knx9211 we aren't on bcp. Plus if you BF that's like natural BC for the first 6m or so
My period came back at 4 months while exclusively breastfeeding, so it's not something to entirely count on.
The idea of going on birth control seems almost laughable doesn't it, after all the effort it took to get pregnant. But mine was secondary infertility, so I have no idea what things will be like after this one. We still don't even know for sure if we'd want to try again or not. Part of me thinks we should just skip BC and then if something happens it'll be a happy accident. But if my period comes back at 4 months again, that feels too soon to risk it. Maybe we will keep some condoms on hand, but I don't think we'll do anything more than that.
And yes, our sex life is the pits. DH seems so optimistic that everything will be fixed once this kid is here. He has mentioned several times how he's looking forward to me being 6 weeks post partum.
mpc labor watch update: I had what I'm pretty sure was bloody show this morning. Google is telling me crazy things like real labor could start today or tomorrow. I was having regular contractions all morning and during my drive, but now that I'm at work they have stopped again. I was hoping to get a group together to go out to lunch today, but so far I've had no luck. Don't they know you don't say no to the 9 months pregnant lady?
Eeek, so exciting mpc!! My labor started within a day or 2 of my show. I hope some of your friends come through, but if not you should treat yo self to a decadent lunch out anyway. Keep us posted!
Aw thanks, guys. Glad to know it's not just me, although I'm sorry you're going through it as well. I do doubt it's the hormones in the IUD, since I was on BCP for years and had a perfectly medium-high sex drive. Probably doesn't help that I told H the sex window is only open from 8-8h30 in the evening (A is fast asleep, I'm not too tired yet). Anyway, my post inspired me to just do it last night and it wasn't terrible. H's students are going to wonder why he's in such a good mood today, lol.
Aw thanks, guys. Glad to know it's not just me, although I'm sorry you're going through it as well. I do doubt it's the hormones in the IUD, since I was on BCP for years and had a perfectly medium-high sex drive. Probably doesn't help that I told H the sex window is only open from 8-8h30 in the evening (A is fast asleep, I'm not too tired yet). Anyway, my post inspired me to just do it last night and it wasn't terrible. H's students are going to wonder why he's in such a good mood today, lol.
Our new method for sex is not very romantic. Basically, we just schedule it, a few days in advance. That way there's no issues related to initiation and potential rejection, plus we can make sure that it's early enough in the evening that it doesn't interfere with sleep, although I suppose that isn't as big of a deal now that the baby sleeps through the night and I'm actually rested.
So yeah, low sex drive, plus breastfeeding (I started my period again when H was 8 months old), plus not minding having another baby was pretty much our birth control method. If we do have a second baby, we'll have to take birth control more seriously afterward, because we only want two kids.
Aw thanks, guys. Glad to know it's not just me, although I'm sorry you're going through it as well. I do doubt it's the hormones in the IUD, since I was on BCP for years and had a perfectly medium-high sex drive. Probably doesn't help that I told H the sex window is only open from 8-8h30 in the evening (A is fast asleep, I'm not too tired yet). Anyway, my post inspired me to just do it last night and it wasn't terrible. H's students are going to wonder why he's in such a good mood today, lol.
Our new method for sex is not very romantic. Basically, we just schedule it, a few days in advance. That way there's no issues related to initiation and potential rejection, plus we can make sure that it's early enough in the evening that it doesn't interfere with sleep, although I suppose that isn't as big of a deal now that the baby sleeps through the night and I'm actually rested.
So yeah, low sex drive, plus breastfeeding (I started my period again when H was 8 months old), plus not minding having another baby was pretty much our birth control method. If we do have a second baby, we'll have to take birth control more seriously afterward, because we only want two kids.
We tried to schedule it, too, but I've got more freelance work now, and I need my H to take A as soon as he gets home from work so I can get stuff done. Then after she goes to bed, he has to go and do his (feels like) 10 million job applications. I mean, this stuff needs to get done, so we barely see each other in the evenings.
I do wonder if another reason for not wanting to have sex is because I'm actually terrified I'll end up pregnant. Which, if not for the IUD (and to be honest, I've heard stories of IUD pregnancies), is entirely possible given the fact that getting pregnant was the easy part for us. I sure as hell don't want another loss, really don't ever want to be pregnant again, and I'm pretty sure we're OAD for these and other logistical reasons.
loira, all this talk encouraged me to initiate last night. I enjoyed during... I HURT after. The other downside to having so much time between sessions.
Our new method for sex is not very romantic. Basically, we just schedule it, a few days in advance. That way there's no issues related to initiation and potential rejection, plus we can make sure that it's early enough in the evening that it doesn't interfere with sleep, although I suppose that isn't as big of a deal now that the baby sleeps through the night and I'm actually rested.
