Grief fueled insomnia

[kaybee85]

I'm sorry . I used to call my dad's cell phone over and over to hear his VM even though it just made me sad. It's nice to read what people wrote even though it's hard.

((Hugs)) It gets easier even though you'll never stop missing him. In the meantime, I hope you find moments of comfort while you work through the raw emotion period.

[kaybee85]

Mar 20, 2017 3:35:45 GMT -5 @kizmet said:

Mar 20, 2017 3:24:59 GMT -5 kaybee85 said:

I'm sorry . I used to call my dad's cell phone over and over to hear his VM even though it just made me sad. It's nice to read what people wrote even though it's hard.

((Hugs)) It gets easier even though you'll never stop missing him. In the meantime, I hope you find moments of comfort while you work through the raw emotion period.

I'm fairly anal about keeping my phone "clean" and I'm kicking myself for deleting any texts or voicemails from my dad.  . I have one text string from a couple of days before he died that I will never erase. H has four voicemails from my dad on his phone but i can't bring myself to listen to them yet.  He listened to one - my dad called asking if he wanted to grab a sandwich - and H said it made him so sad.

This sucks.  Thank you for your kind words.

It is so, so hard. I wish I could say something to make it easier.

[mrsukyankee]

I'm so sorry you're having tough feelings right now. Sending hugs.

[grover]

I'm so sorry for your loss. H and I were up a lot of last night for the same reason. He lost his dad Jan 30th, so not only are we approaching the two month mark, but our first child is due to come​ this Thursday, and he's having a hard time not having anyone from his family in town to meet her (His mom told him last night before bed that she no longer plans on driving the three hours in anytime soon. And his only sibling lives out of state.)

Neither of us have deleted his dad from out contacts yet. Or his last few emails. We just can't bring ourselves to do it yet.

[sterl724]

I'm so sorry. Loss is hard and I'm sorry you're struggling tonight.

[ssmjlm]

I'm sorry.

If you have an iPhone it does save deleted voicemails. Not sure how far back, but worth a look so you have them when you're ready.

[miniroller]

Oh dear Kizmet, so many hugs! You popped in my head a couple days ago, wondering how your grieving process was going 😥 (I'm sorry I failed to send you a PM!)
Do you write at all? I know that helps some people. Write your dad letters, notes, emails just saying everything you wish you could. Certainly not to dwell on the fact it will never be answered, but some find it really helpful, especially in times of insomnia. I'm so sorry for your pain.

[mcmel]

I just wanted to say I'm so sorry.

[flamingeaux]

Find out if there's a way to save them to a cloud or computer or something. My MIL had voice mail from her deceased brother that she lost when someone stole her phone.

[cats]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I did things like you are describing after my mom died. One tip I would give is to screenshot the texts you have and save them to your cloud (or wherever) to have a backup in case anything happens to your phone. Do the same for the VMs. It's been a couple of years and I don't have that phone anymore, but because I saved them, I still have them.

Hugs. It's so, so hard.

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Hugs

[flex]

I want to hug you right now. The insomnia is the worst. It will get better, but I'll bet that's of small comfort right now. ((@kizmet ))

[textbookcase]

I'm so sorry. I've been thinking of you. Yesterday my mom called me from my dads cell phone and seeing his name calling me was brutal. Hugs

[orangeblossom]

Grief is so hard, and there is no timeline and sudden bouts can hit you at any time. Hugs.

As for the insomnia, even though it's been just a few weeks since your dad passed, if it keeps up, I'd consider trying to OTC sleep aids, and medicated if necessary.

Ultimately, after my mother passed, I ended up on a small dose of Lexapro. I generally felt fine emotionally, and was going through day to day okay, but the build up of her illness and death, along with my own health issues at the time, eventually caught up with me.

All that to say, just watch yourself as you go through the grieving process, as constant insomnia can really wreak havoc on mind and body.

Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

[chchchia]

Mar 20, 2017 19:28:24 GMT -5 orangeblossom said:

Grief is so hard, and there is no timeline and sudden bouts can hit you at any time. Hugs.

As for the insomnia, even though it's been just a few weeks since your dad passed, if it keeps up, I'd consider trying to OTC sleep aids, and medicated if necessary.

Ultimately, after my mother passed, I ended up on a small dose of Lexapro. I generally felt fine emotionally, and was going through day to day okay, but the build up of her illness and death, along with my own health issues at the time, eventually caught up with me.

All that to say, just watch yourself as you go through the grieving process, as constant insomnia can really wreak havoc on mind and body.

Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

If it is anything it is this, please take this and take it to heart.
You cannot box your grief up and define it, do not let anyone else tell you a timeline, there is none. There is no shame when it come to grief. Ugly cry, ask for help, get help, cry, laugh, remember, this is all so new..don't expect that you should be in one place and be disappointed when you aren't. [
I too am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you.