@littlemoxie , I agree with you. Even if the event is mostly for adults and the kid is only 1 and has no idea, my sister brought up what about when their son is 15 and looks back at the pictures of his first birthday at Hooters? Isn't that weird and sending a certain message? The more I think about it, the more I judge!
I told my sister about it and she said "you are not allowed to be friends with them anymore". (half joke, half serious).
jeaniebueller , is Twin Peaks a real thing? Never heard of it. Actually, the restaurant they are having it at, H had never heard of either. I only knew it because I saw a commercial when we were in FL. They are new around here. Same idea, Scottish theme.
Twin Peaks is real. I just heard of it a few years ago. A friend of mine was going with her H and friends after work and was feeling fat and worried about how she would look compared to those girls. She is married and a lawyer, but it made her insecure. This is the problem with these types of places.
I assume the place is Tilted Kilt? I've never been, it's the only Scottish themed pub type of place. I had no idea it was also a "breastaurant."
ETA: My poor kid is going to have almost no pictures to look at when he is older. Judge me! (I actually was thinking about that this morning. I really need to do something about this. I hate that it's "my job" though).
Yeah, that's it. My sister told me what the name means and now I'm even more grossed out.
I didn't know the deal with Twin Peaks til I saw a billboard and saw how the waitresses were dressed. It opened near where a Hooter had been but that closed years ago. Tilted Kilt lasted less than a year in the location they opened. Twin Peaks has a full parking lot all times of day. It's right by the Homegoods and CFA I frequent. They have special parking just for bikers.
this is a really really weird place to have a kid's bday party.
I don't think so. it's not a place I want to go myself anyway so I think it's an odd choice for a kids party. I get that first birthday parties are for adults, so going to a bar wouldn't bother me at all but I don't want to go to hooters or bring my children there.
So no. Wouldn't want to give these people the idea this is normal/ok by increasing the attendance numbers ...
jeaniebueller , is Twin Peaks a real thing? Never heard of it. Actually, the restaurant they are having it at, H had never heard of either. I only knew it because I saw a commercial when we were in FL. They are new around here. Same idea, Scottish theme.
It's worse in my opinion. The outfits are even more revealing than Hooters. The food is worse than Hooters.
My DH often goes to Hooters for a work lunch but he knows it's not a place to go with the girls. Even in Aruba.
I'm confused.
You liked this: A first birthday party is for adults not kids, so why not?
and then posted this: I am envisioning a ton of pearl clutchers sharing their opinion. I would be curious but also wouldn't care much.
But now you're saying that Twin Peaks is even worse than Hooters and you would never bring your kids to Hooters (and judging NQB for doing it). So what is it?
Ugh, no. I know some people view the first Birthday party as a celebration of surviving the first year. Even then, go out on your own to celebrate and have a kid friendly first birthday party since other young children will be attending.
I didn't know the deal with Twin Peaks til I saw a billboard and saw how the waitresses were dressed. It opened near where a Hooter had been but that closed years ago. Tilted Kilt lasted less than a year in the location they opened. Twin Peaks has a full parking lot all times of day. It's right by the Homegoods and CFA I frequent. They have special parking just for bikers.
this is a really really weird place to have a kid's bday party.
Apparently there was a Tilted Kilt in my town but it closed before I even heard about it. We have a Hooters but I've never been there and was mad it replaced Fuddruckers.
It's worse in my opinion. The outfits are even more revealing than Hooters. The food is worse than Hooters.
My DH often goes to Hooters for a work lunch but he knows it's not a place to go with the girls. Even in Aruba.
I'm confused.
You liked this: A first birthday party is for adults not kids, so why not?
and then posted this: I am envisioning a ton of pearl clutchers sharing their opinion. I would be curious but also wouldn't care much.
But now you're saying that Twin Peaks is even worse than Hooters and you would never bring your kids to Hooters (and judging NQB for doing it). So what is it?
The question was would you care if someone is hosting their own kids birthday at Hooters. I would not. Not for a 1 year old at least but also to me if they want to have a birthday at this location for their kid it's none of my business. I would be wondering is there is a story behind it so I would be curious.
Would I personally host a party for my girls at Hooters, no.
