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1. I am still pissed at what's her name waltzing into that other thread with her foolishness. I feel like she invaded my safe space and I don't have enough of them in my life. I still can't get over her questions as a POC and I still want to know what that means specifically because her questions were so bizarre.

2. I am so tired of white people posting things on FB and other public spaces and then getting so butthurt when you don't agree with them. This has happened to me too many times and they wonder why I am erasing white people from my life. The latest was a friend who posted something Matt Walsh said about the United incident on her page and she agreed. Basically saying that while United may not have been 100% right the guy was an asshole and should have just listened to their instructions. I disagreed. Another person (white) said this was sounding like interactions POC have with police and victim blaming. Back and forth. It ends with I am sorry you don't like something I posted on MY page. Whatever. I just don't agree with you. They seriously only want to be friends with people who agree with everything they say. I also see that this is many of their issues with Obama. They don't really think he made race relations worse, they just don't want to have to hear about it.

3. My Gma and great aunt came to see our new house this weekend. While there DD wanted me to play with her. They go on and on about how if we had another kid I wouldn't have to play with her. Umm, that is not how it works at least not for many years while I am pregnant and during infancy. It would be years before they could play independently. Nothing H or I said would make them shut up. I wanted to say that I didn't want to put my parents in a situation where they were helping us take care of our kids because we couldn't afford them like great aunt has to do with her grown ass kids, but I didn't. I even resorted to saying maybe I couldn't have any more kids (which I said I would never do) and their fucking response was that doctors don't know. Neither of them have any idea what H and I went through to even have DD. That was 2+ years of heartache. Just shut the fuck up old bitties. I am pissed that days later this is still bothering me.

That felt good. Share yours.

[DesertMoon]

My mother in law is driving me up the fracking wall...

My house is dirty and I just don't want to even look at it.

Help me I'm overwhelmed!

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cubed the door thing drives me crazy. I have noticed at work that white men will not hold the door open, but they will say thank you if you hold the door for them. White women won't hold the door or say thank you when you do for them. I keep saying I am no longer going to hold the door, but then I feel like I am letting their bad behavior change me and that is the last thing I want. But next time I am going to be vocal about instead of quietly shaking my head. Rude as people.

[barcelonagirl]

I'm trying to keep this houseplant alive. First it had fungus cause I overwatered it. Now that I've dried it out, I'm scared to water the fool again!

My Nana has plants older than I am living in a smoke filled bathroom.

Ugh.

[andwhat]

Apr 12, 2017 9:37:11 GMT -5 barcelonagirl said:

I'm trying to keep this houseplant alive. First it had fungus cause I overwatered it. Now that I've dried it out, I'm scared to water the fool again!

My Nana has plants older than I am living in a smoke filled bathroom.

Ugh.

We have a lime tree thanks to DD. Right now it is small enough to be in the house. I thought it had a fungus from overwatering, but apparently it was just turning into a tree from a plant. LOL 

[DesertMoon]

Apr 12, 2017 9:42:45 GMT -5 @tooshort said:

Apr 12, 2017 9:37:11 GMT -5 barcelonagirl said:

I'm trying to keep this houseplant alive. First it had fungus cause I overwatered it. Now that I've dried it out, I'm scared to water the fool again!

My Nana has plants older than I am living in a smoke filled bathroom.

Ugh.

I can't keep any plants alive. My mom gave me a cactus because "even you can't kill it" she said. Thing was dead in 2 months. Smh.

I'm over people in general and my H specifically. We carpool in the morning and he used the time to pick a fight about something stupid. Now I'm hiding in my office trying not to snap on anyone.

Planting is a touchy subject for me. I've never been great at it but I had this gorgeous rose bush that was working out and it was blooming a lot and I was clipping watching videos I was dedicated....someone ripped it out of the ground....I cried my Fucking eyes out. Dh tried to buy another but I was so offended it felt like irreplaceable. It make the most beautiful roses with the silkiest petals.

[barcelonagirl]

DesertMoon Damn
That's some chutzpah right there.

[iammalcolmx]

Apr 12, 2017 10:40:04 GMT -5 DesertMoon said:

Apr 12, 2017 9:42:45 GMT -5 @tooshort said:

I can't keep any plants alive. My mom gave me a cactus because "even you can't kill it" she said. Thing was dead in 2 months. Smh.

I'm over people in general and my H specifically. We carpool in the morning and he used the time to pick a fight about something stupid. Now I'm hiding in my office trying not to snap on anyone.

Planting is a touchy subject for me. I've never been great at it but I had this gorgeous rose bush that was working out and it was blooming a lot and I was clipping watching videos I was dedicated....someone ripped it out of the ground....I cried my Fucking eyes out. Dh tried to buy another but I was so offended it felt like irreplaceable. It make the most beautiful roses with the silkiest petals.

