Your friends

[DesertMoon]

I've notice all my actual RL friends are either women of color or white single mothers who are not middle class. I have 0 middle class white women as friends. I'm wondering why now? I've had acquaintances but never like a real girlfriend who was a white middle class woman.

What kind of friends do you have? Am I the only person who has no friends like that?

[redwino]

My two closest friends in grad school were white middle class women. One is even a Republican. She and I aren't close anymore because life got in the way. The other woman is still a friend but we're not as close as we were. My daycare provider is a good friend and a gay white MC woman. We met at work and bonded over IF issues. She's been by my side through some of my darkest periods and is genuinely good person. She's on my list of riders.

My closest group of friends are all black women who I met in college. I actually think it's kind of weird that my inner circle hasn't changed in over 15 years.

[sunshine608]

Most of my UMC White friends I've gained through work and my mom group. I love my mom group and wish it was more diverse, but I really do respect and appreciate most of the women. I took a step back after the election, but I do enjoy having the group. Honestly, I feel like I took the White Women Trump voters so hard is because most of my White UMC friends are staunch allies/activists and I just didn't see the beyond my own circle. I work in higher ed, so most of the people I work with are liberal and from other minority groups.

Most of my close friends are WOC whom I've grown up with. There are a few I've met within the last few years.

[raangoli]

I didn't grow up in a very diverse area (I was the diversity!) so I've been accustomed to being around white people my entire life. I wish I had more WOC friends than the 3 that I have. But thankfully they get me and so that will have to do. My BFF is an UMC white woman but through our friendship, she's been able to recognize things and acknowledges her privilege, so I'll keep her.

[thejackpot]

I have very few close friends. I have one very good friend who is WMC but I have known her since I was five. When I was working we used to joke we were a Benetton ad.

[skwcm80]

I have a handful of close friends, they are all WOC. All MC/ UMC.

[NitaX]

Mostly black women from varied backgrounds - single, middle class, millennials, & married. My non POC friends are white women who are middle to upper class and married (includes LGBTQ couple).

I'm sad to say that I have no Hispanic friends despite our sizable Hispanic population. Although, I am becoming closer to a lady I volunteer with. She's been doing outreach with a new group she's formed, and I attended an event because I wanted to support her. 

ETA: My core group of friends includes my BFF since 8th grade, 2 people from grad school, 1 person from an old internet message board and people I've formed close associations with through work, and a couple of church members.

Basically, my inner circle are the people who show up at my house for food and drinks. LOL If I invited you over, you're my people.

[rootbeerfloat]

I don't get out much lol, but on the occasions that I do, it's with friends from HS, which was all-minority. The people I'm closest to at work are WOC, but I also live in a diverse place.

My BFF from college is white and MC.

[itsme]

My "group" is dwindling as we move, have kids, etc. but they are all Hispanic.  this would be my friends from childhood and military days.  My husband's friends which I have adopted as my friends as well are white. As far as acquaintances, it's a mix. I would say all MC.

[kicks]

I've moved a ton so I have a mix.

The person I call my best friend I've known since high school is white. I have 1 other close white girl friend. Neither of them live locally.

My 2 closest black girlfriends don't live locally.

My closest friends locally are a few Hispanic females and 2 black males.

The black females I've made friends with locally are my boyfriends female friends that I now also claim and through my meet up group.

[childofhiphop]

Mostly WOC. My main circle is from elementary through junior high and high school to today. All of us WOC. My college roommate is also UMC WOC.

I do have 3 white women that I consider true friends. 1. One since we were 4 years old and they were the weird and super cool white family that lived in a minority neighborhood in the early 70's. She also married a man of color.
2. Best boss I ever had and still a dear dear friend today even though she is 25 years my senior. After my miscarriage, she came to my desk and said "we need a working lunch. Let's go have burgers and beers."
3. From my old congregation in Michigan. We've seen each other through the worst life can through at you and I would trust her with my life.

Is it sad that I can count the number on one hand? But my experiences have been really negative too with jealousy (even my work nemesis today) and back stabbing.

[sent]

Locally (where I grew up) my friends are mostly WOC. I have some UMC white girlfriends from my college and grad school days (7 hours away). WOC were pretty much nonexistent there, especially at my college.

[05heel]

All of my friends are black.

I take that back. I have one white friend who used to be a coworker. She's nice enough, but I'm definitely not myself when I hang out with her.

[LLL]

I'm in that DC bubble where everyone is from everywhere so I grew up and still am around a diverse group of people. One of my oldest friends (white middle class woman) has been skirting around the Trump thing for a while so I wouldn't be at all surprised to find out that she actually did vote for him. I'm handling it*














/channels Olivia Pope 

[calle28]

My friends are diverse. My 2 best friends are Indian. I have a close friend who is Thai and another who is white. I have 2 close black girlfriends.

[carfar]

I have a fairly diverse group of friends. Mostly middle class/upper middle class, regardless of race, though. My oldest friends are mostly white, because I went to very undiverse elementary and middle schools, and a lot of us remained or came back to the area, so I'm still close with them.

[newnamesameperson]

Jan 23, 2017 11:04:25 GMT -5 raangoli said:

I didn't grow up in a very diverse area (I was the diversity!) so I've been accustomed to being around white people my entire life. 

This to a T.   I'd say the majority of my friends are white.  I'd love to have more diversity in my friend group. 

[brandnewday]

Jumping in late. My friends are pretty diverse. My close friends are Latina, black, African, biracial and white. These are people I regularly keep updated and chat with about life stuff. My coworker that I also regularly connected with was Filipino. As a couple we bbq and are casual with Asian folks and the groups mentioned before.. I recently spent time with a trans couple that are the shit, and hope to grow that relationship.