Friend lost baby after amnio

[anna7602]

I just got the saddest email from a friend. She got some kind of terrible infection due to the amnio and lost her baby. I can't even wrap my brain around it. I just saw her in July and she was already showing and telling people. Apparently, this happened soon after and she has spent the last month just processing what happened.

I feel terrible for her.

[minzy]

That's awful.

The lawyer in me would consider a lawsuit with the infection.

[barefootcontessa]

I am so sorry for your friend. Heartbreaking. I also had a friend lose a baby after amnio which is why I decided long ago never to have one.

[drloretta]

Sept 13, 2012 5:59:06 GMT -5 minzy said:

That's awful.

The lawyer in me would consider a lawsuit with the infection.

She might not be able to if the risks and benefits were explained.

I'm so sorry for your friend.

[madringal]

That is just terrible!! Do you know why she had the amnio?

[anna7602]

Sept 13, 2012 7:07:42 GMT -5 madringal said:

That is just terrible!! Do you know why she had the amnio?

Advanced maternal age.

[madringal]

Sept 13, 2012 7:09:21 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

Sept 13, 2012 7:07:42 GMT -5 madringal said:

That is just terrible!! Do you know why she had the amnio?

Advanced maternal age.

That is seriously one of the saddest things I have ever heard. So sorry for your friends loss

[Deleted]

That is so sad. Your poor friend.

[Deleted]

That is so sad . I'm advanced maternal age & got a laundry list of all the tests available due to AMA & you see a perinatalolgist automatically. On the list of tests it says the risk & percentage of loss caused by each right on it.

[UnderProtest]

I'm sorry to hear about your friend.

[luvmagoldn]

That is so awful. I know the risk is low for amnio but clearly things do go wrong. I skipped it with both pregnancies (I was AMA too).

I'm so sorry for your friend.

[hannamaren]

I jad an ammio with my pregnancy. It is scary even when you are having it done. Your poor friend.
There are risks, bit you hope that you arent that 1 in 800. (that was my Drs stat)

[Deleted]

That's so sad. I'm so sorry for your friend.

[anna7602]

I'm still thinking about what a freak, horrible thing this is. I want to send her flowers or a care package or something, but I don't want to make such a big deal that I make her feel worse than she already does.

[Deleted]

Sept 13, 2012 8:54:19 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

I'm still thinking about what a freak, horrible thing this is. I want to send her flowers or a care package or something, but I don't want to make such a big deal that I make her feel worse than she already does.

This is a nice thought. I bet she'd like some gesture from you that shows you were thinking about her.

[kcd0531]

How sad. Is this a friend you can go to visit? Perhaps take her out for dinner and just have a girl's night.

[grk2012]

That's devastating. I can't imagine. It's nice of you to want to do something...but I wouldn't know what to do, either!

[Deleted]

So awful, I'm so sorry for your friend.

[anna7602]

Sept 13, 2012 9:16:32 GMT -5 kcd0531 said:

How sad. Is this a friend you can go to visit? Perhaps take her out for dinner and just have a girl's night.

No, sadly we're in different countries and I don't anticipate seeing her in person any time soon.

[froggy76]

I'm so sorry for her loss. That's awful.

[Ashley&Scott]

This is so sad.

[fbf2006]

I'm so sorry for your friend. That's so sad. You can probably just send her a care package.

[water*drop]

That's so sad. I'm so sorry for your friend.

[ejpint]

How sad! I wouldn't hesitate to send some pretty flowers or a small care package. While she may not want to talk about it, just knowing that you're thinking of her is a nice thing.

[protozoa]

How heartbreaking.

[mmmomof2]

Sept 13, 2012 8:32:54 GMT -5 hannamaren said:

There are risks, bit you hope that you arent that 1 in 800. (that was my Drs stat)

Is it that low? For some reason I thought it was over 1%.

Dr. Google gives varying answers, but all are less than 1%. How awful for your friend.

[catbus]

I'm so sorry for her loss. What a nightmare.

Sept 13, 2012 10:17:19 GMT -5 mmmomof2 said:

Sept 13, 2012 8:32:54 GMT -5 hannamaren said:

There are risks, bit you hope that you arent that 1 in 800. (that was my Drs stat)

Is it that low? For some reason I thought it was over 1%.

We met with a genetic counselor after finding out about a potential birth defect at our anatomy scan that could also be a soft marker for a chromosomal abnormality. The options available to us to definitively test for further issues were the amnio or MaterniT21 test.
My own research had come up with a ~0.5-1% pregnancy loss rate nationwide associated with amnio. The medical group and affiliated hospital we were going through had a rate of more like 1/1000, according to the genetic counselor.

In any case, we opted for MaterniT21 despite the fact that it could have cost us several hundred dollars OOP vs. nothing for the amnio (as it turns out, my insurance covered M21 100%, but we didn't know for sure if it would). I would highly recommend MaterniT21 vs. an amnio when indicated and available to the patient. We really wanted to know whether we needed to be prepared for a serious abnormality, but I would have had a very difficult time being OK with the risk of amniocentesis to the fetus.

[nabum]

oh, man. That's heartbreaking.

[Deleted]

How gross that people immediately think of suing. Jesus Christ. The procedure is very safe but in rare cases, shit happens. Scaring women away from an amino is also disgusting.

[slug*bug]

Anna: I'm so sorry for your friend...I can't even imagine.

Sept 13, 2012 11:44:33 GMT -5 @spenjamins said:

How gross that people immediately think of suing. Jesus Christ.

I guess some people assume that the known risks of medical procedures don't apply to them and that, surely, someone else must pay?