Like stole the plant or ripped it out of the ground to destroy it?

[newnamesameperson]

1) I am really pissed about Oh, gosh could it be a Nazi or Hindu symbol. Goodness, golly gee the people on CEP told me Hindus have this symbol. You dumb ass, do you think any Hindu is just randomly spray painting this on the street? WTF on that thread and of course no one said shit.

2) Honest question does not equate to let me put a snide ass remark in here and try to educate you.

3) STOP GIVING ME EFFING house buying advice you dumb ass. I don't want to be like you NOR do I want to live like you. BTW, yes I get how much work it would take to clean that size of a home but YOUUUUUUUUUUU suggesting it to me....oh, hell no.

[newnamesameperson]

Apr 12, 2017 8:35:12 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

I keep having to twirl on the cluesless, and it's making me dizzy. I can't help it; I can't spot.

As soon as Kirk finishes the sale of his firm, I will be twirling on the racially foolish with a capitol T. Don't quote me, but I'm pretty sure we'll go down to city hall, and outright purchase two more street names for our family.

I will be TWIRLING all over the place, like a mad woman, because people play too much racially and it's irritating. What are the hopeless going to do, in a few months, when both Kirk and I no longer have to work for a living, ever again, in our own rights, starting at age 32?

Smh

OMG be jealous. 

32 and not ever having to work again b/c you are financially set?  Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. 

[newnamesameperson]

Apr 12, 2017 9:42:45 GMT -5 @tooshort said:

Apr 12, 2017 9:37:11 GMT -5 barcelonagirl said:

I'm trying to keep this houseplant alive. First it had fungus cause I overwatered it. Now that I've dried it out, I'm scared to water the fool again!

My Nana has plants older than I am living in a smoke filled bathroom.

Ugh.

I can't keep any plants alive. My mom gave me a cactus because "even you can't kill it" she said. Thing was dead in 2 months. Smh.

I'm over people in general and my H specifically. We carpool in the morning and he used the time to pick a fight about something stupid. Now I'm hiding in my office trying not to snap on anyone.

Don't carpool with him for 3 days or something like that.  Sometimes you have to check people, even the ones you love, real quick.  

Obviously have a discussion, if you want but you know actions sometimes speak louder than words.  

[childofhiphop]

I like everyone's vents - not because they're good but because I don't feel alone.

This is my week at work. DARKNESS + SADNESS


I'm over the Bully and her harassment. I can't decide whether to give the VP a chance to step in (but they're a chummy white man and white woman) or go to the Title IX office and file that she's creating a hostile work environment. All 3 WOC who have quit working her because of her have said they'll have my back.

I'm conflicted though because that action has such large consequences and even though she's rotten, does the actions warrant this?

It's not only affecting me (I dread days that I have to meet with her) but my direct reports too.

(Darth and Sadness sit on my desk - usually not holding hands).

[iammalcolmx]

Apr 12, 2017 12:19:15 GMT -5 newnamesameperson said:

1) I am really pissed about Oh, gosh could it be a Nazi or Hindu symbol. Goodness, golly gee the people on CEP told me Hindus have this symbol. You dumb ass, do you think any Hindu is just randomly spray painting this on the street? WTF on that thread and of course no one said shit.

2) Honest question does not equate to let me put a snide ass remark in here and try to educate you.

3) STOP GIVING ME EFFING house buying advice you dumb ass. I don't want to be like you NOR do I want to live like you. BTW, yes I get how much work it would take to clean that size of a home but YOUUUUUUUUUUU suggesting it to me....oh, hell no.

What thread?? Where is this?

[newnamesameperson]

I can't figure out how to make this quote correctly, but here you go iammalcolmx.

23 hours ago vicky said:
More sad than annoyed: when happywife and I were walking around the Gaslamp District last night we saw a swastika graffitied on the ground. I got physically sick to my stomach when we saw it last night and my stomach cramps and I tear up every time I think about it.

I'm trying to think what can I do about it. I'm sure the police know about it already. I'm about to buy spray paint and do some street art myself.

19 hours ago mdgirl said:
This happened in my neighborhood this past summer and a few people on CEP pointed out that in Hinduism they're sometimes painted in front of new homes as a good luck symbol. I reported the one I saw to the city but I still hope it was actually a good thing.

Me......
Come the f on. Hindus aren't going around spray painting them on this random street NOR are they painting it in your neighborhood randomly by itself without any other decoration and in the same format as the Nazi symbol.

What world are you living in?

