Thursday!

[wanderingenough]

What's good today?

[wineandcheese]

Nothing lol. Our internet is down at home so my husband is cranky. Then we ran out of propane this morning so we don't have hot water or use of our stove. The company is trying to send someone to fill it but they aren't sure if they can today since they aren't in our area. Oh and I have a trainee today. I want a redo!

[luv2rn4fun]

Coffee! I am also expecting a package that I am excited about (clothes and crib sheet for L). And the weather should be nice so we will get outside when we can.

Last night was brutal so hoping both boys take it easy on me today (someone needs to give C the memo that mama has zero patience for 2 yo tantrums today LOL).

[katespade]

Ugh. My mom and I were at the tattoo studio for seven hours yesterday and I slept like crap last night, so I'm exhausted. Thank goodness that today is my Friday. I am so ready to sleep in tomorrow morning.

[bk1]

I'm sitting at the table alone drinking coffee. Yay for a minute of quiet

DH leaves for the airport this afternoon. Job interview tomorrow and he flies back Saturday. Not looking forward to the solo parenting. I have my mom and grandma set to come over this evening. They are bringing a pizza so I won't have to cook. Score!

[luv2rn4fun]

You've got this bk1! I solo parent way too much without any real help. It sucks but you can do it, especially with the help you do have! Wishing your DH lots of good luck! Hope he gets an offer and you guys can navigate this decision best for the long term! Have you mentioned this to your families? What are their thoughts? Will your DH scope out neighborhoods while he is there?

[estrellita]

I'm off today and just watched the latest This Is Us episode. Also can't stop reading FB lately with everything going on. I'm proud of myself though today. I normally don't comment on things for fear of an all out debate but I commented on a coworkers post today and it was actually good. I hope I don't start a mini war though since I live in an area that leans the complete opposite direction than I do on pretty much everything and there's always so much anger behind people's posts. So it's nice to be able to state my opinion and have it be appreciated!

[MrsMB]

Nap n needles! I need some R&R

[bk1]

Jan 26, 2017 11:39:46 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

You've got this bk1 ! I solo parent way too much without any real help. It sucks but you can do it, especially with the help you do have! Wishing your DH lots of good luck! Hope he gets an offer and you guys can navigate this decision best for the long term! Have you mentioned this to your families? What are their thoughts? Will your DH scope out neighborhoods while he is there?

Our families are supportive-ish. They are all really sad and surprised. 

My mom is excited for us but won't stop crying. She made the comment that it was just so unexpected since DH previous gave up a very good job so we could be back home. Which is 100% true so I understand why she was so blindsided.

DH said his dad wouldn't talk about it. His dad was driving him to the airport today so hopefully they will talk. FIL was originally very supportive and I believe he is still - just really sad about the possibility of us leaving since they are very close. MIL just found out last night. She came over today to see us. She was teary but did better then I expected. She did offer to pick G up tomorrow and keep her overnight and bring her back Saturday morning. That will help G not realize DH is gone and give me a break from solo parenting both of the girls. MIL wants to go with FIL to pick DH up on Saturday. Which works for me because I was G home when DH gets home.

DH will be interviewing Friday morning. He has a rental car and plans to go out with a guy he used to go to school with (which he how he heard about the job) after the interview. Not sure what he will check out but he plans to ask about where people live and we have been doing a lot of research online.


Our hearts are hurting at the idea of leaving but our heads are all for it - pending him getting an offer of course. It's just such a one in a lifetime opportunity we can't imagine saying no. 

[estrellita]

Well apparently we aren't getting our windows this weekend. They called and said the guy can't make it. Boo! I was looking forward to it! We are rescheduling for Wed now, so at least we don't have to wait too much longer!

[luv2rn4fun]

Busy and productive day! Load of laundry nearly done, dinner is in the crockpot, I boxed up all my maternity clothes, unpacked L's new clothes, took the boys outside so C could burn off some energy, and have read so many books and played a ton with C during L's naps! If I hear the words Sun, flower, fire, giraffe, elephant, and moon again...my head might explode LOL. C's vocabulary has really taken off and I am super proud of him...and yet at the same time wondering what i was thinking when I was so worried about him being behind and just wishing he would talk!

Got the mail today and learned that Kaiser is closing down OBGYN services at the location I used to go to (i haven't officially changed OB but she will move to the new location which is where C was born). Doesn't change things for me since its still too far away but makes me a little sad because there are so many memories there (good and bad). It's a great and logical move though...right next to the hospital so you can go over for an emergency u/s (wonder if they will stop doing on-site u/s or just have it done at the hospital), lab work etc and all the OBs will be closer for rounds at the hospital.

[bk1]

suzv 1600 miles. It's in Nevada.

[luv2rn4fun]

bk1- any idea if your FIL talked to DH on the way to the airport? Sounds like everyone is taking it as well as possible. Totally understandable that they are sad. This is a huge change for them (and you guys!). Who knows...maybe some or all will move out close to you guys so they can be close to their grandkids. Are any of them in a place financially to be able to do visit regularly? Will the pay raise allow you guys to help with airfare or for you to visit OK?

I am excited for you guys! We go to Reno almost as much as anywhere since DH's BFF loves there (we were there when C was 9 months old and DH is itching to go back...although not sure how that would work now that there are two extra kids). If we do we will have to have that long awaited play date 😀

[rockinrobyn]

The wine I am drinking now is the best part of this day.

[rockinrobyn]

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[bk1]

luv2rn4fun 

I think everyone is taking it as well as possible. I have only text DH. He said the drive down there went fine. I'll get to talk to him on the phone tomorrow. 

Both of our parents are self-employed so it's hard to say on what they can afford. It's so dependent on timing since money isn't stable. A lot of it comes down to if DH gets an offer and what it would be. We have discussed how we would come home with is vacation time and maybe afford to fly his parents out some. I would want to fly my mom to me but I'm not sure if she would do it. She hates flying and traveling. I know she would want to but since she is my grandma's primary care giver I don't know if she would do it. 

DH's parents were already joking about coming with us. I dunno. I have been all for moving and think it's exciting (DH is the same way) but seeing our parents and my grandma is making the idea of leaving more real. I can't imagine leaving them, but I just am not getting too worked up. It's awesome he has an interview and we'll figure everything else out when we have the information.

Honestly he's not even sure what position he is interviewing for. There are several open, and several he has the skills for, so a lot of this trip is unknown. 

Of course now that we are thinking of leaving family is wanting to give us all sorts of help. MIL is taking G tomorrow and my mom was bummed because she wanted to do the same thing. My 86 year old grandma even said that her and my mom needed to come over and help me more. 



How far away are you from Reno?

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) bk1. I know this is really hard on you even if it is a great move long term. Leaving family and all your support system is very hard. That would be awesome if your ILs did decide to relocate...you never know, they just might so they can be close to you guys.

We are a good 8 hours from Reno. Before kids we used to go visit friends every year for New Years. We have gone up a few other times as well. We like it so much up there that we almost moved in 2013 but ultimately decided to stay local for family etc.

[awick14]

bk1- moving away from family is hard. We will be doing it when my Mat leave is up. (I start back to work Nov 8th. So plan on moving in sept/oct.)

Our family isn't overly happy about it. (More so because we told them about this shortly after we announced this pregnancy.) My MIL is taking it the hardest, she doesn't want to miss out on watching back wick grow up. But this move will be the best for us and our future.

We have only lived away from family for about 1 1/2 years (moved away twice in a 2 1/2 year time span.) and although we didn't like where we lived then it wasn't too bad. Our new city now is a much better place to live. (Well we are hoping so, we love visiting there so hopefully we will like living there.)