Competing w/white women in the workplace?

[kicks]

I didn't know how else to title this.
I'm in a small residency program. There is one other resident who shares similar interests as me, which are women's health, contraception and abortion services. We will likely do a research project together and have talked about that.
I definitely want to do a fellowship but am not sure if she does.

I just got off the phone with a doctor who did the fellowship and she gave me a WEALTH of information. We talked about networking, journal club, electives I should do, research, etc, which will give me an advantage in applying for fellowship.

The fellowship only has 1 spot per year at each program and there are only a few programs.. Again, I haven't asked the other resident if she wants to do the fellowship but I know she is looking for more experiences like me.

So anyway, do I share all the info with her? Do I share parts of it? Keep it all to myself?
Like I said we've been in talks about certain things and she has certainly helped me in one aspect and I've helped her in another but I don't know how I should approach things going forward.

[borinquen57]

My first instinct was that I'd keep the info to myself. It's not like the information isn't out there for her to find.

[andwhat]

I wouldn't. I always think 'would this person share this info with me if they had it?' I am sure she wouldn't. Use that info to your advantage. Who knows what outside advantages she has.

[kicks]

Ok thanks all.
I'm too nice most of the time.
I know I need to advocate for myself and be selfish when appropriate.
I will keep my mouth shut

[threejs]

Yeah, the cards are already stacked in her favor. No need to give her any additional boost.

[newnamesameperson]

Saving this as I have family members that are doctors so i guessing they may have some insight. I'll post back later.

Also, @dr.girlfriend may have some insight.

In general, I'd say no do not share.

[05heel]

Mar 22, 2017 20:25:33 GMT -5 kicks said:

Ok thanks all.
I'm too nice most of the time.
I know I need to advocate for myself and be selfish when appropriate.
I will keep my mouth shut

I'm never nice when my career is involved. Don't tell her anything.

[divanerd]

Girl please this isn't a color thing...Keep that info to yourself.

[insominac]

Hell no kicks ! Lol
Keep that shit to yourself! Fellowships are serious business and anything you can use to give yourself a leg up the better.

It's gunner time!

[kicks]

Mar 24, 2017 5:31:06 GMT -5 insominac said:

Hell no kicks ! Lol
Keep that shit to yourself! Fellowships are serious business and anything you can use to give yourself a leg up the better.

It's gunner time!

Lol. I'm so bad at being a gunner :/

[kicks]

Thanks so much everyone!

So far the doctor I talked with added me to 2 list serves, is going to help me become a member of a professional society and in the next few months introduce me to a few doctors to set up my electives for abortion counseling and training.

And I've started to do my research for my research projects.

It's slowly coming together!

[newnamesameperson]

kicks you are amazing!

[kicks]

I'm so excited I've already got a few new connections.
Next up I'm going to really try to ramp up my research project ideas. I think I want to focus on women of color and disparities in access to abortion and contraception. I've been reading more articles lately to get my brain churning.

[bugandbibs]

I'm glad you are putting yourself first.

Anecdote time: I had a very close relationship with a nurse I mentored. We both knew that our positions were going to be eliminated and were looking for work the same field. I *thought* we were both helping in each in looking for new jobs and that we being honest with each other. Both of us were doing the legwork of making connections and letting the other know of possible openings (my field usually hires twice a year). She got an inside scoop on an opening and didn't tell me until AFTER she was hired. The job was never posted online, so I had no idea. I ended up in a much better position for me, but it still shades the way I think of her. She flat out said afterwords that she knew she wouldn't get the job if I applied too. I wanted to help as still was thinking of myself as a mentor, but in hindsight I should have been more "me first".