I've been thinking about trying for kid #2 lately, our son is 20 months now. We have 6 frozen embryos so we will be using one of those. Hopefully it works the first time around! I don't want to do the transfer until DS is 2, so it'll likely be this summer.
I feel like all the anxiety and craziness of IF has completely left my brain, I wonder if it will come back as we start up again. It sounds like frozen transfers are pretty easy compared to an entire IVF cycle.
Anyways, just wondering if anyone else was planning another one soon!
Post by cactuscookie on Feb 7, 2017 11:04:13 GMT -5
We are. H is about to turn one. I'm 37. I have DOR. I don't know how far we'll go in treatments this time. H is the result of a failed IVF cycle that was converted to IUI, so we don't have anything frozen. We're just going to try on our own for a while for now (haha, good luck with that).
Just started lurking here again as we will be trying this year. I just went to the RE this morning for a blood draw to check thyroid and get back on metformin. Very weird to be back 3 years later. We have twins who turned 2 in October. I still have 7 embryos frozen. We plan to try on our own until end of summer or so and then look into an FET if necessary. I am not on the pill and have a period about every 5 weeks. Hoping metformin will bump it up. I thought I was ok doing a FET but being back in the RE office this morning brought back all those feelings. I'm not banking on it happening naturally so mentally preparing for further treatment. We aren't quite trying yet either, probably will start in May as I am training for a half marathon and going on a girls trip to Vegas in April. I'm ok having a 3 1/2 year or so age gap between our kids. They are such a fun age right now!
I didn't do treatments for #2 but at least for me, the anxiety & everything was back just as strong as with #1. I thought I would be super breezy with it because it is as we refer #2, it was our bogo. I was fine until our first ultrasound & then the realness settled back in and my pregnancy anxiety was back. I'm nearing the end of first tri and am hopeful the anxiousness will at least settle a little earlier.
Here! I'm still on BC (switched my IUD for nuvaring) as we're in the middle of a big move, but once things settle down, I plan to stop the BC and find me a new RE. I'm hoping my mental state is calmer this time around.
Post by EllenGriswold on Feb 7, 2017 14:24:39 GMT -5
We have never gone back on BC after having baby boy. He is 7 months old today and still nursing and not sleeping through the night, and I haven't gotten my period back so I can't really say we are "trying." But I would be lying if I said I wasn't hoping for a bfp. If nothing happens on our own, I think we would go back to the RE around the end of this year or beginning of 2018. We have 5 frozen embryos so hopefully a FET will work for #2.
BUT I'm also closely watching state and federal legislation because I'm nervous about what's coming. H and I might consider moving our timeline if restrictions on embryo use look likely.
We have never gone back on BC after having baby boy. He is 7 months old today and still nursing and not sleeping through the night, and I haven't gotten my period back so I can't really say we are "trying." But I would be lying if I said I wasn't hoping for a bfp. If nothing happens on our own, I think we would go back to the RE around the end of this year or beginning of 2018. We have 5 frozen embryos so hopefully a FET will work for #2.
BUT I'm also closely watching state and federal legislation because I'm nervous about what's coming. H and I might consider moving our timeline if restrictions on embryo use look likely.
Ugh yea I've already called and emailed my representative. I don't think it will do me any good. I think he's in favor of personhood bills in general.
We are NTNP at the moment, but plan to seriously TTC again starting in June. Z is 15 months right now.
We have 2 frozen embryos back in WA and a year and a half left here in Germany. The plan is to just TTC on our own and hope we get pregnant until we move back to the states. If we aren't pregnant by then, then we will look at using our frozen embryos.
Post by oneslybookworm on Feb 8, 2017 9:30:24 GMT -5
We won't do any treatments for a second (as the first will be adopted). I plan on going off BCP by my birthday in September, then we won't be preventing anything...but let's be real, if a team of doctors couldn't get me knocked up after 2 years of treatments, I highly doubt I'll get pregnant on my own.
We'd like two, but adoption isn't cheap and I'm not sure if we'll be able to afford a second.
Maybe? We have one frozen embryo left that I would like to use, but pregnancy is high risk for me so we are still weighing the risks. Our goal is either to 'use' or donate the embryo by September.
We are! DS is 10 months and we're planning on FET in April/May. We only have one embryo though so I'm scared. We'll be OAD if it doesn't stick.
We had our consult late last summer and FET does sound way easier. I could not believe when my RE said no shots this time. That's crazy talk. Lol. I had a SHG, bloodwork, and u/s in December. I just need to schedule a physical with my primary and get a mammogram and we'll be all set to cycle whenever we want.
