Daily Poll - Thursday

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How often do you get a girl's/mom's/friend's night out? Or day off or happy hour or whatever. Some kind of time with friends and no kids or spouse.

[2brides]

I meant to click monthly (vs every other) I love happy hour and arrange happy hour for my dept every few months. On the off months I go to happy hour with other friends, have dinner with a college friend, etc.

[ct]

It didnt really occur to me until I really gave it some thought...but, its only been like 3 or 4x in the past year+. I'm definitely focused on changing that asap.

DW is once at least a week during horseshoe season and a couple times a month otherwise.

[bluedaisyus]

Hmmmm....I'm trying to remember the last time I actually had a night out without either my wife or my son (or both). Aaaaaand I can't. She goes out once a week by herself because she plays on a dart league. I do go with her on occasion, but it's few and far between. Last year I was in a women's chorus, which meant that Monday evenings I had dinner with my mom and sister and then we all went to rehearsal, but frankly I don't really consider that a night off and I'm not participating this year. I will still be having dinner with my mom and sister, but then heading home by 7:00.

I think I need to have a discussion with my wife about this...

[twotrue]

With friends and no kids? Umm.....I can't remember the last time. But to be fair, I choose to skip the last GNO because they were all going to some straight, chick-flick that I had no interest in seeing. And I really wasn't in the mood to hang out with other people that day.

I wish it were more often but really, I don't have people around here that want/enjoy/can do the happy hour type of life that I used to love so much. I need more gay men in my day-to-day life ;-)

[kershnic]

Obviously we do a ton without kids since we have none of our own, but we do the vast majority of our socializing together. I'm not sure that's healthy but it's the way it is.

[ElsaVonM]

None, mostly because we just moved here and don't have our own friends - we've made friends with one other couple, and we've gone out with them a bunch with our collective kids and once with no kids. Before we moved we did things on our own fairly often (maybe once a week, each), since we ran in different professional circles and most of our friends came from that.

[twotrue]

Oh wait! A few weeks back, on a particularly bad day, K picked up JB from daycare and I went to the bar by myself. Does that count as GNO? ;-)

[hlke]

No kids makes this a bit different!

I do dinner or pedicures with my friends once or twice a month. C does capioera (a Brazillian martial art) two nights a week, and goes to a work-related social event about once a month.

[hensmum]

I have ballet once a week, but I don't count that. I am starting to know some of the other ladies, but it's def not GNO! I love it, for sure, but it's when Henry's in bed anyway and is only 45 mins :-p

I said monthly, but it varies. I started doing some things on my own with friends somewhat regularly around the beginning of this year. The impetus was a reconnection with an old friend, who was living nearby temporarily. He travelled for about a month and then came back for a brief time before moving to the west coast (he obv doesn't have kids hahaha). So during some of that time I was going out (with him and sometimes another mutual friend) a lot! It was amazing! Now that he's gone, I only have a couple local friends. One is a mom who just gave birth to #2, the other lives in the city and has a dry different schedule from mine. But that taste I got of having a real live social life of my own (beyond playdates!) showed mr how incredibly valuable it is for me to do so. I hope to keep up with it on a monthly basis now. Is like to do a weekend away, staying with friends, maybe two or three tomes a year too, as that was AMAZING when i did it for the first time last month.

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Sept 13, 2012 20:04:29 GMT -5 hensmum said:

But that taste I got of having a real live social life of my own (beyond playdates!) showed mr how incredibly valuable it is for me to do so.

exactly! i didnt even know what i was missing.

[quinny]

None. Not alone or with my wife. N is a bear when it comes to sleeping. He won't go down for K so I am always home for naps and bedtime. I went to the theater and out for drinks twice in the last year, alone. Once was at night and they had an awful bedtime and the other time was a Sunday afternoon. But changes are a'foot! we had K's niece over yesterday to play with N and she will be coming back next week to hang out with him while I work. Hopefully next weekend we will have our very first date in a year! And we have been working on his sleep and have made great strides to hopefully I will get some time solo soon!