Are you kids leaders or followers?

[sandj82110]

Or do they just do their own thing?

At home or with one or two friends Daniel totally the leader but at school and in taekwondo he always seems to hang back and be the last to do things. I've noticed every time they are asked to line up he always seems to go towards the back of the line.

We get the occasional note from school about Daniel getting in trouble for making poor decisions and following the lead of some friends that weren't following the rules but they say he's never the instigator there. At home he totally the instigator and is constantly egging Alexander on to do things he shouldn't be.

Other times he will go off and just do his own thing and doesn't seem to care that everyone else is doing something else.

Alexander is a followers for sure, right now, but he's become at lot bolder and more outgoing the last few months. I'm excited to see what he's like without the influence of Daniel, he idolizes is brother and will pretty much do anything Daniel tells him do. I hope this changes!

Obviously they're still very young so the way they act now means little to how they will be when they're older.

[Deleted]

If she's with older kids, she follows. With kids her age or younger, she now leads. During things like dance, lining up, she's probably neither or leans follower. So she's a mixture I would say but has opened up a ton in the last year, she used to be all follower when she was 2 and 3.

[TrudyCampbell]

Both are followers and are pretty shy in social situations. However, when it's just Violet and Ruby, Violet is extremely bossy.

[CrazyLucky]

We have heard from two different daycares that both of our kids have leadership skills. We're like, "yeah, they're bossy at home too." We had thought that because DS is older and is SO bossy/assertive, that DD would kind of shrink. But no, she gives it right back to him, which I'm glad about. DS's BFF across the street has the same personality and so they fight a lot. We work with DS a lot about taking turns and not always getting your way. It's a fine line to walk, because I do want both of them to be assertive as they grow up.

[silverjm]

He seems to lean towards being a leader. He's good at leading with younger kids, or in small groups, but he's not very assertive. So, if there's a stronger leader in the group, he falls into more of a follower role, or just gets frustrated and does something solo.

[fryjack2]

Henry is a leader in the sense that kids always want to hang out with him.

Jack does his own thing and gives no shits.

[muppetinma]

Andrew is a leader. He's a stubborn know-it-all, so clearly he has to lead, because he's convinced that everybody else is doing it wrong.

[bebeetmoi]

Baaaahahaha I love that about A, jamaicam!! Smart boy;)

DD is a leader. Even when playing with older kids, she seems to be the one telling everyone what to do. She is very "my way or the highway" (aka stereotypical only child), and we are working on that and maintaining respect for other people's wishes.

[nannerl]

Both of my kids are very much the do their own thing type. A can occupy himself for hours and when he's with peers he will frequently go off on his own. H is more of a joiner, but I wouldn't really call him much of a leader or follower. He sort of just goes with the flow or goes off on his own, whatever he feels like at the time.

[fusion]

J likes to lead, A follows, D is just a punk right now but has leader characteristics

[bean47]

With familiar people, Olivia leads some but also follows. In new situations, she follows.

Claire is a follower but is starting to test the waters with her sister and it doesn't go particularly well!

[teamhayes]

M is a leader
He gets pissed if he isn't first in just about anything

K does his own thing

[sunflowers7]

Both leaders. Amelia has no problem telling her brothers friends off and what to do.

[mumegs]

M is like me, she is very easygoing. Usually if another kid will say let's do x she will say ok. Sometimes she will get fed up if she's always the follower though and will go off and do her own thing.
She has an older cousin that she is very close with that she will follow into doing things she knows are wrong so I've been talking to her about how just because B makes bad choices doesn't mean she should too and it's ok to say no to her.

[chirpchirp]

With older kids, W is a follower, but in her own age group or younger she wants to be the leader. Her closest friends her own age are the same (very headstrong) so it makes for some very dramatic play dates. I'm anxious to see how she does once she starts school

[jsillyfun]

Omg May is the definition of a leader lol. She found a group of older boys at the park and had them all following her orders in no time! Clara is a little more of a follower with May but seems to hold her own with other kids.

[katfco]

Caleb likes to do his own thing. He'll follow his sister, but he also has no problem standing up and saying when things aren't cool.

Abby is in the age she's uncertain about herself. When she's among her peers, she's less comfortable standing up for herself in conflict.