We have never gone back on BC after having baby boy. He is 7 months old today and still nursing and not sleeping through the night, and I haven't gotten my period back so I can't really say we are "trying." But I would be lying if I said I wasn't hoping for a bfp. If nothing happens on our own, I think we would go back to the RE around the end of this year or beginning of 2018. We have 5 frozen embryos so hopefully a FET will work for #2.
BUT I'm also closely watching state and federal legislation because I'm nervous about what's coming. H and I might consider moving our timeline if restrictions on embryo use look likely.
Is this a thing? I didn't realize that :/ They would restrict people from using their own already-made embryos?
We have never gone back on BC after having baby boy. He is 7 months old today and still nursing and not sleeping through the night, and I haven't gotten my period back so I can't really say we are "trying." But I would be lying if I said I wasn't hoping for a bfp. If nothing happens on our own, I think we would go back to the RE around the end of this year or beginning of 2018. We have 5 frozen embryos so hopefully a FET will work for #2.
BUT I'm also closely watching state and federal legislation because I'm nervous about what's coming. H and I might consider moving our timeline if restrictions on embryo use look likely.
Is this a thing? I didn't realize that :/ They would restrict people from using their own already-made embryos?
Yea, the way personhood bills are written is to define life/personhood as beginning at conception--that is, when an egg is fertilized. So anything that could put embryos in danger, like the thawing process, could be considered murder. They're supposed to be anti-abortion bills, but have this side effect of also criminalizing IVF. There have been multiple iterations of these kinds of bills and they've all been shot down.
Is this a thing? I didn't realize that :/ They would restrict people from using their own already-made embryos?
Yea, the way personhood bills are written is to define life/personhood as beginning at conception--that is, when an egg is fertilized. So anything that could put embryos in danger, like the thawing process, could be considered murder. They're supposed to be anti-abortion bills, but have this side effect of also criminalizing IVF. There have been multiple iterations of these kinds of bills and they've all been shot down.
Ridiculous. I wish all those old white dudes did something more productive with their time in office.
We are still on the fence. I'm still BFing with no plans to stop so it's TBD for now. Also still waiting to hear about my Bra.velle settlement and if we will get our whole cycle refunded. Thinking we will maybe do ER in Dec with transfer in Jan if possible.
Baby wick is only 9 weeks old and I would love another baby. (I may have said that in the delivery room after she was born, lol.)
We will wait until she is around 18 months I think and then we will start trying for a second. (This will all depend on how well our move in the fall goes and on our daycare/DH staying at home turns out.)
BUT I'm also closely watching state and federal legislation because I'm nervous about what's coming. H and I might consider moving our timeline if restrictions on embryo use look likely.
Of the many concerns I have right now, this is one that's been in the forefront of my mind. Clearly I'm focusing on #1 baking right now, but since I'll be 35 shortly after this kid is born and we've used all our embryos, we would want to proceed with #2 relatively quickly. Of course, that puts us about 2 years down the road and who know WTF kind of restrictions will be placed on IVF at that point.
BUT I'm also closely watching state and federal legislation because I'm nervous about what's coming. H and I might consider moving our timeline if restrictions on embryo use look likely.
Of the many concerns I have right now, this is one that's been in the forefront of my mind. Â Clearly I'm focusing on #1 baking right now, but since I'll be 35 shortly after this kid is born and we've used all our embryos, we would want to proceed with #2 relatively quickly. Â Of course, that puts us about 2 years down the road and who know WTF kind of restrictions will be placed on IVF at that point.Â
Hugs! I hate having to think about all this stuff all the time. I know these bills have been brought up before and gone nowhere so that makes me feel better, but I still can't help but worry. As if TTTC and IF didn't suck enough already.
I am nervous to even talk about it, but we are planning soon. We have one DD, she is 16 months old, she was the result of our first FET from our first IVF cycle.
We have two frozen embryos but found out that one is a low grade (our clinic would no longer freeze one of that grade), so we really have one shot at an FET. We will do that in late March, I start meds in early March. The FET process is pretty easy since I went through it before with the same protocol.
We haven't decided what we would do if it doesn't work. If we would just be ok with being done if it didn't happen naturally, or do another IVF cycle. What I am most excited about is that no one IRL knows we are going to do the FET so it would be really fun to do an actual announcement and surprise people. And my SIL is pregnant with her first after trying for several months so it would be fun to have two cousins so close in age.
