Last comment on this: My husband swears it's for the wings. But I am not going to run his life and be that person who tells him he can't go. Lots of husband hide it from their wife like it's a strip club. He tells me his male coworker pay in cash and say that he is brave for using his credit card.
This thread turned out exactly how imagined it would. I just going to keep my damn mouth shut from now on.
I mean, you are cool with your husband supporting a restaurant that openly objectifies women because he likes wings. This is the same concept as people who buy things from companies with racist practices because they just can't possibly find the product elsewhere.
If you don't mind that, fine. You do you.
But please, keep acting like the rest of us are some sort of uptight prudes who just need to lighten up just because you're OK with misogyny in the name of wings. Yes. WE are the problem.
Last comment on this: My husband swears it's for the wings. But I am not going to run his life and be that person who tells him he can't go. Lots of husband hide it from their wife like it's a strip club. He tells me his male coworker pay in cash and say that he is brave for using his credit card.
This thread turned out exactly how imagined it would. I just going to keep my damn mouth shut from now on.
This comment makes me think of this article and discussion for some reason.
Maybe they are doing it for the 1 y/o...I mean, DS loved boobs at 1. He'd be so interested in all the boobs!
ha ha, yeah my kid was obsessed with boobs at 1 too. So seems like a good theme
ETA: I hope everyone understands this is TIC ...'
ETA: Okay now I feel bad! Ignore my comments We do not go to the restaurant or support the restaurant. And would not go to a birthday there. I think it is inappropriate.
Last comment on this: My husband swears it's for the wings. But I am not going to run his life and be that person who tells him he can't go. Lots of husband hide it from their wife like it's a strip club. He tells me his male coworker pay in cash and say that he is brave for using his credit card.
This thread turned out exactly how imagined it would. I just going to keep my damn mouth shut from now on.
I mean, you are cool with your husband supporting a restaurant that openly objectifies women because he likes wings. This is the same concept as people who buy things from companies with racist practices because they just can't possibly find the product elsewhere.
If you don't mind that, fine. You do you.
But please, keep acting like the rest of us are some sort of uptight prudes who just need to lighten up just because you're OK with misogyny in the name of wings. Yes. WE are the problem.
No. I get it. People feel strongly about it and I sympathize with that. Sorry for my use of pearl clutching. It was not appropriate.
Edit - I don't think I would go regardless of the occasion anyway (ie, 40 year old birthday party). That type of atmosphere squicks me out. And I don't even consider myself a prude about most things!
It's not prudish - it's not supporting the objectification of women. It sucks that we are conditioned to think that any time we're sticking up for women we're being prudes and that's bad and to be avoided.
Having to be OK with everything so as not to be labeled a prude reminds me a lot of the ultimate "prize" in college for many girls - to be considered "one of the guys." Which usually meant what? Laughing at their jokes, talking sports, and looking the other way when they said shitty things about other women. So basically, don't do anything to remind them that you're different and don't try to make them meet you on the "feminine" side of things. Of course, there is no such prize for guys that goes the other way - it's usually a bad thing for a guy to be "one of the girls" or to be too feminine.
I'll be one of the women, thanks.
I want to like this so many times.
I'm feeling a little weird about all the comments about a one year old liking breasts, so Hooters is thematically appropriate. I realize it's tic, but it's a little icky to me.
My baby likes breasts in a totally innocent and natural way. Let me celebrate that by taking him to a place where breasts are sexualized and women objectified. Ha ha! It's funny!
A LLL meeting would be more thematically appropriate for a baby that likes breasts, but the suggestion of a party at one wouldn't be considered funny or cute. It would be weird.
WTF to any woman being OK with Hooters and the like.. If there was a restaurant with a theme that was racially inappropriate, say, - minstrel shows or something equally offensive, that you'd all be all over as unacceptable. And rightly so. But somehow Hooters is OK? Come on.
Post by countthestars on Apr 5, 2017 11:58:34 GMT -5
I'm also grossed out at the jokes about babies loving breasts and Hooters. We talk about normalizing breastfeeding ALL THE TIME and reiterate over and over that breastfeeding is not sexual and then.... this.
WTF to any woman being OK with Hooters and the like.. If there was a restaurant with a theme that was racially inappropriate, say, - minstrel shows or something equally offensive, that you'd all be all over as unacceptable. And rightly so. But somehow Hooters is OK? Come on.
To be fair, does the minstrel show serve good wings?
I'm also grossed out at the jokes about babies loving breasts and Hooters. We talk about normalizing breastfeeding ALL THE TIME and reiterate over and over that breastfeeding is not sexual and then.... this.
It seems pretty clear that they are joking. Are we not allowed to joke here anymore?
MMM is only for discussing dresses and why the gifts *I* put in Easter baskets are the only correct kind
Also, I am antihooters and wouldn't go to this stupid party, but also, maybe, it's ok to not take a boob joke so seriously
WTF to any woman being OK with Hooters and the like.. If there was a restaurant with a theme that was racially inappropriate, say, - minstrel shows or something equally offensive, that you'd all be all over as unacceptable. And rightly so. But somehow Hooters is OK? Come on.