This shit is ridiculously ignorant.


pandce.proboards.com/thread/573716/annoying-today?page=4#ixzz4e3tSm2dm

[iammalcolmx]

newnamesameperson , MY FACE RIGHT NOW!

@natariru , I was just talking to your boy who asked if we were eating dinner outside on the deck this evening. I said I didn't know because I don't like all the carpenter bees flying around. He asked if he needed to buy me a Beekeeper suit like I was looking for ET.  There is a 50/50 chance he will be missing eyebrows when he wakes up tomorrow!!

[bugandbibs]

We just got the ticket prices for DD1's eighth grade promotion dinner. It's $40 per person! It's usually like $20/person, but the planning group "wants it to be really special this year and spoil our children".

We aren't poor, but this is going to be tough with all the other expenses in the next month. I just sold some stuff on craigslist to cover DD1's expense money for her D.C. trip. We still have to buy her ticket to the class party, a dress, pay the baggage fee, etc... It all seems small until you add it up. At least we finished paying for the trip and they got tickets to the National Museum of African American History. I'm super jealous, but excited for her.

I can't even with the swastika bullshit.

[barcelonagirl]

Apr 12, 2017 11:40:42 GMT -5 @natariru said:

VENT:
I felt so guilty about telling S repeatedly that we don't celebrate Easter, that I bought him chocolate for Sunday. He must have really listened to me, because yesterday I asked a friend what she was doing for Easter and S jumped in and said "we don't celebrate Easter bc we don't believe in Jesus" and I felt kind of bad hearing it out of his mouth. Why is parenting so confusing? Why is religion so confusing? I DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M DOING.

We celebrate Commercial American Easter which is sponsored by the Cadbury Egg and hosted by various chocolate bunnies, a Honey Baked ham, collard greens and mac and cheese

[DesertMoon]

Apr 12, 2017 11:35:34 GMT -5 iammalcolmx said:

Apr 12, 2017 10:40:04 GMT -5 DesertMoon said:

Planting is a touchy subject for me. I've never been great at it but I had this gorgeous rose bush that was working out and it was blooming a lot and I was clipping watching videos I was dedicated....someone ripped it out of the ground....I cried my Fucking eyes out. Dh tried to buy another but I was so offended it felt like irreplaceable. It make the most beautiful roses with the silkiest petals.

Like stole the plant or ripped it out of the ground to destroy it?

Like pulled it out and tore it to pieces and left it's corpse all up and down my drive way. Petals everywhere. I was so devestated, I was so proud of it.

[DesertMoon]

Sorry cubed and natariru.

We celebrate Easter because dh is Christian and we have specific traditions to our culture we do and I don't want to lose those for the kids. I do commercialize it up though kinder egg surprises bunny ears peeps.

A Hindu symbol? Really that's the direction you're going take it? You sound so simple I'd advise you not to speak unless you have an "explainer" near by.

[childofhiphop]

Apr 12, 2017 17:12:46 GMT -5 DesertMoon said:

Apr 12, 2017 11:35:34 GMT -5 iammalcolmx said:

Like stole the plant or ripped it out of the ground to destroy it?

Like pulled it out and tore it to pieces and left it's corpse all up and down my drive way. Petals everywhere. I was so devestated, I was so proud of it.

I'm so sorry.

Who does this??

[kicks]

I'm venting/annoyed with myself...

Another resident snapped at me in the middle of the night over the weekend. I talked it over with the resident in charge and she agreed with me that I was absolutely in the right and the other resident shouldn't have snapped at me.

So the resident that snapped at me did apologize to me the next day. All I said was "it's ok!" and didn't explain anything further.

I think subconsciously I don't want to come across as the angry black woman. I've gotten better in public and will stand up to foolishness, but at the workplace not so much. Residency is such a hierarchy and I'm still on the bottom that I never want to rock the boat. But I need to learn not to be ok with foolishness and speak my mind when the time is appropriate.

[barcelonagirl]

Apr 12, 2017 17:36:57 GMT -5 childofhiphop said:

Apr 12, 2017 17:12:46 GMT -5 DesertMoon said:

Like pulled it out and tore it to pieces and left it's corpse all up and down my drive way. Petals everywhere. I was so devestated, I was so proud of it.

I'm so sorry.

Who does this??

Suburban mom gang initiates?

[DesertMoon]

Apr 12, 2017 17:46:57 GMT -5 barcelonagirl said:

Apr 12, 2017 17:36:57 GMT -5 childofhiphop said:

I'm so sorry.

Who does this??

Suburban mom gang initiates?

My neighbor is a woman from Uganda, she said she only displays fake flowers because people round here don't know how to act. Apparently someone tore down her hanging plants that summer too. I don't plan on planting again.