I mean zero snark when asking this. Why judge them for something that has absolutely nothing to do with your life? I don't understand this judgment. And I'm a judgy bitch!
For me, it depends on the person. My cousin had one, and it was a nice way for the family to get together; everyone had a good time, and the reveal was low-key. She's a level-headed, nice person so it didn't bother me.
With other people I can think of, it would annoy me, the presumption that every detail of their lives is fascinating and every turn of events is something that everyone would want to celebrate.
I mean...obviously this is mean, but I just don't care. I've never been to this type of party, I can't imagine going to one in the future. I don't really JUDGE someone for it, I'm just like...not interested. LOL.
I don't care for anyone but myself. My MIL asked if I was glad L had a female cousin after my niece was born and she actually had to repeat the question because I had no idea what she meant. Then I had to come up with a halfhearted "oh, yeah, it's great."
Post by kitkat1502 on Apr 10, 2017 14:28:43 GMT -5
"We're having a party at our place...food/booze...you're invited!" -Sure, ok!
"We're having a party at our place...food/booze and we're going to announce whether baby is a boy or girl..you're invited!" -Wow, so tacky, no thanks.
I mean, people host parties for a billion reasons: birthday, graduation of 8th grade/high school/college, religious milestones Bar Mitvah/Bat Mitvah/baptism/communion/confirmation, job related, retirement, parties with no motive at all other than to get together....
The only thing I do get a little annoyed at in general is how with Pinterest everything now feels like it has to be so over-the-top creative and adorable and Pinterest-worthy photos.
I don't really get them, but more power to those who want to throw them. When I get pregnant, I highly doubt we'll do one, but I would not be surprised if we invite our immediate families over for a cookout to tell them. But that's less "we must reveal the sex to you" and more "we don't see half of you very often, so here's an excuse to have everyone over."
Some of my sorority sisters and friends from college have come up with pretty cute ways to reveal the sex just on Facebook. One of my sorority sisters did a Star Wars themed picture with her oldest when she was pregnant with her son -- this happened to be around the time that Episode VII was coming out, so she posted a picture of her daughter wielding a blue lightsaber. My cousin and his wife revealed the sex of their son by posting a picture of their daughter cheesing while eating blue ice cream. I think those things are super cute.
When I was in labor, the nurses were all a-twitter about my husband and I not knowing boy or girl. They really wanted the baby born and have DAD announce to the room. They cared so very much more than us about how it was announced that I have to laugh about it now.
In the end, I had a vacuum delivery and was hysterical from pain/exhaustion. It felt like an hour from when she born to when they brought her to my husband and he said "Oh, it's a girl!!" I really wish a nurse had said it sooner so I could've gone to sleep immediately.
Right before the doctor cut in for my c-section she asked me how we wanted it revealed. I thought that was interesting. I opted for "hold the baby up and let the doctor tell me what it is". I kind of assumed with everything going on if they just held up the baby I wouldn't be able to tell the sex and I think I was right. I needed someone to tell me so there was no confusion. When she held him up and said "it's a boy" my response was "Are you kidding me?" as if doctors often make jokes in the operating room. LOL
Post by flamingeaux on Apr 10, 2017 14:46:35 GMT -5
I had a sex reveal party. I baked a cake and bought pizza. My sister did some game type activities, and put the ultrasound photos into a gift box and wrapped it up several times for me so I had to get through layers to find out. Life is short, if it's not hurting anyone else who cares if it's tacky.
Post by liverandonions on Apr 10, 2017 14:47:38 GMT -5
My first i was team green, and my second we had the Harmony test done and the results were called in to my daycare provider. She filled a little pinata with blue confetti, blue candies, a onesie that my daughter painted blue and green on and two pics of her with an "I'm going to be a big sister" shirt and a mustache. We opened it while on Facetime with my dad/sister/mom in texas and my husband's parents in the bay area, and then recorded it as well. We posted that on FB. It was fun to find out at the same time as my family because my sister had two team greens.
But why? And I'm not signaling you out, there are others here "who don't do tacky" and other responses.
Someone goes through years of infertility, loss, and they want to celebrate with their friends/family.
I mean zero snark when asking this. Why judge them for something that has absolutely nothing to do with your life? I don't understand this judgment. And I'm a judgy bitch!
I don't care that it's AW-y. If you're excited to be pregnant, have at it! You deserve it; it's a major life event. But for me, I can think of three reasons why it feels weird.
-I know a number of people (including myself) who didn't get a big, exciting "gender reveal" because it was so beside the point. If you want to celebrate something, celebrate the fact that you're having a healthy baby!
-One of my BFFs actually had the tech tell her the WRONG sex; at her anatomy scan, they told her it was a girl and then she delivered a boy. (Granted, this is uncommon.)
-This is a bit hard to articulate, but here goes: The reason people get so excited about finding out the sex is because it MEANS something to them. And I have a personal pet peeve about that and how we try to fit people into these preconceived boxes. Meanwhile, transgender and gender-queer people can't even use the bathroom in peace. People are just so fucking weird about gender.
This I can wrap my brain around. If it's not a close friend or family I wouldn't be overly interested in it. But I don't really get judging it either.
To each their own and all of that.
I think what I'm judging is that the parents to be think people care enough about the sex of their baby to throw themselves a party and expect people to come and act excited.