To be fair, does the minstrel show serve good wings?
The best. Also, I don't want to offend my hairdressers cousin, so I have to go
Maybe they are doing it for the 1 y/o...I mean, DS loved boobs at 1. He'd be so interested in all the boobs!
ha ha, yeah my kid was obsessed with boobs at 1 too. So seems like a good theme
ETA: I hope everyone understands this is TIC ...'
ETA: Okay now I feel bad! Ignore my comments We do not go to the restaurant or support the restaurant. And would not go to a birthday there. I think it is inappropriate.
I feel bad now too. I realize in light of the current political situation, these issues are even more relevant and upsetting, and jokes minimize the seriousness. Hooters and similar companies are gross and hurt women. I'm sorry for my comment.
Nope. And if a town has a Hooters or similar type place like Tilted Kilt, there's no way in hell there aren't more suitable (meaning less objectifying of women, not necessarily all kids all the time) venues for a birthday party.
Post by amandakisser on Apr 5, 2017 14:11:30 GMT -5
If your husband is going to Hooters "for the wings," he is not only a liar, but he has terrible taste in food. There are SO many better places for wings!
And, no, I would not go to ANY party at Hooters, never mind for a 1-year-old.
Last comment on this: My husband swears it's for the wings. But I am not going to run his life and be that person who tells him he can't go. Lots of husband hide it from their wife like it's a strip club. He tells me his male coworker pay in cash and say that he is brave for using his credit card.
This thread turned out exactly how imagined it would. I just going to keep my damn mouth shut from now on.
Again, going to places like this for "work" lunches is fucked up. If you're going somewhere for a work lunch where women may not be comfortable (because they'd have to see the waitresses flirting for tips and lots of guys ogling boobs) and is being hidden from the wife, it's not a place to go for a work lunch. Especially however regularly this is happening. WTF. Go to Buffalo Wild Wings.
If you discussed the issues mentioned in this thread with your H (not that you will, because obviously you don't care, but let's pretend), would he just keep on going because "WINGS!!" or would he have a change of heart? Because you really shouldn't have to "run his life" and tell him not to go. If he understands the issue, it should be an easy decision to come to on his own.
So we are still on this ...ehhh?
He is IT manager working in DT Dallas. Hooters is close and walkable and it is not his choice to go. His CIO makes him go with him. I am not going to interfere with his work choices. There is another wings place about 3-4 miles down which is a hike in DT which he also goes to. I am sure I am over explaining this.
Again, going to places like this for "work" lunches is fucked up. If you're going somewhere for a work lunch where women may not be comfortable (because they'd have to see the waitresses flirting for tips and lots of guys ogling boobs) and is being hidden from the wife, it's not a place to go for a work lunch. Especially however regularly this is happening. WTF. Go to Buffalo Wild Wings.
If you discussed the issues mentioned in this thread with your H (not that you will, because obviously you don't care, but let's pretend), would he just keep on going because "WINGS!!" or would he have a change of heart? Because you really shouldn't have to "run his life" and tell him not to go. If he understands the issue, it should be an easy decision to come to on his own.
So we are still on this ...ehhh?
He is IT manager working in DT Dallas. Hooters is close and walkable and it is not his choice to go. His CIO makes him go with him. I am not going to interfere with his work choices. There is another wings place about 3-4 miles down which is a hike in DT which he also goes to. I am sure I am over explaining this.
Yeah you should just stop answering. Also your husband can say "no thanks".
He is IT manager working in DT Dallas. Hooters is close and walkable and it is not his choice to go. His CIO makes him go with him. I am not going to interfere with his work choices. There is another wings place about 3-4 miles down which is a hike in DT which he also goes to. I am sure I am over explaining this.
Yeah you should just stop answering. Also your husband can say "no thanks".
To his manager? To the CIO of the company. Would that be the smartest move? Nope.
They go other places as well. This is the only time they have to met and talk about work stuff.
Yes, people can say no to where they eat for lunch. Even to their managers. Even in Dallas. Accept it - he eats there because he wants to eat there, not because it's the only option.
And no, I would not attend a child's birthday party there, and I would judge people who do. Even my craziest TX relatives would think this is not ok.
Hooters is close and walkable and it is not his choice to go. His CIO makes him go with him. I am not going to interfere with his work choices. There is another wings place about 3-4 miles down which is a hike in DT which he also goes to. I am sure I am over explaining this.
We are presumably talking about grown, autonomous adults. No he does not, full stop.
To his manager? To the CIO of the company. Would that be the smartest move? Nope.
They go other places as well. This is the only time they have to met and talk about work stuff.
Lol. Ooook. You really are digging in to defend him.
In the past I have suggested other restaurants to the CFO of my company. And since she wasn't an asshole, she happily went along.
They have plenty of places on rotation. This is one of many places they go eat. I am not about to go tell him to dictate to his manager, who is the CIO of the company, to stop going. It's not my place.
And when did this post turn into lets hate on MrsSandro DH for eating at Hooters?