Post by sometimesrunner on Apr 5, 2017 10:25:32 GMT -5
If I didn't have kids? Sure, I guess. But I do have kids, and trying to corral a 5 and 1 year around a decidedly non-kid friendly restaurant doesn't sound fun. I guess their presence would be a public service announcement to the staff; "ALWAYS REMEMBER BIRTH CONTROL!"
The question was would you care if someone is hosting their own kids birthday at Hooters. I would not. Not for a 1 year old at least but also to me if they want to have a birthday at this location for their kid it's none of my business.. I would be wondering is there is a story behind it so I would be curious.
Would I personally host a party for my girls at Hooters, no.
This sounds like "no judgment" judgment, TBH.
If you wouldn't host a party for your kids there, and your H "knows better" to even go to a Hooters with your kids, why wouldn't you judge someone else doing it? "None of my business" - well, no one here is saying you should say something to them or stop them from doing it. But thinking it is wrong and not good enough for your kids is kinda judging it, no?
I'd also love for your response to the "pearl clutchy" comment.
To me if a family likes Hooters or Hooter like places that is their family. I am not going to judge that. It's just not my preference.
But I knew people come in here slamming people who like Hooters. So pearl clutchy.
I am feisty today as mentioned in randoms to maybe I should just go back to my hole and shut up.
No, because it's a stupid place for a kids party. And because it would be boring and unfun for my three kids. And the whole objectifying women of a certain size/shape/race thing. We're busy that day
Eta: I accidentally took my 1 yr old to tilted kilt, lol. My two best friends and I were going away for the weekend, and met near a mall, so we went into the closest restaurant. We were so busy chatting and entertaining the baby that we didn't realize what it was until we were sitting down. Unobservant much?
No, because the only Hooters here is about an hour away with no traffic ...
... my real answer is it's a weird venue choice to me, and it would depend on how close I was to the parents. It does turn the party into a huge question mark for anyone who wants to bring their kids.
A friend of mine just posted pictures from his kid's first birthday party. They rented an event space and turned it into a night club. There are some amazing photos of parents partying while baby wearing. That seems more my speed in terms of a "for the parents" first birthday.
I wouldn't go to a place like that for an adult party, for a lunch with friends - I find them abhorrent if I'm being honest.
I've been to Hooters exactly twice - once as a teenager when my friend's uncle took us there for dinner on vacation, and once with two male co-workers in my 20s. I was disgusted on both occasions - as a teenager, I felt embarrassed for the young women working, being fake-nice for tips while my friend's old-man uncle flirted with them, and as a 20-something, watching my male co-workers somehow act like they were entitled to attention and more from these women. I was like, DUDE, they are only talking to you because you're TIPPING THEM. They owe you exactly nothing except efficient food service.
It's not even the outfits - it's the way the women working there are treated by management and customers. Gross.
And I judge the hell out of someone who would have a kid birthday there. Ok, sure, it's for the adults - so have it at a microbrewery with good appetizers and a harassment free workplace policy.
You people are weird. Some of you don't like your girls to watch princess stuff or wear pink because omg that means they can't also like science but you go to Hooters or would consider going there for a child's birthday party? In what world is Hooters a positive role model for women? I'm certainly not a prude and not even really a feminist, but come on. Makes no damn sense.
You people are weird. Some of you don't like your girls to watch princess stuff or wear pink because omg that means they can't also like science but you go to Hooters or would consider going there for a child's birthday party? In what world is Hooters a positive role model for women? I'm certainly not a prude and not even really a feminist, but come on. Makes no damn sense.
I mean, you seem surprised that the women of mmm make no damn sense
Are these people doing it because they think it's funny? I mean there is literally no way they couldn't find somewhere else.
Yeah, my first instinct would be to roll my eyes because these people think they're being funny or #breezy for booking a one year olds party at such a place. Lame and gross.
You people are weird. Some of you don't like your girls to watch princess stuff or wear pink because omg that means they can't also like science but you go to Hooters or would consider going there for a child's birthday party? In what world is Hooters a positive role model for women? I'm certainly not a prude and not even really a feminist, but come on. Makes no damn sense.
I mean, you seem surprised that the women of mmm make no damn sense
LOL I don't even read much on here anymore but sometimes my fat fingers click this board and I just can't help it. Carry on!