Post by daisyfay25 on Feb 16, 2017 13:09:09 GMT -5
midwest07 How exciting, good luck! Random question, when you did the FET with your daughter, could you take a pregnancy test before your beta? Since there isn't a trigger shot or anything to wait out? I don't know why I care about that at this point but I was wondering lol.
midwest07 How exciting, good luck! Random question, when you did the FET with your daughter, could you take a pregnancy test before your beta? Since there isn't a trigger shot or anything to wait out? I don't know why I care about that at this point but I was wondering lol.
I was literally thinking about this, this morning on my way to work. Get out of my head!
midwest07 How exciting, good luck! Random question, when you did the FET with your daughter, could you take a pregnancy test before your beta? Since there isn't a trigger shot or anything to wait out? I don't know why I care about that at this point but I was wondering lol.
I think it was "suggested" not to, but I did. I had my transfer on a Monday, and took a test at home the following Sunday. So if you consider the transfer day to be 5 DPO, then I took the test at 11 DPO. I don't think my beta was scheduled until around 10-12 days after the transfer and I couldn't wait that long! You are right, since there is no trigger, no reason to wait until a certain day other than far enough along that a line would show up.
midwest07 How exciting, good luck! Random question, when you did the FET with your daughter, could you take a pregnancy test before your beta? Since there isn't a trigger shot or anything to wait out? I don't know why I care about that at this point but I was wondering lol.
I was literally thinking about this, this morning on my way to work. Get out of my head!
midwest07 How exciting, good luck! Random question, when you did the FET with your daughter, could you take a pregnancy test before your beta? Since there isn't a trigger shot or anything to wait out? I don't know why I care about that at this point but I was wondering lol.
I was literally thinking about this, this morning on my way to work. Get out of my head!
pooh8402, see my post just above - yes I did start testing before the beta.
midwest07 How exciting, good luck! Random question, when you did the FET with your daughter, could you take a pregnancy test before your beta? Since there isn't a trigger shot or anything to wait out? I don't know why I care about that at this point but I was wondering lol.
I think it was "suggested" not to, but I did. I had my transfer on a Monday, and took a test at home the following Sunday. So if you consider the transfer day to be 5 DPO, then I took the test at 11 DPO. I don't think my beta was scheduled until around 10-12 days after the transfer and I couldn't wait that long! You are right, since there is no trigger, no reason to wait until a certain day other than far enough along that a line would show up.
OK, good to know! Lol @ the suggestion not to, I bet 99% of people can't wait!
I think it was "suggested" not to, but I did. I had my transfer on a Monday, and took a test at home the following Sunday. So if you consider the transfer day to be 5 DPO, then I took the test at 11 DPO. I don't think my beta was scheduled until around 10-12 days after the transfer and I couldn't wait that long! You are right, since there is no trigger, no reason to wait until a certain day other than far enough along that a line would show up.
OK, good to know! Lol @ the suggestion not to, I bet 99% of people can't wait!
I did! Well, sort of. I went to my RE at 7dp5dt (12dpo) for OHSS, and she sent me for labs, including a beta. I think if I hadn't gone to her that day, I probably would have POAS.
OK, good to know! Lol @ the suggestion not to, I bet 99% of people can't wait!
I did! Well, sort of. I went to my RE at 7dp5dt (12dpo) for OHSS, and she sent me for labs, including a beta. I think if I hadn't gone to her that day, I probably would have POAS.
I tested the morning of my beta, lol. I didn't want to embarrass myself by crying on the phone with the nurse so I wanted to be prepared if it was negative.
Wow I'm surprised some of you could wait! I remember my beta was on a Thursday and on Tuesday I tested and got my first BFP. I tested Tues, Wed, and Thurs. When I went in for my Beta the RE said You tested didn't you. When I told her yes some of the nurses started crying.
I was just telling my cousin (who knew our IF treatment) that it was exactly 3 years ago that we started the cycle where I got pregnant.
I did not test on IVF #1-4. My first IVF, which was positive, I had to wait until 14dp5dt so I was 19 days out and never tested. This FET was the first time I ever tested and I tested at 4dp5dt and it was positive.
Post by thoseareradishes on Feb 16, 2017 17:52:04 GMT -5
I almost never tested, but I did for both of my FETs. H asked me not to the second time, but I was getting the same rash on my face that I got with my chemical pregnancy, so I felt like there was a pretty good chance it would be positive as long as I used a sensitive test. I still waited until 13 "dpo" though!