So yeah, low sex drive, plus breastfeeding (I started my period again when H was 8 months old), plus not minding having another baby was pretty much our birth control method. If we do have a second baby, we'll have to take birth control more seriously afterward, because we only want two kids.
We tried to schedule it, too, but I've got more freelance work now, and I need my H to take A as soon as he gets home from work so I can get stuff done. Then after she goes to bed, he has to go and do his (feels like) 10 million job applications. I mean, this stuff needs to get done, so we barely see each other in the evenings.
I do wonder if another reason for not wanting to have sex is because I'm actually terrified I'll end up pregnant. Which, if not for the IUD (and to be honest, I've heard stories of IUD pregnancies), is entirely possible given the fact that getting pregnant was the easy part for us. I sure as hell don't want another loss, really don't ever want to be pregnant again, and I'm pretty sure we're OAD for these and other logistical reasons.
cactuscookie, yes, definitely too permanent right now. I haven't worked out my feelings yet on whether our family feels a little incomplete because of V, or because I genuinely want 2 kids. I don't think I'd be a great mum to 2, and I'm pretty sure this is it, but I'm not ready to close the door on another just yet. In any case, we would want to wait awhile and let our living situation become more stable. I should probably get the IUD removed and go back on BCP (they worked well for me, and I quite liked them), but after years of not paying for birth control in the UK, I was pretty unhappy about having to pay 400$ for the IUD. Pills are also not covered by my province's healthcare. I'm such a cheapskate and want to get my money's worth on the IUD, but it's probably not worth it if it's giving me such a mental block.
I've got appointments with 2 different REs for consultations for our FET! One isn't until June, so blah, but the other is mid-May. That one is closer to my house and my job, so as long as there's no issues, I'll likely go with them. Lots of checks in her favor.
pooh8402, yay! That's great that you were able to find two choices. Are you settled in?
Getting there. I'm learning my way around town, so that's good. Our remodeling projects start like this week, so I'm waiting to get settled in the house until those are completed. My new job is going well so far. Thanks for asking!
Hi. Still here. I was timing contractions last night and they were coming every 4 minutes. Today - nothing. I'd laugh if I weren't so over it. I'm at work and I think my coworkers are going to go out to lunch with me today, so that's something.
gah, mpc - how frustrating! I've been thinking of you. Hopefully baby girl is just waiting for you to get one more social lunch in before she makes her arrival.
gah, mpc - how frustrating! I've been thinking of you. Hopefully baby girl is just waiting for you to get one more social lunch in before she makes her arrival.
maybe she's just waiting for my doctor to come back from vacation. Today's the last day she's out. So tomorrow? That'd be ok baby girl, you hear that?
I'm struggling with feeding A. I was doing mostly pumping, with some formula at night as needed. Pedi tried convincing me to just breastfeed. Then she told me I should really drop the formula and only pump. I freaked out that I would not have enough to supply and contacted LC. LC got baby to the boob. Only we need a nipple shield, she doesn't stay on boob for long so now my pump supply is gone, not getting anything from pumping as of yesterday and still feel full and needing to use formula. I want to call LC today bc this isn't sustainable
I'm sorry you're struggling to nurse, grover. I totally understand about the pump/nurse/formula routine not being sustainable. I felt like I never got a break. I decided to give up the nursing part, and pump and FF - eventually moved to EFF. But whatever you decide to do is the right decision for your family. I agonised over what to do, but now that A is older I realise just how small a portion of her life EBF would have been anyway. Just know that you have tons of support here, lots of mums who bfed successfully and lots who chose FF.
Thanks loira. After posting earlier, H and I had talked it out, and when I said aloud that I wanted to go back to just pumping and supplementing with formula if needed, I felt this instant wave of relief. One one hand, I'm glad I tried to nurse, but I probably just should have tried from the start (I had no real interest to, so I started pumping from the beginning. We didn't try to nurse until she was almost 3 weeks old.) I immediately got 8 oz in my first pumping session after deciding to quit nursing. Going forward, I think I will try to nurse #2 from the start if there is a #2.
I am sorry you felt pressured by the doctor to nurse if it wasn't working for you, loira. I am glad you already feel better and are having success with your pumping! mpc, hoping that since you posted last night you are in L&D right now!!
Last night and into the morning hours baby G was moving SO much, it was tough to sleep! I was in heaven, though. At midnight H and I just laid in bed holding my belly and feeling him move. It was fun and sweet. We played him music and just talked to him, which we felt goofy doing, but it was sweet.
However, today I baked and had a few spoonfuls of raw dough (with egg) and now I am super paranoid that I am causing damage or will miscarry :/