You liked this: A first birthday party is for adults not kids, so why not?
and then posted this: I am envisioning a ton of pearl clutchers sharing their opinion. I would be curious but also wouldn't care much.
But now you're saying that Twin Peaks is even worse than Hooters and you would never bring your kids to Hooters (and judging NQB for doing it). So what is it?
The question was would you care if someone is hosting their own kids birthday at Hooters. I would not. Not for a 1 year old at least but also to me if they want to have a birthday at this location for their kid it's none of my business. I would be wondering is there is a story behind it so I would be curious.
Would I personally host a party for my girls at Hooters, no.
The question in the title is "would you go to a kid's birthday party at Hooters" which is completely different than "would you care." I really don't care what most people do but hell no I wouldn't attend a birthday party there because they are a shitty company.
If I didn't have kids? Sure, I guess. But I do have kids, and trying to corral a 5 and 1 year around a decidedly non-kid friendly restaurant doesn't sound fun. I guess their presence would be a public service announcement to the staff; "ALWAYS REMEMBER BIRTH CONTROL!"
Hooter's is actually very kid friendly. It is loud with tv's everywhere and a kids's menu and crayons!
Yeah, that's it. My sister told me what the name means and now I'm even more grossed out.
I don't know. Dare I ask?
Do you really want to know? Because you can't unknow it, and I wish I didn't know it!
Apparently the kilt is tilted because the guys are "excited". I can't even type the words at work. Ugh, this makes it so much grosser to me that they are having their son's bday party there. I was kind of trying to be breezy and think it was a joke, but it is really just gross and not funny to me.
If I didn't have kids? Sure, I guess. But I do have kids, and trying to corral a 5 and 1 year around a decidedly non-kid friendly restaurant doesn't sound fun. I guess their presence would be a public service announcement to the staff; "ALWAYS REMEMBER BIRTH CONTROL!"
Hooter's is actually very kid friendly. It is loud with tv's everywhere and a kids's menu and crayons!
Why the hell not? Got to start the misogyny and female objectification education early.
You know, maybe if I'd gone to birthday parties at Hooters as a child, I would've been better prepared for people defending the president saying he just grabs 'me by the pussy as merely engaging in locker room talk. My parents clearly failed me.
To answer the question, no, I would absolutely not attend a birthday party at Hooters (or similar), be it a child's or an adult's. I've never been to such a restaurant, and I have no desire to change that.
And I'd be re-evaluating my friendship with anyone who hosted a party at Hooters. I'm not really into objectifying women for sport, so why would I want to be friends with people who are?
Fuck No I wouldn't go to a party at Hooters and I would judge the shit out of anyone that did.
From an article that investigated the psychological toll women face working at a breastaurant (That is the term they use - argh).
Places like breastaurants emphasize women’s bodies while suppressing their humanity and individuality, encouraging the “male gaze” by putting women’s bodies and sexuality on display. Restaurants that promote the former regulate female workers’ appearance and wardrobe in ways that draw attention to their physical and sexual attributes. For example, they often require their waitresses to wear uniforms or clothing that accentuate their buttocks, upper legs, and breasts.
In addition, some of these restaurants will force waitresses to maintain the weight at which they were hired. These restaurants will also promote sexually objectifying events (like wet t-shirt competitions among waitresses) and products (such as swimsuit calendars) that market the sex appeal of their waitresses.
Meanwhile, restaurants that elicit the “male gaze” implicitly acknowledge and sanction the “right” of male customers to visually inspect waitresses' bodies—and to even appraise female servers' sexual desirability and appearance.
We found a clear inverse relationship: The more workers’ bodies and sexuality were put on display, the less happy they were with their jobs. Taken together, our two studies suggest that although breastaurants may be good for waitresses’ pocketbooks, they don’t appear to be good for their psychological and work-related health.
Unfortunately, sexual objectification of women occurs in a number of different contexts and settings, from the cultural to the interpersonal. Our findings are simply consistent with a fairly large research base that shows how harmful sexual objectification of women can be.
Last comment on this: My husband swears it's for the wings. But I am not going to run his life and be that person who tells him he can't go. Lots of husband hide it from their wife like it's a strip club. He tells me his male coworker pay in cash and say that he is brave for using his credit card.
This thread turned out exactly how imagined it would. I just going to keep my damn mouth shut from now on.