ETA: Maybe there are people who are excited to go find out the sex of another person's baby but I am not one of them so it's hard to wrap my head around.
I've never done a gender reveal, but I have had three babies. People do get excited about the sex of the baby. People I wouldn't expect to care get excited.
And I'm not someone who gets super excited or anxious to learn the sex of someone else's baby, but I don't see why it's so hard for others like me to understand why some people do get excited. People are happy about babies, but there's not a lot to know about a baby. If someone is excited about a coming baby, learning the sex can just be another part of the excitement of looking forward to the baby.
I mean the gall of these people, thinking their family and friends are excited about their baby.
Post by RoxMonster on Apr 10, 2017 15:30:56 GMT -5
I don't really care either way. I am not having kids, so I will never have to decide whether or not to have one, but they seem fairly common in my circle of FB friends because I see a lot of pics on FB. I have never personally been invited to one.
I'm not going to judge though. If you want to invite me to a party with cake and cupcakes and food and booze and while I'm there, I find out the sex of your baby? That's cool.
I guess the reason that I don't get them is... am I really supposed to be SO SURPRISED? I mean.. there are two options. Also, everyone screams and is all excited.. would you have been mad if it was the other option? I JUST DON'T GET IT.
most of the reasons I've skipped the ones we've been invited to is because we were struggling with IF and I was not in the mood to fake being happy for someone else. But have a party and happen to announce it there? Cool, whatever. Have a big party solely dedicated to this, with invitations for a sex reveal? I just don't get it.
As a follow-up to my friends' reveal plus shower, though I will give them the benefit of doubt because it probably wasn't their idea to have both parties, I thought it was SUPER tacky that the invites for the "baby shower" were sent AFTER the sex reveal party happened. I would have appreciated knowing ahead of the first one that there was going to be another.
If I had already brought them a gift to the sex reveal (I didn't because I was shipping directly to them), I would have been really upset about having to either buy another gift or look like an ass with no gift at the shower/2nd party.
And yes, their registries were on the sex reveal invites as well as the baby shower invites.
I won't judge extra parties, but I DO judge inviting the same people to two showers and expecting gifts at both. That's tacky.
That post was beyond extra'ed out. It made me feel like most of those posters don't get invited to social events much at all. Seriously ... unclench It's just one party, at one location, that you don't have to pay for. Either chill the fuck out,show up, and smile, or regretfully decline. It's really not that serious. LOL
As a follow-up to my friends' reveal plus shower, though I will give them the benefit of doubt because it probably wasn't their idea to have both parties, I thought it was SUPER tacky that the invites for the "baby shower" were sent AFTER the sex reveal party happened. I would have appreciated knowing ahead of the first one that there was going to be another.
If I had already brought them a gift to the sex reveal (I didn't because I was shipping directly to them), I would have been really upset about having to either buy another gift or look like an ass with no gift at the shower/2nd party.
And yes, their registries were on the sex reveal invites as well as the baby shower invites.
I won't judge extra parties, but I DO judge inviting the same people to two showers and expecting gifts at both. That's tacky.
I agree. A gender reveal is not a gift giving event. And making it one is tacky. I love a gender reveal party but HATE baby showers with every fiber in my body.
Yeah, I'm going with "his parents are tacky." They're the ones who through the sex reveal, and made it a gift-giving event.
They also did this, knowing full well that Mom-to-be is an only child to a single mom, who, ya know, might want to throw her only child a baby shower. I've known mom-to-be (well, Mom now, since she already had the baby) since she was 14, and I have NO DOUBT that her mom was super upset about how it all happened.
I'm already cringing at the future grandparent in-fighting that is undoubtedly going to happen. Lucky for the new parents, they recently moved about 2 hours north of all the grandparents, so hopefully that will stem some of the grandparent competition.
I guess the reason that I don't get them is... am I really supposed to be SO SURPRISED? I mean.. there are two options. Also, everyone screams and is all excited.. would you have been mad if it was the other option? I JUST DON'T GET IT.
most of the reasons I've skipped the ones we've been invited to is because we were struggling with IF and I was not in the mood to fake being happy for someone else. But have a party and happen to announce it there? Cool, whatever. Have a big party solely dedicated to this, with invitations for a sex reveal? I just don't get it.
But that's why I didn't do it. You do you.
Is SO SURPRISED the standard?
it's an excuse to celebrate. I mean, I'm sure there are people who are surprised by the outcome, but, at the end of the day, I think these events are about having fun and celebrating. eat, drink, and be merry!
Post by discogranny on Apr 10, 2017 17:18:22 GMT -5
I saw this via a FB video, so not first hand - a friend threw a "gender reveal" party and invited tons of people and then when they opened the box, it was full of pink and blue balloons. People started flipping out thinking they had hidden twins from everyone, but really they just decided to fake people out and threw the party to tell the guests they weren't going to find out the sex. The guests were PISSED.
I saw this via a FB video, so not first hand - a friend threw a "gender reveal" party and invited tons of people and then when they opened the box, it was full of pink and blue balloons. People started flipping out thinking they had hidden twins from everyone, but really they just decided to fake people out and threw the party to tell the guests they weren't going to find out the sex. The guests were PISSED.
If I want cake I can just buy my own-no need to go to a party. Then I can eat my cake in peace without having to deal with foolishness. #curmudgeon #yourcakeprobablytastesbadfromallthefoodcoloring