seamstress needed them in order to make her dress for the wedding.

Umm, what? She has a dress. A dress that cost a shit load of money that I was instructed to buy.

So now, the bride wants me to pay for the material for the dress AND the seamstress to make it. Oh, and BTW, the wedding is in 5 weeks and the girl still hasn't got her invites out. I also asked about Macy's shoes and she said to send them she is going to have them dyed match Macy's dress. Umm, no. those shoes were $60 and you are not dying them. Go find a $15 pair to dye that I don't have to pay for.

One more bitch, then I'll be done, I also got an email from her sister asking what my shoe size was. Again, I assumed I would be getting flip flops or something in a thank you gift but nope, the bride has purchased us shoes to wear. Too bad she told me 3 months ago to wear gold/pewter colored shoes and I ran out and bought some. Good news is I can still return them since they were purchased two weeks ago and Dillards has a 30 day return policy..........wish I could return the dress from Janie and Jack.

I haven't talked to my H about any of this since he is at work but I am sure I will be instructed to do what she tells me, although his patience is running thin these days.

[melis74]

You definitely deserve some type of saint award for all of the crap you are putting up with for this wedding!

[sara76]

Good god I can't believe people like her are really out there.

I bet the Janie and Jack dress is gorgeous.

[aegis2005]

I want to throat punch your future SIL. Just saying

[moonstone523]

Are no BMs standing up to this girl? Are y'all chatting on the side about the unreasonable requests?

This is crazy. Who in their right mind experts people to hand over $$ like this?

[surfbetty530]

What did she say about Macy's dress you already purchased? I want to punch her... Grrr. Did you send her measurements yet? Don't do it!!

[kimandross]

Has she legitimately lost her mind? She requested you purchase the J&J dress for Macy, now she has conveniently forgotten and is asking for measurements for a new dress? Which is expecting you to pay for? And she asked you to get shoes and is now getting you new ones? She is confusing. I'm sure your future family functions are going to be a grand ole time. Can't wait until she has a kid.

[sara76]

Is this too bitchy to start an over under on how long the marriage lasts?

[polarbearfans]

Remind her of the original dress and how nice it looks and how much she loved it way back when and that it will be great. That is crazy to expect you to pay for another dress. Brides are crazy. I was particular of the dress and shoes for my bridesmaids but i bought both because I didn't want them to have to spend money on something they wouldn't wear again.

If she won't budge, you prob
Could sell the dress for not too much of a loss on craigslist/eBay.

[tashaandsage]

Seriously, this girl is unbelievable. If you haven't sent Macy's measurements, I wouldn't, reminding her of the dress that she already requested you buy. And why is she making all these changes 5 weeks before the wedding?

If you are stuck with the Janie and Jack dress, is it something she can wear to the rehearsal dinner? Just so you aren't out the money altogether.

[lauren9317]

I would call this person and be like WTF and explain that you've already bought dresses/shoes and you had no idea that plans were changing. How ridiculous!

[mrsjason]

Sept 11, 2012 14:11:00 GMT -5 moonstone523 said:

Are no BMs standing up to this girl? Are y'all chatting on the side about the unreasonable requests?

This is crazy. Who in their right mind experts people to hand over $$ like this?

I don't know any of the other girls, heck I hardly know the bride. No joke I have meet her a total of three times. She started dating my BIL in 2010.

But from what I gather, the other BM's are not happy with everything. When I asked her about the BM shoes she made a comment in her email along the lines of "since I couldn't get a serious response from anyone, and I was starting to worry that the other BM's would pick non-matching shoes, or worn and ragged shoes, I decided to pick the shoes myself."

She also mentioned other things here and there (but I can't remember what!) the things are not going so well on the BM front. I can't imagine why!

[mrsjason]

Sept 11, 2012 14:36:22 GMT -5 sara76 said:

Is this too bitchy to start an over under on how long the marriage lasts?

I question it myself.

My BIL is a cool guy. Super fun and just like my H. Or was just like my H. I can tell you, my H would not stand for any of this. My H is super laid back but would rather go broke spending money on his friends/family rather than ask them to pay for anything. EVER. He is famous for $300 bar bills, back when we would go out because he would never, ever let people pay drinks. He is just worried about everyone else having a good time and that's all that matters to him.

Oh man, I am going to have to take some of this down for fear my crazy SIL will stumble across this (which she won't but still....) but my BIL has totally done a 180 since he meet her. He is now super religious, which he never was before, and goes to church two times a week. He converted to Catholicism for this girl and has gone a little overboard with it all. Don't get me wrong, I don't care how religious a person is, I just feel that he is changing for HER, not for his sake.

Gosh, there is so much more I can say but I won't. Ugh.

[mrsjenrn]

Wow, after all you have been through with this bridezilla, this takes the cake! I don't think you'd be out of line to speak up about this. You don't have to mention all the other crazy stuff she has done, but can you point out that she was the one who specifically told you to buy that dress?